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post #21 of 29
I am just finding your post. I am sorry for your loss. Pets become a true part of our family and I understand the loss all too well.
There is some comfort in knowing that he lived longer than ever expected and that you were able to have him humanely euthanized - by a caring familly member no less!
post #22 of 29
I am so sorry, but I am glad he was able to go peacefully.
post #23 of 29
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I am okay. I am not sad or depressed or upset. He was one of 3 cats, and I felt that we had too many cats and maintenance was draining on me. Before we had children, our cats were our children. But since we had children, we don't feel that strong connection to our cats anymore -- they are, in fact, JUST our pets.

Mulder was deteriorating for a long time. When DH brought him in on Friday the Vet said it was the right decision -- his eyes were jaundiced and his liver was failing. He lost a lot of his body fat. It was the right time.

I was nervous that DH would be upset about it like he was with Neelix, but I haven't really noticed a change in him like we did when Neelix died. The situation around Neelix was completely different though. We didn't have kids at the time, so our cats were still our "children" at this point. He also died very suddenly. He was happy, running around, eating, etc. The next day -- dead! (Cardiomyopathy). Neelix was also the cat who played with us all the time, playing fetch, etc.

We have two cats still living. Dax is a cuddler -- he'll sit in our laps when we are at the computer, he sleeps with us (usually with DH). Blaze is the youngest (just over 8 years old) and is still a very active cat. He plays with us all the time and loves playing fetch. It will hurt more when Dax and Blaze go. But we've made peace with Mulder's death -- he had a good, long life.
post #24 of 29
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Originally Posted by Kivgaen View Post
I am okay. I am not sad or depressed or upset. He was one of 3 cats, and I felt that we had too many cats and maintenance was draining on me. Before we had children, our cats were our children. But since we had children, we don't feel that strong connection to our cats anymore -- they are, in fact, JUST our pets.

Mulder was deteriorating for a long time. When DH brought him in on Friday the Vet said it was the right decision -- his eyes were jaundiced and his liver was failing. He lost a lot of his body fat. It was the right time.

I was nervous that DH would be upset about it like he was with Neelix, but I haven't really noticed a change in him like we did when Neelix died. The situation around Neelix was completely different though. We didn't have kids at the time, so our cats were still our "children" at this point. He also died very suddenly. He was happy, running around, eating, etc. The next day -- dead! (Cardiomyopathy). Neelix was also the cat who played with us all the time, playing fetch, etc.

We have two cats still living. Dax is a cuddler -- he'll sit in our laps when we are at the computer, he sleeps with us (usually with DH). Blaze is the youngest (just over 8 years old) and is still a very active cat. He plays with us all the time and loves playing fetch. It will hurt more when Dax and Blaze go. But we've made peace with Mulder's death -- he had a good, long life.
I was shocked at the depth of my DH's sadness when we put our C down.

Like what you describe, our cats were our children prior to having a real, human child. I said this before on MDC but I think it is a dirty little secret that many people won't admit but relationships with "children" pets do change after having a real child.

Also, like you describe, I was worn down by the maintenance. We were just on the cusp of it being too much work. By too much work, I mean the constant care was in danger of taking away from positive family function. My DH would start getting anixous at 3pm in the afternoon about dealing with X, Y and Z health issues he knew would occupy the better part of two hours once we arrived at home. I was starting to be resentful because I didn't want to scrub pee off the floor for the 3rd time each day. DS couldn't understand why we would get upset when he was "playing" with C and we were constantly saying "leave her alone!"

Glad to hear you and Mulder are at peace now.
post #25 of 29
I had a stray wander into my life a few months ago, he hated people but I managed to gain his trust and I loved him and he seemed to adore me but he was so sick, he had really bad FGS, he just constantly dripped puss from his mouth and he smelled so bad. Everyone wanted to put him down but I HAD to give him a chance.

We are poor and really couldn't afford his care, antibiotics, blood tests etc but we did it anyway, I cuoldn't just let him go when he deserved so much more, I needed to know we tried everything. He brought demodectic and sarcoptic mange into the house, we all suffered lol.

He was put down a few weeks a go and I was gutted but I guess I knew it was time. At least he had a few months of having a home, food, love, warmth etc. he was a really loving cat once you gained his trust and I am most gutted. Unfortunately, even though he did improve for a while, he got a really bad flare and was no longer able to eat, he was under 3 kg.

He was called Wretch-Ed, my DH named him because he was such a pitiful sight.

Had someone actually cared for him (he had obvious signs of abuse so I don't think he had a very good life at all really) he needn't have reached that point and we did what we did......

I guess this doesn't help with your cat but I am hoping that you know I understand how you feel because I lost my buddy not so long ago, and he was my buddy. I had been told end of last year that I was unlikely to be able to have a job due to illness, we rely on benefits etc and life hasn't been easy and I lost hope and when Wretch came along, I found hope again, it all sounds so weird now. I dunno, I am still gutted........
post #26 of 29
My in-laws kept their dog alive for years after I would have had it put down. When they finally did have her put down, she was 17 years old - crazy old for a lab mix. It opened my eyes to how selfish owners can be when it comes to prolonging the life of a pet they love. Their dog has colon-rectal cancer and they went through 2 surgeries, medicines, daily enemas, and a high-fiber diet (that the dog hated) during the last couple of years. She'd also had terrible arthritis for about the last 5-6 years and hadn't been able to go up and down steps in their house or even jump up onto the beds anymore.

On a slightly funny note, my mom asked me why they hadn't put their dog down yet and my reply was, "Because they love her so much. If it was me with colon-rectal cancer that bad, they would have put me down months ago." (and I have a pretty good relationship with my in-laws, but they certainly will never love me like they loved that dog!)
post #27 of 29
A bit OT, but where did Blaze get his name? I get Mulder, Dax, and Neelix, but not Blaze. Just a name, or did I miss a good sci-fi show?

Also - I have 3 cats as well... and yep. They used to be our babies but now are just pets. I am still very attached to Tennyson, but he's my old man and the only one who did not pee all over my house or attack me when I was pregnant. Boy cats are the best cats.
post #28 of 29
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A bit OT, but where did Blaze get his name? I get Mulder, Dax, and Neelix, but not Blaze. Just a name, or did I miss a good sci-fi show?

Also - I have 3 cats as well... and yep. They used to be our babies but now are just pets. I am still very attached to Tennyson, but he's my old man and the only one who did not pee all over my house or attack me when I was pregnant. Boy cats are the best cats.
LOL... very observant! Actually, BLAZE wasn't named by us He was already registered and had his name given to him by the breeder (his full name was Blazenfudge, if you can believe it!) We despised his full name, but we could live with "blaze". We couldn't be bothered with changing it and eventually it grew on us.

We always wanted a cat named Schrodinger, but that's too long to say. So we named him Schrodinger Dax, and called him "Dax" when we spoke to him. (It fitted well with the theme: Curzon Dax, Jadzia Dax, Ezri Dax, etc. )
post #29 of 29
Blazenfudge? That's quite the name. lol, I see why he's just Blaze.
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