How many days PP did you wait to.... - Page 2

[hyz]

Wow, it sounds like you all have better luck than I did. With my first, we had to wait almost 6 months! I had pretty bad tearing, and we tried a few times before that, but it just hurt too much and we had to stop. Even at 6 mos it was still really tender. This time I had a much smaller tear, so I'm hoping to heal much faster. I'm still only 1.5 weeks post partum now, though, and still bleeding, so nothing here yet. My doctor said to wait 4 weeks, fwiw.

[muffinette]

We waited a few months last time, and most likely will wait around 3 or 4 months this time too. I'm tired and tandem nursing and have no interest, and he's tired and fine with waiting.

[oliversmom7213]

Yeah so totally tried it last night. Wasn't too bad but it will probably be a month or more before it feels like it did before. I did giggle like a school girl but dh didn't even notice. It's such a relief to pass that milestone.

[eclipse]

My OB told me privately that we could do it whenever we wanted to after bleeding had stopped. With my husband in the room, he said 6-8 weeks . He later told me that he does that so guys don't pressure their partners into having sex early on.

[Eresh]

Last time it was a little before 4 weeks. Now, with a 2nd degree tear up into my vagina, I just don't want to do it any time soon. We dtd the day before DS2 was born and DH is already asking =/

ETA: And I won't even consider dtd using a condom with my healing tear. That sounds so painful. Tho my cycles didn't return til 14 months pp for me last time, so I'm not too worried about getting pregnant.

[outlier]

I'm 2 1/2 weeks pp now and also have no desire whatsoever. I had a 3rd degree tear and am still pretty sore down there, even though I've stopped needing any pain reliever for it.

I'd like to master pooping first. That's continued to be a real difficulty for me.

[hollytheteacher]

DDCC: Reading the replies makes me think you're alll crazy ! lol

I was terrified until ds was like 8 months and even then it hurt like crazy. Pretty sure I didn't enjoy it until he was like 15 months and that was when my periods came back.

[Melly24]

I cant wait to DTD! My libido came back in full force a few days after DD was born and it seems to have this time too. We waited 2 weeks after her, and I'm 11 days PP now but still a bit sore from the grazes. Hopefully in another week.

[stellamia]

Originally Posted by Melly24

I cant wait to DTD! My libido came back in full force a few days after DD was born and it seems to have this time too. We waited 2 weeks after her, and I'm 11 days PP now but still a bit sore from the grazes. Hopefully in another week.

SAME HERE!!! I told my DH how sexy he looked the other day and he said "Don't even use words that have 's e x' in them... It's too far away...." I feel like we're in high school again where we're only allowed to kiss and then you get all giddy but have to walk away! I'm 8 days PP and am going to ask my MW at my 2 week appt if I have to wait till 6 weeks or if 3 is ok!

I will add though that we weren't DTD much in the last weeks of my pregnancy. The last time we did it was pretty painful for me so we haven't had a lot of action in a while.

And it's normal to not want to do anything! I don't want anyone to feel bad or weird if they're not ready to go. Everyone is different and responds differently to all the hormone changes and life changes. And every husband has their unique response too! After our first, my DH wasn't into the idea the first couple weeks.. It's ok to need these weeks to adjust. Respect your body and feelings and it'll all come back in time.

[corban's mum]

i really really thought the DH wouldnt ever want to go near me again after seeing his daughters head poking halfway outta there then shooting BACK UP when my waters broke... then the grimness of a c section then afterwards him helping to change my chux pad in hospital after i haemorraged... yeah i really did NOT expect him to be like a frisky puppy at 6 days PP but hey ho....

.... my method of contraception?? a rolled up newspaper by the bed *WHACK* down boy! lol sooo not up for it.

[lotusma]

no kidding, corban's mum. men are perplexing creatures. w/ my dh wiping oozing vernix from my perenium and poop from my butt as baby's head slowly crowned, then cleaning up ALL the afterbirth, placenta, juices, etc, and then later my blood spattered ankles/feet, i don't know where he musters it.

[Melly24]

Originally Posted by lotusma

no kidding, corban's mum. men are perplexing creatures. w/ my dh wiping oozing vernix from my perenium and poop from my butt as baby's head slowly crowned, then cleaning up ALL the afterbirth, placenta, juices, etc, and then later my blood spattered ankles/feet, i don't know where he musters it.

My DH had a very similar experience to your DH. I think he must have blocked it from his memory already.

But seriously, how great are our partners?