Grandma

[KJoslyn78]

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[KJoslyn78]

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[lynsage]

I didn't see your first post, but I assume you lost your grandmother. I was totally devastated when my grandma died and I hope you are finding a way to cope.

[whitneymum]

Haven't been on in days so I just noticed this post.

I lost my grandmum, who had been the one to raise me and rescue me from all my mother's chaos, the one who belived in me and every wacky scheme and idea I came up with. She died 7 years ago, 3 days after my 30th birthday...and no one thought much of it. There was no one else I knew had a grandmum who was that close to them (though she lived 1500 miles away by then).

People just don't look at the death of a grandparent like they do when you lose a parent. Some people don't see what they meant to you.
Try not to be mad about it.

She meant something wonderful to you, and she was special in your life and she added to who you are in some way. She was a connection to a part of your life that's passed. And no one can belittle that or remove your memories or take your grief over her loss. She was yours. I hate that we not only have to grieve the loss of a person when they die, but also grieve who you were to that person, your role. I am no longer anyone's granddaugter, no longer claimed by someone..and that is something to mourn as well.

Don't let the fact that no one responded add to your sadness. Some folks just don't know what to say(not saying that I do)

But I get it...and I'm sorry your grandma died. You don't have to stop loving her or lose your memories..the role that you lost becomes the memories that you keep.


may you find some peace this day

[KJoslyn78]

Originally Posted by whitneymum

People just don't look at the death of a grandparent like they do when you lose a parent. Some people don't see what they meant to you.
Try not to be mad about it.

post of my original post was about this. I have already lost both my parents... this is the last of "my family". All my grandparents and parents are dead. My 2 younger brother have their own lives/family/etc now... and while i do have a couple nice aunts/uncles - they also have their own families to think and care for. And while i do have some AWESOME in-laws... it's still not not the same, ykwim?

Losing my grandma is losing the final piece of my father i had left on this earth. And that thought is earth shattering in and of itself.

I am glad and grateful that my grandmother got to live a full life (she was 91), died peacefully, and is now at peace., after being sick and lonely for many years. and that is what i am trying to hold onto and remember, the good times, and that she deserved to be at peace.

[whitneymum]

i totally get what your saying...my grandmum was the last family I had. She was last to share my memories of childhood and of my mother.

I'm sorry you lost someone you loved, and I'm sorry more folks don't take the time to acknowledge that.