Gosh, I am sorry to hear about your nephew. I hope that he recovered, as much as could be, and is healthy and happy now. That had to be terrifying!
Good for you for educating!! Regarding retractibility, I think I read stats recently at
www.cirp.org that were something like, 40% retractible at age 10, 90% at age 16, 99% at 18. Does that seem right anyone else? I was struck by it because I have four boys under 7, and none is even close to retractible. In fact, my second son (almost 5) is probably closer/more retractible than my oldest (6). Somehow, I was thinking that it should've happened by 8, but the stats that I saw made me think that there's NO REASON to be concerned until such time as he is 16-18 and has a problem with pain, etc. Certainly not at age 6!
From cirp.org (
http://www.cirp.org/library/hygiene/):
When does the foreskin become retractable?
There is no "right" time for the foreskin to become retractable. Two things must happen before the foreskin becomes retractable and each usually takes many years.1
1.The fusion between the glans penis and the inner surface of the foreskin must become separate.
2.The narrow tip that prevents retraction must become large enough in diameter to permit retraction.
The time varies widely from individual to individual. Complete separation of the foreskin from the glans may not occur until after puberty.1 20
About 44 percent of boys have a fully retractable prepuce by age 10, by age 16, 90 percent, by age 18, 99 percent.1
(emphasis mine)
Visualizing the glans/meatus drives me NUTS. Why?? Do they look at a girl's urethral opening?? Seems to me, if the baby is making urine that can be seen/felt in a diaper, what's the problem?? Makes me want to tell my friends and family to have birthing center births and run away home ASAP! It also makes me feel vehemently against allowing residents/students anywhere near a newborn, and that's not exactly a good thing either (how else can they learn??)
Thank goodness you are out there educating!!!!!
Hypospadias occur when the urethra does not fuse closed (and form a complete tube) during fetal development. It can vary widely, and be as simple as having an "off-center" opening at the tip of the penis (which is, IMO, almost always of no consequence, assuming urine comes out) to having the urethra completely open along the bottom side of the penis. In those extreme cases, if you flipped the penis "up" you would see the entire length urethra open. Intermediate cases can have small openings along the "bottom" of the penis, and those openings go to the urethra -- so when the baby urinates, urine dribbles out of every hole along the route, so to speak. It can be messy for boys learning to urinate while standing up, as you might imagine.
In the U.S., babies with moderate to severe hypospadias usually are NOT circ'd at birth, but ARE when the repair is done, usually around 6 months. Usually, the foreskin is used to close the urethra and/or to improve the cosmetic outcome. I do not know how this issue would be handled in a family who wanted to circ for religious reasons.
In Europe, there are other methods to correct hypospadias that DO NOT involve circumcision. I believe that there is/was an expert in this in the Baltimore, MD area, but I'm not sure now.
I only know this because I was completely OCD about circ issues before my twins were born, and asked around here for help. In addition to being completely terrified of retraction and/or circ w/o our consent, I was afraid about hypospadias. This is somewhat hilarious in retrospect ... I didn't even know if I was having boys, girls, or one of each ... why wasn't I worried about other health issues??
(to cut myself some slack, I had a *terrible*, very stressful pregnancy, and more high-res/detailed ultrasounds than I care to discuss/remember, and I guess I believed -- perhaps incorrectly -- that a congenital issue with the heart or kidneys or ??? would've already been diagnosed. This is not rational!

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ETA: Link to where I asked this question before -->
http://www.mothering.com/discussions...867&highlight=
HTH! Keep up the good work!