What do you think about my Mother situation.. - Page 2

[Peppermint Leaf]

hi Jamie -- I agree you have come a long long way!

Remember - you cant change other people only yourself and how you react to them.

Many years ago a counsellor told me something I have hung onto .. she said to me "Always remember - nobody - absolutely nobody - gets to determine your self worth".

Jamie - remember that she can critisize you all she wants and put you down but it has nothing to do with who you really are or your worth.

on another note -- Is it possible that you can find a roomate -- and move out now -- at least the expenses would be shared. .. just a thot

[*bejeweled*]

Hi, you have come such a long way. A lot of times when people are starting to heal and get better, their significant others have a hard time adjusting. It's like they want you to stay unhealthy. Because otherwise it changes the dynamic of the relationship and makes them have to look at themselves. People don't want to change themselves. I think your Mom may be having a hard time with your positive growth.

[~PurityLake~]

Originally Posted by *bejeweled*

Hi, you have come such a long way. A lot of times when people are starting to heal and get better, their significant others have a hard time adjusting. It's like they want you to stay unhealthy. Because otherwise it changes the dynamic of the relationship and makes them have to look at themselves. People don't want to change themselves. I think your Mom may be having a hard time with your positive growth.

There is a lot of truth in this. I've seen it played out a number of times.

[EdnaMarie]

Is it sad that I cried after she called me hateful and mean?

It's your MOM! That's not sad that you cried, I would be sobbing for hours.



Living with parents as an adult is tough.

I remember I moved to my mom's away from my husband. And I was thinking, "Wow, that actually wasn't that bad. Maybe I just dislike other PEOPLE?"

She's passive-aggressive, normal, not abusive, but hard to communicate with. It's tough!