My dd just turned 4 and it feels like we have had so many issues and no answers. I don't know who to turn to anymore and this is getting so overwhelming for me! She just has all these odd behaviors that no one else's kids seem to be doing.
Since she was a baby she has done this thing, we call her belly thing, where she lays down and crosses her legs and pushes something into her stomach. She has to have her stomach tensed up really tight. She has had digestive problems all her life, so we thought it had to do with that. She does it now a days in response to excitement. Her eyes also dilate really huge while she is doing it. Her ped says it is normal and that she is basically masturbating. She could very well be, but it doesn't seem to me like she wants to do it, more like she has to do it. Sometimes when she is really excited to tell somebody something she will cross her legs really tight, while standing, only while she says what she wants to say.
She also has these huge meltdowns where she loses all control frequently. She has done this since she was 1 and continues to have them on a regular basis. Again her ped says normal and to just put her in her room until she is calm and ignore it. I feel like she would never calm down if I did this. I see in her eyes that she is scared when it is happening and feel like she really needs help to calm down. It really does not seem to me that she is seeking attention. She shakes and just makes these gutterall (sp-or is that even a word lol) noises. She looks terrified. She also has mood swings that go from one end of the spectrum to the other. She can almost be too loving and nice to us, only to end up in an angry rage later.
Other things that bug me is she does not understand personal space. She gets right in our faces to talk all the time. She can also be so hyper to where she just runs in circles, talks really loudly, and fake laughs at inappropriate times. She will also lick us and other people. She used to lick things a lot more when she was younger. I can remember trying to have a serious talk with her after she ran off from me in the store and she just smiled and licked my face.
Sorry this got so long and thanks if you made it this far. I am just desperate for any advice I can get at this point. I am curious if anyone thinks this warrants more evaluation or if she is just a strong willed girl. We saw a Neuro once for what appeared to be a seizure that she had, and he said the mood swings were normal and the seizure was likely just an isolated event. Our pediatrician thinks everything checks out fine. I am starting to think I am crazy.
Since she was a baby she has done this thing, we call her belly thing, where she lays down and crosses her legs and pushes something into her stomach. She has to have her stomach tensed up really tight. She has had digestive problems all her life, so we thought it had to do with that. She does it now a days in response to excitement. Her eyes also dilate really huge while she is doing it. Her ped says it is normal and that she is basically masturbating. She could very well be, but it doesn't seem to me like she wants to do it, more like she has to do it. Sometimes when she is really excited to tell somebody something she will cross her legs really tight, while standing, only while she says what she wants to say.
She also has these huge meltdowns where she loses all control frequently. She has done this since she was 1 and continues to have them on a regular basis. Again her ped says normal and to just put her in her room until she is calm and ignore it. I feel like she would never calm down if I did this. I see in her eyes that she is scared when it is happening and feel like she really needs help to calm down. It really does not seem to me that she is seeking attention. She shakes and just makes these gutterall (sp-or is that even a word lol) noises. She looks terrified. She also has mood swings that go from one end of the spectrum to the other. She can almost be too loving and nice to us, only to end up in an angry rage later.
Other things that bug me is she does not understand personal space. She gets right in our faces to talk all the time. She can also be so hyper to where she just runs in circles, talks really loudly, and fake laughs at inappropriate times. She will also lick us and other people. She used to lick things a lot more when she was younger. I can remember trying to have a serious talk with her after she ran off from me in the store and she just smiled and licked my face.
Sorry this got so long and thanks if you made it this far. I am just desperate for any advice I can get at this point. I am curious if anyone thinks this warrants more evaluation or if she is just a strong willed girl. We saw a Neuro once for what appeared to be a seizure that she had, and he said the mood swings were normal and the seizure was likely just an isolated event. Our pediatrician thinks everything checks out fine. I am starting to think I am crazy.
He also has tons of energy, but it's never destructive, and he knows that we mean business when we tell him to stop (otherwise, he's allowed to jump/run/bounce on anything in the house) so he does stop. I think perhaps that's why this has never concerned me, because he can and will stop and calm down or refrain from acting out if asked to. We had crazy bad tantrums too, but he hasn't had one in over 6 months, and I think they were tied in to the new baby. I don't know about the stomach thing, but DS does grind his teeth when he gets excited. He says he can't help that. Good luck mama!
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