I am 5 months pregnant and it is sooooo painful to nurse any more. We are weaned altogether EXCEPT nightime nursing to sleep. It's the only way my 2 year old son has gotten to sleep for all these two years and he just can't sleep without it. It's a nightmare. Apparently my milk flow is very minimal or the milk tastes bitter, since for the last few weeks my son has said, "not working" when trying to nurse to sleep. But once it "stops working" he is UP, bam, completely wound up. Jumping or crying, kicking or sobbing, playing or trying to crawl off the bed, trying to sleep but not being able to, snuggling with me or pinching my nipples, cuddling with me or grabbing at my breasts, sobbing and wiggling and just being utterly, completely exhausted. He hasn't been able to fall asleep till 10 or 10:30 -- tonight it was 10:40.
I've tried having my husband do bedtime instead of me but he just sobs, for two hours, "mama, mama, mama. Find mommy, find mommy." etc.
I've tried earlier bedtimes. No luck. Bottles of warm almond milk, which he loves, but doesn't get him to sleep. Calms forte. Chamomile tea. A shot of whisky (kidding!).
We talk about it during the day. About how he is a "big boy" and nursing is for little babies like the one in mommy's belly. He seems to understand that and has been fine about cutting out the other nursings. But he can't get to sleep without it. We talk about mama's nursies "not working" and how we need to learn to sleep without nursing. He'll try nursing and look at me as if to convince me that they're "working" saying, "working! working!" But then a few minutes later it's clearly not working and he starts crying. "Not working, not working," then it's all over. Of course I've also tried a few days at a time of not even trying to nurse, but then he's just absolutely hysterical, totally beside himself.
Sometimes I just keep him up reading till like 9:30 when he's sooo tired, and then he falls asleep within a few moments of nursing before it "stops working." But I do want him to learn how to sleep without nursing.
We still have everything in place but nursing: bath, stories, same songs, books, same nighttime ritual. He gets so tired and almost every night asks to go to sleep ("lights off") around 8-8:30pm, but then if he can't nurse to sleep he's totally up for the next 2-3 hours. This has been going on for at least two weeks now, maybe even three.
I've read here and heard from other mamas in the same pregnancy-but-nursing boat that at some point the child just self-weans b/c of milk flow or taste problems. I wish that would happen! But I don't see any end to this. It's just utterly exhausting for everyone, and so traumatic for him.
What do I do? I'm at a complete loss. Thank you!