Haven't seen one of these in a while, but if there is one already going, let me know.
Ds is 6 and recently received the dx of SPD - mild-moderate. He's got a lot of seeking tendencies.
Sometimes we can go weeks when things actually run smoothly and I think, "Ah, this is what a normal household is like." I LOVE ds and his spirit and passion, but I am pushed to my breaking point frequently.
We've started OT, and hopefully we can get into a more regular schedule again now that we're changing clinics. It has helped. Also, in a couple of weeks, we're going to start Therapeutic Listening, which I have high hopes for, especially for his emotional regulation. When he gets upset or irritated over something (even little), the emotional disappointment or upset overcomes him and everything after that just goes downhill. He reacts with extreme - "I don't even want it anyway!!" and throws "it" in the trash, or just absolute defiance of every. single. direction afterward. Now, my family and others all say behavior modification techniques - but I know that those don't work very well with ds or many SPD kids. They are responding at a different level. I DO instill consequences and I try to keep them logical, but I also try to understand where he's coming from. But other times...well, I have many bad mama moments yelling at my poor ds who is just a little boy, but who is also acting absolutely "defiantly" (I use the word because he begins making choices that are the exact opposite of what I say or what needs to be done. (Please don't flame - I carry enough guilt over getting angry - I know.) Don't get me wrong, I don't try to control his every move - there are just certain things that are expected behaviors and need to be done (for example, getting up and dressed, teeth brushed, hair combed...). He is perfectly capable and has all kinds of systems in place to support him, including generally kind and gentle and very loving parents to help him along.
So how do other people deal with the emotional regulation?
I'd love to read other people's stories and hear how things are going.
Ds is 6 and recently received the dx of SPD - mild-moderate. He's got a lot of seeking tendencies.
Sometimes we can go weeks when things actually run smoothly and I think, "Ah, this is what a normal household is like." I LOVE ds and his spirit and passion, but I am pushed to my breaking point frequently.
We've started OT, and hopefully we can get into a more regular schedule again now that we're changing clinics. It has helped. Also, in a couple of weeks, we're going to start Therapeutic Listening, which I have high hopes for, especially for his emotional regulation. When he gets upset or irritated over something (even little), the emotional disappointment or upset overcomes him and everything after that just goes downhill. He reacts with extreme - "I don't even want it anyway!!" and throws "it" in the trash, or just absolute defiance of every. single. direction afterward. Now, my family and others all say behavior modification techniques - but I know that those don't work very well with ds or many SPD kids. They are responding at a different level. I DO instill consequences and I try to keep them logical, but I also try to understand where he's coming from. But other times...well, I have many bad mama moments yelling at my poor ds who is just a little boy, but who is also acting absolutely "defiantly" (I use the word because he begins making choices that are the exact opposite of what I say or what needs to be done. (Please don't flame - I carry enough guilt over getting angry - I know.) Don't get me wrong, I don't try to control his every move - there are just certain things that are expected behaviors and need to be done (for example, getting up and dressed, teeth brushed, hair combed...). He is perfectly capable and has all kinds of systems in place to support him, including generally kind and gentle and very loving parents to help him along.
So how do other people deal with the emotional regulation?
I'd love to read other people's stories and hear how things are going.
It's a BIG reason I decide to put DD into a 5 day a week Prek and to pick up a part time job. I wasn't coping well AT ALL and something had to change.
