talking to others with tact and sensitivity

[hummingbear]

I have three friends all whom I thought would be advocates for leaving their sons intact and I was shocked (and upset) to see that they had chosen to circumcise their sons. So I realized that it is important to talk! I talked to another friend who is due in April and am relieved to find out that if whe has a boy she will not circumcise.

So I am thinking that I want to talk to the ones who did circumcise. But I don't want to aggravate them or necessarily bring something to their attention that would upset them. AND I think that if more who have done it realize that it was a mistake then they may be a powerful voice for leaving baby boys intact.

So have any of you talked to friends after the fact? And was the conversation welcome? or upsetting? or useful?

Or any of you out there who chose to circumcise and then came to think differently becasue of a conversation witha friend?

Ann

[mom2tig99Nroo03]

no. i idnt change my mind till i got more information. a friend had nothing to do with it.

[Ocean_Swimmer]

Tact and sensitivity

Originally posted by hummingbear
I have three friends all whom I thought would be advocates for leaving their sons intact and I was shocked (and upset) to see that they had chosen to circumcise their sons. So I realized that it is important to talk! I talked to another friend who is due in April and am relieved to find out that if whe has a boy she will not circumcise.

So I am thinking that I want to talk to the ones who did circumcise. But I don't want to aggravate them or necessarily bring something to their attention that would upset them. AND I think that if more who have done it realize that it was a mistake then they may be a powerful voice for leaving baby boys intact.

So have any of you talked to friends after the fact? And was the conversation welcome? or upsetting? or useful?

Or any of you out there who chose to circumcise and then came to think differently becasue of a conversation witha friend?

Ann

Hi Ann,
As you know, this issue is a sensitive one, and there's always a risk of the discussion becoming polarized.
It isn't clear (doesn't matter really) if you have a child also--- it's a nice intro to the topic to ask about your friends' decision in a non-threatening way. Each reply to the question 'Why did you choose to circumcise?' will give you clues about how the mom feels about it.
Parenting is also about many issues, not just circumcision. Chances are your friends have much to share about their experiences if you keep your approach supportive and non judgemental.
Keep us posted.

[mattemma04]

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[Frankly Speaking]

I remember when you first came here as Sarah. It was in October of 2002 and you were very concerned. To the point of tears and extreme measures. I am so glad that everything has worked out so well for you! I am also glad that your daughter has become such a staunch ally. She has certainly put her Father on notice in a way no one else could have. :LOL I assume everything is calm and peaceful in your house and you have an understanding. That's so good for you! Congratulations!






Frank

[mattemma04]

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