I have to get this off my chest because it's driving me insane and my dh doesn't want to hear about it anymore. It might be more of a vent.
I'm 25 weeks pregnant with our third. We had a loss at 13 weeks in feb, and had not told anyone about that pregnancy. I'm also about to be 39, so getting pregnant again with a healthy pregnancy is a blessing and we're excited.
Now, I like next door to my mother in law. Ah yes.
We moved here last fall so this is the first time we have been close to family with me pregnant (aside from our loss). We told family about 15 weeks this time, to make sure we passed the milestone of losing our last little one. That was the beginning of August.
I look ENORMOUS for 25 weeks. To the point that people (strangers) have said "must be soon!" and stuff like that, I can't argue with that, my belly is rather large. Plus, with severe tailbone pain, crotch ligaments pulling in every direction and a preexisting disc injury, I walk like I'm 400 years old at this point.
Now, my mother in law has not mentioned this pregnancy since we told them.
At that time she said "oh i didn't know you wanted another" and "I guess you need to get another carseat"? That was it.
She is so bizarre.
She sees me all the time in the yard or with the kids, she lives right next door. She has NOT ONCE asked about the pregnancy, or even said "how are you feeling?" I'm not saying I need someone to dote on me, but she never asked if found out the sex, if we had an US, if the baby is healthy...nothing. Shows no interest. I mean, don't normal people say things like "how are you" when you see someone? Pregnant or not? I always ask her, "oh how are you" when I see her. She never says anything back. It's just bizarre. My dh and her do not get along (he is an only child, she has no other kids but him) and he says that is normal, she is too self centered to care.
I just think it's bizarre...my family semi stalks me through my mom and is excited for a new baby in the family. I would be that way too, when my boys' wives are pregnant and I am lucky enough to live next door, you bet your life I'll be at least checking in and see how things are, if they need anything, can i help in any way...
How do you act with someone like this?
I never mention it around her, it's like a secret, that is sticking out 18 inches from my pelvis. It makes me ignore it too. I understand that pregnancies are most captivating for the woman who is pregnant, but a little "how are you feeling" or "when are you due" might be in order.
No?
I'm 25 weeks pregnant with our third. We had a loss at 13 weeks in feb, and had not told anyone about that pregnancy. I'm also about to be 39, so getting pregnant again with a healthy pregnancy is a blessing and we're excited.
Now, I like next door to my mother in law. Ah yes.
We moved here last fall so this is the first time we have been close to family with me pregnant (aside from our loss). We told family about 15 weeks this time, to make sure we passed the milestone of losing our last little one. That was the beginning of August.
I look ENORMOUS for 25 weeks. To the point that people (strangers) have said "must be soon!" and stuff like that, I can't argue with that, my belly is rather large. Plus, with severe tailbone pain, crotch ligaments pulling in every direction and a preexisting disc injury, I walk like I'm 400 years old at this point.
Now, my mother in law has not mentioned this pregnancy since we told them.
At that time she said "oh i didn't know you wanted another" and "I guess you need to get another carseat"? That was it.
She is so bizarre.She sees me all the time in the yard or with the kids, she lives right next door. She has NOT ONCE asked about the pregnancy, or even said "how are you feeling?" I'm not saying I need someone to dote on me, but she never asked if found out the sex, if we had an US, if the baby is healthy...nothing. Shows no interest. I mean, don't normal people say things like "how are you" when you see someone? Pregnant or not? I always ask her, "oh how are you" when I see her. She never says anything back. It's just bizarre. My dh and her do not get along (he is an only child, she has no other kids but him) and he says that is normal, she is too self centered to care.
I just think it's bizarre...my family semi stalks me through my mom and is excited for a new baby in the family. I would be that way too, when my boys' wives are pregnant and I am lucky enough to live next door, you bet your life I'll be at least checking in and see how things are, if they need anything, can i help in any way...
How do you act with someone like this?
I never mention it around her, it's like a secret, that is sticking out 18 inches from my pelvis. It makes me ignore it too. I understand that pregnancies are most captivating for the woman who is pregnant, but a little "how are you feeling" or "when are you due" might be in order.
No?
, and then at my nephew's birthday party where she nor FIL said anything at all. I find it SO WEIRD and obnoxious and I am right with you, sister... I will def want to know how my sons' wives' pregnancies are going!!!
My grandma did this with Mum's sixth baby, but at least she lived far away, so she only "ignored" the pregnancy on the phone, which was somewhat less awkward. Her issue, in that case, was that Mum had "too many" kids. She ADORES all of us now, but was never happy when we came along.
