I just LOVE this thread- thank you thank you thank you for posting!
All DD's clothes are hand-me-downs, consignment sale finds, or goodwill. With a few exceptions. And I went through a phase where I really fretted that I could never put together two pieces that matched, so i went out (to goodwill & a consignment sale) to buy lots more clothes in the hope of being able to match some items. Now we have a RIDICULOUS amount of clothes in my daughter's drawers (much more than she needs), and it's possible to put together a match but takes way too much time and brain power. I just don't have it in me. So, sometimes she matches, but usually not.
Oh, and I refuse to put DD in jeans because they inhibit her movement. She loves to run and climb and she does so much better in soft cotton pants, which are always in some bright color, usually patterned. She has a couple of hand me down jeans that I have put her in for special occasions, and i always feel bad.
i did buy a couple pairs of leggings new when i had a sweater dress that i loved for her (consignment) and nothing to wear on the bottom. they were cheap though.
so yeah, my daughter doesn't usually look very coordinated. and i don't really care. she's still the cutest thing ever. and she's super messy (food, water, sandbox) so i feel like dressing her up would just add to the stress.
i'm glad others are like this. i feel like most of our toddler friends look more put together.