new here, discipline question

[monkeyma]

Hi everyone! I've been lurking on the boards here for awhile, but this is my first post.

I have a 1 year old DS and we're transitioning into a Waldorf home. I'm still new at it all, though. Lately my son has been doing a lot more negative things to get attention and testing limits.

One thing in particular is him making a really loud sound that sounds like a mixture between gagging/constipation. I haven't figured out if it means something in particular. I'm not even sure if he's trying to get my attention, or if it just feels funny when he makes it. It's just the worst sound ever and gets right to me. He's only 1, so I don't really mean discipline, just how to handle situation.

How does one handle situations like this within Waldorf teaching? I usually try to show him how we do something, or distract him with with something else, but this is new territory, since it's a sound.

Thanks!

[zoebird]

well, for the most part, if i know it's not specific to anything, then i ignore the sound and then step back and try to figure out what is going on.

so, if you think he's seeking attention, what attention does he need that is not getting met? Around that age, my son started to become aggressive with his dad, because his dad would not MAKE time for him. i told DH that he *had to* focus on DS for at least 30 minutes, and that could not include potty, bathing, eating together, cleaning up, etc. it had to be 30 minutes of time just for DS and DH to play. When he got that into the rhythm, then DS stopped behaving aggressively.

Now, DS is doing it again, we think to get a 'reaction' of of DH. DS is now two, and right now we are getting into a new rhythm. When we are out of rhythm, it's much worse. DH also is frustrated and freaking out, and taking it out on me, and DS does not take kindly to DH's anxiety and anger. So, out of the blue, he'll come over and start hitting, bitting, and pulling on DH. we are going to get help, because DH will not listen to me, so we are going to a woman who does parent coaching.

anyway, i would make sure that all of his needs are being met in the rhythm. that's the first thing i would check out.