Originally Posted by Multimomma
Oh, circumstances like they're poor and can't afford a costume, much less ruining clothes they own to create a costume. Or that their parents don't support them and tell them to make their own without offering help. Or that they have a mental disability. Or a million other things that I could possibly never sleuth out because it never occurred to me. Kids are just kids, and to judge them from an adult perspective seems unreal to me.
And really? You've never heard of teenagers ragging on each other for their costumes? They rag on each other for just about everything...so when I say no blood or gore in the house because it scares your little sister, yeah, my poor teen got it. Not bad from his friends, but from other kids in the neighborhood. When my daughter wore a witch costume, some other younger girls razzed her because it looked like 'an old lady' witch, rather than the short sexy witch that they had on. We're wandering the neighborhood with probably two hundred other children...it's not surprising to get a little jazz from people.
Of course, I also have children with disabilities, so I'm a little easy going, we even have adults who go around without costumes. Anyone else could judge them, but I recognize them from the ABLE office, and it's not a big deal to give them a snack sized snickers that cost eight cents.
ITA. I even gave candy - what I had in the cupboard - when a gruop of girls came trick or treating to my door in England, where in those days nobody even did Halloween. They had no costumes, but I teased them a little, but made it clear I was joking as I rummaged in the cupboard to get them a treat.
Kids are kids, and if we can't be easy on them one night a year and just hand them a candy bar, what are we coming to?
The way I see it, we are role modeling tolerance and kindness, not to mention graciousness. There are enough rules in kids' lives, without making ones about one night a year that is supposed to be fun.