is my toddler going to be a bully? what to do?

[hildare]

so my toddler is an only (so far..) and is only a year old.
i KNOW at that age, they don't understand the concept of x child is playing with this toy so don't take it away, but:
she likes to use grabby hands when other kids are playing with something interesting. how do you teach politeness? esp to one that little?
she has made children a good bit older than her cry. it makes me feel bad because i honestly don't know how to handle the situation. she seems unaware of the tears of the other children, which i assume is normal for her age.

[Petie1104]

No your daughter will not be a bully. She just needs help to know what to do. Go to her, tell her "no honey, we don't take, we ask" Then help her give the toy back and help her ask nicely. She has to learn how to be polite, it isn't a natural thing. So apparently, she is now old enough to start learning it.

Remember, don't get frustrated, I have older kids who STILL need to be reminded at times to ask nicely.

[mamazee]

She has no idea how to share or anything like that, she has no understanding of the concept of ownership, and she's too young to understand it if you try to teach it, though you can work to create habits by simply doing what's right yourself (like giving the toy back to the other child.) It has no relevance as to whether your child will become a bully. If you are gentle and understanding with your child, she will be more likely to grow to be gentle and understanding with others, but there are no guarantees.