Originally Posted by crunchy_mommy
Well it sounds like there is an imbalance if he goes out without checking your schedule. Have you talked to him about that? Could you ask him to check in with you so you can feel more free to make plans as well (or Tuesdays he can go out, Thursdays you get to go out?) Are there things you can do on your own that you would enjoy? I struggle with my social life as well, it seems like 'something came up' for my friends every time I tried to plan something so I'm back in 'not making plans' mode & trying to work up the mental energy to try again. But at the same time, I'm also trying to come up with some things I can do on my own... I'm thinking of joining a gym, for example.
Anyway, yes, I do feel a little envious of DH's life at times. I work at home and he works at the office. I miss having that social outlet. I envy him the breaks he gets from DS's crankiness, that half hour lunch where he owes nothing to anyone, and being able to focus on his career (vs. me barely keeping up with work because DS is my main focus)... But then he comes home miserable because some work gossip got taken out of context and caused major office drama, or he gets stuck in a huge traffic jam, or he feels like he missed out on the fun activities I do with DS, and I feel like maybe my life isn't worse than his after all. I know it's different because both of you work out of the home but I think many of us experience that 'grass is greener on the other side' thing... maybe your DH wishes he didn't have to travel so much, for ex. But I would really try to find a few things that would give you some personal satisfaction. What about something social but with a set schedule (like a kickboxing class or a book club)? Then you would have something to look forward to that's not likely to get canceled... and don't totally give up on your current friends either...
I used to take art classes, but then that became expensive and I had the boys and my time was taken up with them and DH's travel schedule became inconsistent, so I had to work around that......
A book club is not a bad idea at all although I don't have much time to read anymore it seems like, maybe it would give me the initiative to do more reading!
And yes, I hear where you're coming from about the grass being greener. While his industry is fun and his job is hard, but yet fun, the traveling does get to him while the mundane job that I do also gets to me.
If I'm not a the gym, then I also go running outside when he's home and that's a good 30 mins to an hour of 'me' time.