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Poll Results: Are you finding out the sex?

 
  • 48% (24)
    Yes
  • 38% (19)
    No
  • 12% (6)
    Maybe/Not sure yet
49 Total Votes  
post #21 of 32
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Originally Posted by minkajane View Post
I didn't find out with DS. I was excited to find out when he was born, but it wasn't as cool as I was hoping because he was a C/S and there was no big "It's a boy!" announcement or anything, I just happened to hear the doctor say to one of the nurses, "Oh, she thought it was a girl." I'm torn with this one. I'd love to have the big "It's a ______!" moment, but I'd also love to have a name picked out for sure, maybe get some stuff embroidered with the name, and I know DS is dying to know.
Wow, I haven't read any of the responses yet, but couldn't help but reply to this. Yikes, what a lame doctor!

In theory I'd like to not know this time around, but it's just not going to happen that way. I didn't find out with my last and it was such an awesome moment! My husband had known the whole time but I didn't know that he knew - he had gotten the info from my doc's office but told me that he didn't. He's a heck of a secret-keeper, but he wouldn't be able to pull that off again.

When my son was born, my doc knew I didn't know, and at the moment my babe was born he said to everyone in the room, "Shhhh, she doesn't know." Quiet fell over the room, and after several long seconds of me just getting over the fact that I had evaded a Csection after a very long and hard labor, I finally pulled it together to see my son and said, "It's a boy" through emotional tears. I'll never forget it.
post #22 of 32
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Originally Posted by Pavlovs View Post
Wow, I haven't read any of the responses yet, but couldn't help but reply to this. Yikes, what a lame doctor!
She really was, just all around! At the time, I thought it was funny, because I said, "Oh, it's a boy?" and she said, "From this angle!" Well, I was all loopy on the meds, so I didn't really think about it at the time. But the more I think about, the more I realize just how sucky that was. That makes me lean a lot more towards not finding out.

She also mocked me a bit because I'd just had an appointment the day before where we'd scheduled an external version (for 39 weeks, so it probably wouldn't have worked anyway!) and the very next day my water broke - like I can control that! And then two months later we had an appointment because I was having a lot of pain with sex and the first thing she asked was if I'd had an episiotomy. Uh, YOU did my C-section! Yeah, I didn't have the greatest of experiences with the military docs.
post #23 of 32
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Originally Posted by bleumoose View Post
The last question, about if the baby turns out to be different from your assumptions, that can be difficult. It happened to me with DS1. I was SURE the baby was a girl, didn't even think it was possible for me to have a boy. When he turned out to be a boy, I was a little disappointed. I think it contributed to the difficulty I had postpartum.. not quite PPD, but more than baby blues.
this same thing happened to me, except i did find out the sex. so the sensation just came 20 weeks earlier. it would be impossible to know if it helped me get past the disappointment quicker post-birth to have known the sex earlier.
post #24 of 32
I'm not sure yet if we're going to find out this time. We have a few weeks until the appointment.

We did not find out with Dd1 and it was awesome to find out at birth.

We did find out with Dd2 and it was also awesome. I decided to find out with her because after 3 m/c I wasn't bonding with her the same way I had with dd1. Finding out really helped.

It's fun either way, but I didn't feel more or less prepared because I found out.
post #25 of 32
We are not, but I am temped. But we won't. I have a feeling it's a girl based on different symptoms and a lower heartrate - has that been the case with anyone else? DS' heartrate was usually in the 160s and this one is 130s.
post #26 of 32
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Originally Posted by CookAMH View Post
We are not, but I am temped. But we won't. I have a feeling it's a girl based on different symptoms and a lower heartrate - has that been the case with anyone else? DS' heartrate was usually in the 160s and this one is 130s.
I always thought the old wives tale was the opposite, higher for girls, lower for boys. DD1 160s, DD2 150s, this one 160s and I totally feel like this is a girl.
post #27 of 32
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Originally Posted by hannybanany View Post
I always thought the old wives tale was the opposite, higher for girls, lower for boys. DD1 160s, DD2 150s, this one 160s and I totally feel like this is a girl.
A friend was telling me today that it was the opposite for her. Lower for girls-higher for boys! This one has been 160 and above at all my appt's so who knows. We will find out at our anatomy scan in 3 1/2 weeks. I just like knowing!
post #28 of 32
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Originally Posted by hannybanany View Post
I always thought the old wives tale was the opposite, higher for girls, lower for boys. DD1 160s, DD2 150s, this one 160s and I totally feel like this is a girl.
That's what I've read too, but both my boys were in the 160s. This one has been 150 and the 145. I don't think the others were ever lower than maybe 155.
post #29 of 32
Our decision not to find out isn't so much based on wanting to be surprised by the sex, as it is based on deciding not to get an ultrasound. I do think it's kind of fun to wait unti the birth to find out, but if for some reason an ultrasound was indicated, and we got one, we would probably go ahead and find out the gender.

So, no one, including our midwife will know the gender until the baby is born.
post #30 of 32
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Originally Posted by bleumoose View Post
That's what I've read too, but both my boys were in the 160s. This one has been 150 and the 145. I don't think the others were ever lower than maybe 155.
That's interesting! I've kinda secretly thought I was having a girl with a HR so high but we would love a boy since that would even out the boys and girls around here. But whatever we have will be fine!
post #31 of 32
I love the surprise of not knowing. Last time after having 4 girls, it was so much fun at the time of delivery to find out the baby was a boy. Totally unexpected. It wouldn't have been as exciting to have found out on the u/s that they think they see a turtle sign = penis.

We won't find out this time either. It's fun to keep guessing.
post #32 of 32
I guess maybe there is no correlation according to this quick search result:

http://www.in-gender.com/Gender-Pred...eart-Rate.aspx

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Contrary to beliefs commonly held by many pregnant women and their families, there are no significant differences between male and female fetal heart rate during the first trimester.
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