I think we are at the point of considering returning him to the rescue. I know pets aren't disposable, but there are just too many issues to work on and too many other things going on right now. And you're right, we aren't enjoying Bob. It's become all about "managing" him. I wasn't ready to consider this 6 or 7 weeks ago, but I'm just worn down. My grandma is moving here tomorrow (to a retirement community and will be on hospice for lung cancer), and I will be her coordinator of care. And we have to close early on selling our current home to avoid losing our buyer. Which means in addition to getting my grandma settled in, I have to pack up and move in the next two weeks. I'm looking for rental now. Short term leases have big deposits and we'll have to pay at least $600 in pet deposits for a 2 month lease, only half of which is refundable. And that's only if the dogs don't ruin the carpet and doors---not likely with Bob.
I think it's the right thing to do for our family, but I'm still sad about it. He's been ours for 6 months now. I can't imagine not knowing how he's doing or how people are treating him.