16 and Pregnant Season 3 - Page 3

[gbailey]

Has anyone seen the last episode with Ashley? I've been catching episodes here and there but this episode really made me smile and sad at the same time. I appreciated Ashley's mother letting the choice of adoption be up to her. She didn't seem to put any pressure on her and let Ashley's decision come organically while still offering helpful advice without saying, "you need to do this or that."

It kind of bothered me that she was allowed to keep the baby to figure out whether or not she wanted to keep her or not. Is this only on tv or would she have been able to do this in real life too? The aunt and uncle though were very kind and supportive but I was glad the aunt told her, towards the end that she can't keep going back and forth. Ashley was immature and the way her mother dealt with her in regards to throwing out the list and telling her to do it on her own was good.

[Drummer's Wife]

I don't think it's just b/c she was on tv (being able to take the baby back), but b/c it was a family adoption. I mean, her aunt and uncle could have had their lawyer and police get involved and deny Ashley that opportunity, but what kind of family does that, yk? I did feel bad for them (her aunt and uncle), but I felt worse for Ashley.

I've been reading her blog and following her on twitter and facebook since the episode airs. I hope she finds some peace soon with her decision. Callie just turned a year old, and it sounds like ashleys still really conflicted and depressed about it.

[lilmom]

Originally Posted by gbailey 

Has anyone seen the last episode with Ashley? I've been catching episodes here and there but this episode really made me smile and sad at the same time. I appreciated Ashley's mother letting the choice of adoption be up to her. She didn't seem to put any pressure on her and let Ashley's decision come organically while still offering helpful advice without saying, "you need to do this or that."

It kind of bothered me that she was allowed to keep the baby to figure out whether or not she wanted to keep her or not. Is this only on tv or would she have been able to do this in real life too? The aunt and uncle though were very kind and supportive but I was glad the aunt told her, towards the end that she can't keep going back and forth. Ashley was immature and the way her mother dealt with her in regards to throwing out the list and telling her to do it on her own was good.

Yeah, it *more than bothered* me that they let her take the baby back to figure it out. Family or not. If I had been the aunt and uncle I would not have been ok with that at all. She was given many chances to say whether or not she wanted to go through with it and she kept saying she was ok. I felt she was very young for 16.

She had amazing support from her mother.

I also did not see it the same way Ashley did about the baby's father. It wasn't that he didn't want to help but he was not in a position to help. He stated that pretty clearly, yet she came back and told the other birth mom that he did not want her. I do hope she has found some peace. It seems like she really has every opportunity for a wonderful life, just based on what I saw on the show.

[waiting2bemommy]

I felt bad for her. I was also shocked that she got to go get teh baby and keep her for a month. My friend and I watched the episode together and we were both like, "h*** no" when she decided after a month!!!!! to give the baby back to her aunt and uncle. And it was claer that she loved ehr daughter.

I think she got too hung up on the long term consequences of single parenthood (money, college, careers etc--for both her and her child) and that made her lack confidence that she could pull it off.

My friend and I were rooting for her the whole time, yelling at the tv, going "you can do it! keep your baby!" lol. It is hard but SO worth it imo, in her situation I would not have made that choice. Now Caitlyn and Tyler from the 1st season I understood their decision because their circumstances were different but here she had so much support. And if you read her blog, she ended up not staying at the NY college anyway because she didn't like it.

When I see episodes like this it reminds me how much can really go wrong with an unplanned pregnancy, at any age....such a bittersweet story.

[gbailey]

I agree with your post. I also felt she was very young for her age. DH isn't a fan of the show and I asked him to watch this episode though as I was curious for his opinion. He thought Ashley was 12 or 13 and refused to watch after the baby pooped and she had to call her mother to figure out what to do.

I think her aunt and uncle were kinder than most people would have been in the same situation even family members. It's sad she is still depressed about her decision but honestly, she didn't seem to have even a half way decent grasp on what it takes to raise a child. I appreciated how supportive but firm her mother was like when she told her she wouldn't be available to babysit every weekend because she had her own life.

 

Originally Posted by lilmom 

Originally Posted by gbailey 

Has anyone seen the last episode with Ashley? I've been catching episodes here and there but this episode really made me smile and sad at the same time. I appreciated Ashley's mother letting the choice of adoption be up to her. She didn't seem to put any pressure on her and let Ashley's decision come organically while still offering helpful advice without saying, "you need to do this or that."

It kind of bothered me that she was allowed to keep the baby to figure out whether or not she wanted to keep her or not. Is this only on tv or would she have been able to do this in real life too? The aunt and uncle though were very kind and supportive but I was glad the aunt told her, towards the end that she can't keep going back and forth. Ashley was immature and the way her mother dealt with her in regards to throwing out the list and telling her to do it on her own was good.

Yeah, it *more than bothered* me that they let her take the baby back to figure it out. Family or not. If I had been the aunt and uncle I would not have been ok with that at all. She was given many chances to say whether or not she wanted to go through with it and she kept saying she was ok. I felt she was very young for 16.

She had amazing support from her mother.

I also did not see it the same way Ashley did about the baby's father. It wasn't that he didn't want to help but he was not in a position to help. He stated that pretty clearly, yet she came back and told the other birth mom that he did not want her. I do hope she has found some peace. It seems like she really has every opportunity for a wonderful life, just based on what I saw on the show.

[nola79]

Did anyone see the where are they now special, featuring the moms from the 1st two seasons? It was pretty good.

[WorldsBestMom]

Its nice to  see these young ladies pick themselves back up again. Thats the part I love the most. It aint easy though. Not a bad show.

[SuburbanHippie]

Did anyone catch 16 & Pregnant "Where Are They Now?"  Poor Whitney from season 1!  Her little boy has had so many health problems.  I can bet that was one of the reasons she didn't get picked for Teen Mom.  I'm glad that they did this special so other teens can see just how tricky life can be.  Not every baby is born 100% healthy!