Postive Thoughts Needed :( UPDATE 11/14 now to wait for chromosome testing - Page 3

[Buddhamom]

GOOD LUCK and keep us posted! I think I would have called the naswering service and had the on call Dr./Midwife call me.

[SoCaliMommy]

I'm so upset. I tried to get another appointment with another dr and they wouldn't do it or didnt have any open appointments for today. I tried the neighboring area since i'm suppost to be able to go to any kaiser, Nope didn't work they said since i'm pregnant it's considered a specialty and they'd have to let the other dr know. I freaking hate this. Basically if i want to know anything before we move i have to go to the ER and they won't tell you anything anyways since they aren't allowed to.

I honestly feel like that midwife is brushing me off and assuming the pregnancy is doomed. I had left her a email thursday that i've never gotten a response to and it's now monday morning.


I left my husband a text saying they basically said my only option is to go to the ER.


I'm so tempted to send the midwife a rude email right now.

[~Nikki~]

That sounds so frustrating. I'm sorry you have to deal with this. =(

[sarahmck]

That is really maddening. I can understand that they become jaded and, if you're right that she thinks your pregnancy is doomed, she just mentally gives up on it. But there's absolutely no excuse to lose sight of the fact that every pregnancy is of enormous life-changing significance to the pregnant woman and needs to be treated as such. No, if your pregnancy is really in dire straits at 8 weeks she probably can't do anything, but that doesn't justify not giving you the time of day. She still needs to take the time to explain that to you, if that's the case. And if it's not the case then by brushing you off like this she's causing you horrible stress by making you feel like it's the case! Aargh.

I hope you get some information soon. What's your next move? Do you have any appointment scheduled at this point? When you move will you definitely be switching practices? When will that be?

[fertilemyrtle]

Write that midwife and call EVERY day until she gives a response. There's no excuse for not responding to someone in need.

[lil_stinkyfeet]

Originally Posted by SoCaliMommy

I'm so upset. I tried to get another appointment with another dr and they wouldn't do it or didnt have any open appointments for today. I tried the neighboring area since i'm suppost to be able to go to any kaiser, Nope didn't work they said since i'm pregnant it's considered a specialty and they'd have to let the other dr know. I freaking hate this. Basically if i want to know anything before we move i have to go to the ER and they won't tell you anything anyways since they aren't allowed to.

I honestly feel like that midwife is brushing me off and assuming the pregnancy is doomed. I had left her a email thursday that i've never gotten a response to and it's now monday morning.


I left my husband a text saying they basically said my only option is to go to the ER.


I'm so tempted to send the midwife a rude email right now.

If it were me I would skip the ER ( I despise the Er though) I don't feel like there is much they can do for you right now. What is your immediate concern right now? Is it that you want to up the progesterone? Are you still taking it 2times per day? Do you know if there is a max you should take?

You could call and talk to a pharmacist about the progesterone and make an appointment in the mean time to see a different doctor.

That really blows that the midwife is blowing you off I have had two miscarriages and I Know how the uncertainty feels.. it took a few weeks for things to happen with my first m/c and the up and down and the am I pregnant or am I loosing the baby part was the worst.

[Buddhamom]

Can you just show up at the office and tell them you need to ask a question???

[SoCaliMommy]

sarahmck~ They didn't even bother setting up a next prenatal because the midwife said she'd call me the next day and set up a appointment for monday to do another u/s but she never called. We might be able to start moving a few things in this weekend or next.Where i'll have to go to see a obgyn from that house will be a 46min freeway drive without traffic.

lil_stinkyfeet~ my concern is the fact that ever since starting the progesterone i've been having bleeding and or spotting,the baby measuring a whole week behind and that 100 mg of progesterone isn't enough.


I just sent her a email titled Ultrasound, we'll see if it gets a response.

[aleatha5]

Socalimommy, I was in the nursing mommas ttc group with you. All my thoughts and prayers are with you. I went to the ER with my DS last pregnancy b/c I had some spotting. I don't know if it is different in California, but they did tell me he was ok. They even let me look at him. They did say something like they were supposed to wait for the Doctor but I was pleading with the u/s tech and she was like, ok, well you can accidentally look at the screen, and then she thought some things out loud like "here the baby is kicking" etc. So, I was very reassured. Anyway, I had an ok ER experience, although I didn't love it I did feel better for having went.

[Mamatoabunch]

I went to er at 111 weeks w/ Finnian bleeding like a heavy period. They were so slow, puttering around. I lost it, demanded an U/S to see if my baby was still alive. I had one w/in 10 minutes and saw the beating heart and was told baby was well.

[tashantx]

I'm sorry mama, still praying for you. Hope you get a response from the midwife.

[swimming-duck]

There are no words for how utterly ridiculous this is. They should NOT be blowing you off like this.

[SoCaliMommy]

rude midwife replied to the email titled ultrasound from this morning just now... i have a appointment for 10:20 am tomorrow with another dr in long beach

I will be sure to bring up my concern about progesterone. I still feel pregnant, and another + is that the bleeding started after i started the progesterone so i'm leaning toward it really being the cause. I just hope the baby has grown some since last week and even if it's measuring is still off i dont care anymore as long as it's healthy and going to be a viable pregnancy.

[BHappy]

mama!

[SoCaliMommy]

Played with the doppler earlier and feeling hopeful since hearing sounds that don't sound like my heartbeat and it's faster.

I think dh is gonna try and get away from work for a little bit to come with me tomorrow. We'll only have 1 kid with us instead of both like last week.

[swimming-duck]

That's such encouraging news. I'm looking forward to your update after your u/s tomorrow!

[Tumble Bumbles]

Will be praying for a very positive update tomorrow!

[Buddhamom]

Thinking about you!

[sarahmck]

Thinking of you and eager for an update!

[SoCaliMommy]

Not good news

Ultrasound showed a black area with nothing at all inside of it.

I'm not cramping at all either so that is wierd.

The dr said it's over and he ordered labs for a hcg draw to confirm what the ultrasound showed which was nothing.