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post #41 of 77

Very newly pregnant, and nursing my 2yo ds.  I do NOT want to tandem, though I think that is great and would try if he were younger.  I am trying to figure out when the best time and way will be to wean.  Thankfully, no nipple soreness yet, but when I was pregnant last time I had major breast soreness and wasn't nursing.  I think about winter and want to keep his immune system up through cold season, but also want to wean well before baby #2, so there is no jealously or the like. 

post #42 of 77
Hi all!

Newly pregnant nursing a 19 month old who is nursing constantly. I'm planing on tandem nursing but I have no idea how that will work at night. We cosleep and dd is up nursing 2x.a.night but I figure she needs it.
post #43 of 77

I am about 4 week pregnant right now with #2 and am still nursing my 22 month old DD, who incidentally nurses a lot.  So far I have not had any issues, nipple soreness or pain, and am hoping to keep it that way.  I plan to let her continue to nurse as long as she wants.  I figure that if she continues nursing at this rate my milk supply will stay up and I will probably be tandem nursing next summer!  Actually I look forward to it!

post #44 of 77

Hi,

 I'm due 7/29/11 so we just found out we're pg with #2.  DS is almost 15 months and I'm still nursing him usually 4 times during the day and once (or twice or sometimes not) in the night.  I haven't experienced any pain yet.  I dont know how I feed about weaning yet.  I wonder how nursing two, if he kept nursing after delivery, will be.  I like being able to nurse him when he gets cranky in the afternoon- it always works like a charm. How do you best support yourself and the pregnancy while nursing?  I'm not stressing about supply.  I'm assuming that if it drops and DS wants it he'll nurse more and I'll make more, although I dont know how that works when pg   

 
I'm also nervous because DH and I are going away in April, around 24 weeks, for 10 days. yikes.  (it was planned before this little peanut showed up)  I'm not sure if I should try to wean him before we go or just go and hope he does OK.  I work 2 days a week currently and when I'm at work he doesn't take much milk in the sippy.  I feel guilty to wean him on my accord, even though he'd be about 20 months. 

post #45 of 77
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Originally Posted by teafairy View Post

Very newly pregnant, and nursing my 2yo ds.  I do NOT want to tandem, though I think that is great and would try if he were younger.  I am trying to figure out when the best time and way will be to wean.  Thankfully, no nipple soreness yet, but when I was pregnant last time I had major breast soreness and wasn't nursing.  I think about winter and want to keep his immune system up through cold season, but also want to wean well before baby #2, so there is no jealously or the like. 


This is what I'm thinking.  I'm not against tandem but I feel like since he'll be 23 months when #2 is born, it might be better jealousy wise to wean him before.  What do you experienced mamas think?

 

If I did wean him before LO#2 I'd want to do it before April just because of our trip.  but how in the heck do you do it?!?! 

post #46 of 77

I'm not experienced in tandem nursing, but jealousy is exactly one reason why I hope *to* tandem.  If this spark sticks and arrives when I think it will, my son will be 28.5 months-old when he gets his sibling.  My little guy is very much still a big nurser and I'm hoping he keeps it up.  I've only read, but not experienced, that tandem nursing can help with sibling relations.  On the other hand, if you're set on weaning, I guess it does make sense to do so *before* the newbie comes along and not *when* it arrives.  I am hoping and praying to be able to tandem, though.

post #47 of 77

I'm not really set either way.  If I wasn't going on a trip in April I would for sure just let him do what ever he wanted to do.  So maybe that answers my question... maybe I just pump while I'm gone and leave him with milk and hope he picks back up when I get home.

post #48 of 77

I am 5 1/2 weeks along and nursing my 13-month-old boy.  He nurses a lot!  I seem to still have plenty of milk and no nipple pain yet so that's good.  I am nervous about the possibility of losing my milk, but my plan is to keep the nursing relationship going as much as possible through my whole pregnancy (he will be 22 months when LO is born so I am in no hurry to wean him) and I guess I'm going to see how tandem nursing goes!  I had never planned on it, but I also didn't plan to be pregnant again so soon, so I'm just going to play it by ear and hopefully it'll all work out great!

 

I had horrible problems with engorgement/mastitis the first few months with DS, so I am really looking forward to having him around to help release the pressure of engorged boobs!

 

I'm trying to drink tons of water and eat really well, and I'm hoping for the best!

post #49 of 77


 

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Very newly pregnant, and nursing my 2yo ds.  I do NOT want to tandem, though I think that is great and would try if he were younger.  I am trying to figure out when the best time and way will be to wean.  Thankfully, no nipple soreness yet, but when I was pregnant last time I had major breast soreness and wasn't nursing.  I think about winter and want to keep his immune system up through cold season, but also want to wean well before baby #2, so there is no jealously or the like. 


This is what I'm thinking.  I'm not against tandem but I feel like since he'll be 23 months when #2 is born, it might be better jealousy wise to wean him before.  What do you experienced mamas think?

 

If I did wean him before LO#2 I'd want to do it before April just because of our trip.  but how in the heck do you do it?!?! 


I know most people on MDC are not for mama-led weaning, so I'll just hope for no flames here...but I'll share my story.

 

With dd2 once she got to be about 15 months old I just had trouble with nursing her, mostly mentally I guess, though a toddler nursing feels really different than an infant.  I was not pregnant but did have tons of stress in my life at that time.  I started cutting just one nursing session a month.  At 17-18 months, I nightweaned her, cold turkey, just told her mama's breasts needed to sleep for the night and she could have milk when she woke up.  Obviously nursing down to sleep was the last 2 nursing sessions to go.  At 22 months old, my husband started helping put her down every other night, so at that point, she was only nursing down to sleep at bedtime every other day, everything else was gone.  When I just didn't do it one night, she wasn't too phased at all.  It was a really gentle weaning, no tears involved, except for some mild protests when I nightweaned her, but she was easily soothed other ways and was old enough to understand what I was saying.  I felt pretty good with nursing her until she was almost 2.  You should feel no pressure to nurse him through your whole pregnancy if it doesn't feel right to you.  I've never had the opportunity to tandem nurse, my milk always dries up during pregnancy and my babies wean on their own (hoping so badly that the current babe does now though! I'd really like to tandem this time), but I will say that I've never had any jealousy problems.  So although people say that tandem nursing helps with jealousy, I wouldn't be too concerned that your son will have problems just because you don't.  My kids have all adjusted to the new sibling just fine, even if they were still very mommy attached.  My last child did not wean until I was 7 months pregnant and she couldn't remember how to nurse by the time the baby was born and never asked to (I offered a few times, kind of hoping).  Nursing was all for the baby.  I kind of thought she might be upset or want to nurse again, or something, but she didn't.  I hope this helps just a bit.  Of course, you'll have plenty of support here if you do choose to nurse him all the way through and tandem nurse, but maybe not as much support to go ahead and wean.  It's a highly personal decision.

post #50 of 77

Thanks, Alisha!  I certainly didn't/don't want to rock the boat.  I know I will do whatever works best for my ds and baby to be, as does everyone here :) 

post #51 of 77
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This is what I'm thinking.  I'm not against tandem but I feel like since he'll be 23 months when #2 is born, it might be better jealousy wise to wean him before.  What do you experienced mamas think?

 

If I did wean him before LO#2 I'd want to do it before April just because of our trip.  but how in the heck do you do it?!?! 




All of my kiddos were about 2 yrs apart. I found tandem nursing to be very helpful with bonding and avoiding jealousy. It was also extremely helpful with engorgement in those early days.
 

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I'm not experienced in tandem nursing, but jealousy is exactly one reason why I hope *to* tandem.  If this spark sticks and arrives when I think it will, my son will be 28.5 months-old when he gets his sibling.  My little guy is very much still a big nurser and I'm hoping he keeps it up.  I've only read, but not experienced, that tandem nursing can help with sibling relations.  On the other hand, if you're set on weaning, I guess it does make sense to do so *before* the newbie comes along and not *when* it arrives.  I am hoping and praying to be able to tandem, though.




I am an experienced tandem nurser. I have nursed 3 different tandem diads and the experience has been different each time. I have found it to be very helpful with bonding and avoidance of jealousy. When I am nursing they baby they can nurse too so they never feel left out. My favorite part of tandem nursing is being able to know where my active toddler is and watching them hold hands and interact. It is very sweet. My second set I could not nurse at the same time it just drove me nuts but ds 2 was great at waiting (ds 1 and ds3 would never have waited) so it worked out.
 

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I'm not really set either way.  If I wasn't going on a trip in April I would for sure just let him do what ever he wanted to do.  So maybe that answers my question... maybe I just pump while I'm gone and leave him with milk and hope he picks back up when I get home.



I don't know how old your ds will be or how long you will be gone but I went away for 3 days in oct. for our anniversary (that is how we got on this ddc. lol) and did need a pump but dd was ready as soon as I got back and it didn't affect her nursing at all.

2 yrs ago I went for the same ammt of time but was pg and didn't even need to bring a pump bcs I just didn't have much milk. ds3 was ready and willing as soon as I returned.

 

As far as weaning goes I have done mommy led weaning with all of my kids between 3 and 3.5. That is just the time that I have been tandeming about 1 yr and am ready to be done. We usually start by initiating specific nursing times and then slowly cutting those out of the day until just morning and night are left then we take out the least important then the last one is scheduled ot be removed at the weaning party. We have a big party with booby cupcakes, candy, decorations. the whole deal. We sing a no more na na song and then my dad takes them to disneyland. When they come back they don't nurse anymore. We have done it 3x now and it works great. I also don't have any guilt for weaning them bcs I think they get a pretty good deal. lol

post #52 of 77

 

 

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I don't know how old your ds will be or how long you will be gone but I went away for 3 days in oct. for our anniversary (that is how we got on this ddc. lol) and did need a pump but dd was ready as soon as I got back and it didn't affect her nursing at all.

2 yrs ago I went for the same ammt of time but was pg and didn't even need to bring a pump bcs I just didn't have much milk. ds3 was ready and willing as soon as I returned.

 

As far as weaning goes I have done mommy led weaning with all of my kids between 3 and 3.5. That is just the time that I have been tandeming about 1 yr and am ready to be done. We usually start by initiating specific nursing times and then slowly cutting those out of the day until just morning and night are left then we take out the least important then the last one is scheduled ot be removed at the weaning party. We have a big party with booby cupcakes, candy, decorations. the whole deal. We sing a no more na na song and then my dad takes them to disneyland. When they come back they don't nurse anymore. We have done it 3x now and it works great. I also don't have any guilt for weaning them bcs I think they get a pretty good deal. lol

Nicole, this is good to hear. I just found out that in order to get the straight teeth I've always wanted/needed, I'll not only need 2 years of braces, but a 3 part jaw surgery also! Yikes!! And of course I won't be doing it for a while, now that I'm pregnant and will be nursing. So I've been trying to think ahead and plan when/how I'll do this, since I'll be in the hospital for a few days during/after the surgery, and then be on pain meds, antibiotics, etc for a bit after the surgery, and don't want the baby exposed to all those meds through my breastmilk. I was thinking last night that if I'm able to do the surgery, I should work it to where this baby is 2-3 years old, and it'll be more "okay" to wean. 

post #53 of 77
Question about nursing while pregnant: I read that although milk letdown might trigger an intense wave of nausea for some women (I've already been experiencing this) that nursing while pregnant can reduce overall morning sickness.

I'm 5 1/2 weeks now and I'm pretty queasy a lot of the time, but by this time in my last pregnancy the nausea was constant and incapacitating. So far my morning sickness is definitely not as intense. I might be speaking too soon though, lol!

Does anyone know if the nursing/less ms connection is true, and if so why that would be?
post #54 of 77

i don't know that it is the nursing but last pregnancy the nausea was pretty sever and this time it has been a lot milder. i have also read that exercise helps with morning sickness. both nursing and exercise are things that can help regulate hormones which is why they are thought to work.

post #55 of 77

Nursing while pregnant has ever made a difference for me with morning sickness.  It comes just as badly at about the same time, every time.  Except pregnancy #3 in which it was by far worse than any of the others and lasted MUCH longer.  However, my husband deployed when I was 13 weeks and of course when I found out I was pregnant I knew he would be leaving soon, so my stress level was a whole lot higher than with any of my other pregnancies.  I think the stress is probably what made the morning sickness so much worse.

post #56 of 77

Just got the positive last night and still nursing my 19 months old.  This will be my first time nursing while pregnant but I have no plans to stop just because I am.  So far I haven't had too much pain or tenderness but I think the taste of my milk may have changed based off DS's reaction to it (confused look).  Oh, and I wanted to share this recipe I got from a fellow doula.

 

Lactation Cookies


1 cup *butter*
1 cup *sugar*
1 cup firmly packed *brown sugar*
4 tablespoons *water*
2 tablespoons *flax seed meal*
2 *eggs*
1 teaspoon *vanilla*
2 cups *flour*
1 teaspoon *baking soda*
1 teaspoon *salt*
3 cups *oats*
1 cup *chocolate chips*
2-4 tablespoons *brewer's yeast*

Preheat oven to 350°.

1. Mix the flaxseed meal and water and let sit for 3-5 minutes.
2. Beat butter, sugar, and brown sugar well.
3. Add eggs and mix well.
4. Add flaxseed mix and vanilla; beat well.
5. Sift together flour, brewer's yeast, baking soda, and salt.
6. Add dry ingredients to butter mix.
7. Stir in oats and chips.
8. Scoop onto baking sheet.
9. Bake for 12 minutes.
10. Let set for a couple minutes then remove from tray.

post #57 of 77

MMM!  I love me some lactation cookies.  For extra oat-y goodness, I've found that subbing up to half of the regular flour with oat flour works well.  The cookies will be a little lighter and less chewy, of course, but they're still very good.

 

I'm hoping to stick around here.  I've had two losses in the past three months, so I'm still feeling extremely tentative, but they were very early losses, so maybe I will eventually feel comfortable adding my name to the July Roll Call (I'm 5w2d and waiting until at *least* 6w to even allow myself to call myself pregnant, which is another story completely).  Anyway, my son will be 21-months on Sunday.  Still nursing tons and it is my hope to continue through pregnancy and eventually tandem.  He has *not* been sleeping well and has been waking and nursing even more than usual at night, but it could be molars coming in.  He is a big-time nurser...hope we can keep it up!

post #58 of 77

Could my supply be dropping already?  I am about 6wks and my ds was up every hour last night asking for milkies.  I am exhausted, and my breasts are getting very tender.

post #59 of 77

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Could my supply be dropping already?  I am about 6wks and my ds was up every hour last night asking for milkies.  I am exhausted, and my breasts are getting very tender.

 

I was just coming here to ask the same thing.  I am only about 5 wks and was up all night nursing.  I think that must be what's happening.
 

post #60 of 77

I got pregnant with my daughter when my son was a year, and still nursing. He continued to nurse for a few months into the pregnancy, but my supply dried up, he ended up weaning himself. maybe the same might happen for you?

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