I'm sorry that the holidays are so stressful for you. I don't know how much spare time you have with a new baby on the way, but could you maybe make some gifts for people? I started giving home-canned food (jam, apple butter, applesauce, pasta sauce, etc) as gifts to my aunts and uncles and some of my friends. I just bought some inexpensive baskets at Hobby Lobby to put the items in, and within a month I have the baskets and jars back (and requests for refills!).
I'm a big fan of consumable gifts. I'd miuch rather receive some thing I can use up instead of have laying around the house collecting dust...
Hope this helps...
I, too, love consumable gifts (or "experience" type gifts: museum memberships and the like). My MIL is the queen of cheap tchotchke gifts and I've been working on cutting down on the number of them that she "blesses" our house with.
My husband is a super cook, and we usually do give out some consumable gifts each year. We've done homemade chocolates for the past several years, and this year he's making up some of his homemade bacon for gifts as well. I sew and knit, and I often put together some handmade christmas ornaments, hand knit mittens, or the like to act as present toppers.
However, I always feel like these are gifts I should give "on top of" the usual bought presents. DH's truffles are to die for, and apparently his bacon is too (I wouldn't know, as I'm a vegetarian), but I would feel very guilty if I were to give these to people without something purchased to go along with them. I'm not sure why that is, exactly. Part of it may be due to the fact that we are financially better off than almost everyone in our circle (with the exception of my parents).
We give my mother a consumable gift each year (we have flowers delivered to her once a month for the year) which she loves. And that feels fine to me, because it costs me an ungodly sum of money to do it. If I were to give her cut flowers from my garden once a month for a year, I'd feel very guilty about it.
Does anyone else struggle with this? How do you find peace with the fact that you have spent or given "enough"?