Okay, I'm actually posting from a computer instead of my phone so I can include more details! So Friday morning comes and ex calls about an hour before his "visit" was supposed to start. He started demanding his alone time, threatening to take me back to court (to which I chuckled and told him "go ahead"
). I kept my cool and told him he could see Owen supervised on Friday and then if ds did okay we would talk about some unsupervised on Saturday. He flipped out, said "I'm contacting my lawyer and I suggest you do the same and I'll call you back later". By the time his "visit" was supposed to start I hadn't heard from him. So we decided to take ds to the McDonalds close to ex's town (there's a playland in that one) and sent ex a message telling him ds would be there and he was welcome to come spend some time with him. No response.
I didn't hear from him again until Friday night, when I got another threatening text, demanding alone time with ds on Saturday. I sent him a text explaining that he could do his supervised time on Saturday and if ds did okay then we could discuss some unsupervised time on Sunday (though at this point my gut was telling me to not even offer him that). I told him to contact me with where he wanted to meet on Saturday. He texted that he was going to call me at 8am.
Saturday morning came and I never heard from ex. Ex's sister ended up contacting me and asking to see ds. I agreed to meet her and her kids at McDonalds (again
) so ds and her kids could play. We met them at 11am (which was during what was supposed to be ex's visit). I texted ex letting him know that ds was there and he could come see ds. Never heard from him. The bogus part of that is ex's sister told me that ex had to work at 1:00. We were at McDonalds until about 12:30. Ex works just 2 minutes away from that McDonalds so he easily could have gone to see ds at McDonalds, even for just a few minutes, before he went to work. Anyway, ex's sister said that ex's mom was asking for me to bring ds to her house so she could give ds his b-day gift. I agreed and we went over there after McDonalds. DS played in her front yard and opened his gifts for another 2 hours. So we spent 3 1/2 hours with ex's family today.
Didn't hear from ex until just a few minutes ago when I received another text (at 11pm!). Again, demanding alone time with ds tomorrow morning, threatening with court, saying I was in "violation of our agreement". What he doesn't understand is THERE IS NO AGREEMENT. There is NOTHING in writing. NOTHING. He has NOTHING to show a Judge and say "she agreed to this but wouldn't follow it". He refused for 3 months to talk to my lawyer and get papers signed, so there isn't any agreement between us at all! I'm in violation of NOTHING! I sent him a very non-emotional text (I'm not going to get baited with his crap and blow up on him) that said ds will be available in a public area from 8-11am, with me there. I told him to let me know where he wanted to meet ASAP. Bet I don't hear from him
I seriously have no idea what he's going to do. Does he really plan on standing up in front of a Judge and saying "well, she wouldn't let me see him alone so I thought it would be better to not see him at all than to see him supervised". Seriously? WTF? What is he going to tell a Judge when the Judge finds out that out of the last 21 days ds has been available to see him (from October 2009 until today- tomorrow will be day 22) he's only chosen to see ds for *2* of those days. 2. That's it. 6 hours total. In 1 year. How is he going to explain that he had a week off work in September, knew he hadn't seen ds since March and yet decided to sit on his butt all week playing video games instead of taking a couple days to visit ds?
!!! Grandpa's are SO awesome!
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