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I will never be pregnant again :(

post #1 of 19
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Im sooooo happy to have my newest little pumpkin, and three wonderful happy, healthy children...but a little part of me i so sad to know I will never ever be pregnant again And to think one week ago I was dying to get her out!
post #2 of 19
i feel exactly the same
post #3 of 19
This is what I hate about ending up with my third c/s. I don't want to ever have to say no to babies But realisticallly I can probably only have one or two more. Finn will be the last one for awhile, though! I'll probably have to put at least 3-4 years between him and the next one for financial reasons.
post #4 of 19
This is most likely our last baby too. DH is positive he doesn't want anymore, and while I theoretically would like one more I don't know if I can do another c/s recovery. Plus, I don't think our marriage could handle a 4th kid at this point. Maybe in a couple years if DH really wants another one we will talk about it.
post #5 of 19
DH is Done with having kids and is talking about having a vasectomy soon to ensure that

So unless there is an oops, it looks like I'm never going to be pregnant again and never going to give birth again. I think I'm mostly through it now, but there were a couple of weeks of mourning the peaceful birth experience I so wanted to have. And, not that I regret having either of my little boys, but I think I will always miss just a little bit having a daughter.
post #6 of 19
This is the last baby for us, too. I'm not feeling it right now but I know I will be in a week or two.
I had thought my son would be the last little one for us, I felt sad when I went into labor with him. This pregnancy has felt like such a blessing. But I know we are done after this one, so I am hoping the sadness is a little less this time. I did not feel done after his birth.
post #7 of 19
I have mixed feelings about the great probability that this is our last baby. On one hand, I meant it when mid-labor I said "I don't want to ever do this again!!!" It is hard getting thru the first few weeks so sleep deprived and I don't want to go thru that again either. But when I look at my beautiful kids I just feel like I need to enjoy every freakin minute of them because they are growing so fast, and it makes me sad that there won't be any more babies to love.
post #8 of 19
my dh is scheduled for the Big V consult next week. i'm sad. not because of no more babies, but the idea of closing the door on such a beautiful chapter in my life.
post #9 of 19
This was our last baby, but I'm not particularly sad over it. I mean, I would love to give birth again. And again and again and again!

But pregnancy doesn't agree with me!!

For those considering a vasectomy - google the University of Chicago's study on vasectomy and dementia. Scary stuff.

We're looking at other options, because DH already has family risk factors for dementia.
post #10 of 19
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my dh is scheduled for the Big V consult next week. i'm sad. not because of no more babies, but the idea of closing the door on such a beautiful chapter in my life.
My feelings exactly. Said so well. Makes me teary reading it.
post #11 of 19
This is most likely our last baby, too. I teared up reading this. It is true that this is such a special time of life, hard to close the door.
post #12 of 19
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i'm sad. not because of no more babies, but the idea of closing the door on such a beautiful chapter in my life.
ditto.
post #13 of 19
I was very sad in thinking about closing the door until after DD was born. Now I have a wonderful feeling of completeness with our family and am feeling good about gently saying no more. After 6 pregnancies and 2 beautiful children, my body is done. It's weird that we've spent the last 9 years in baby making status and so quickly it can end.
DH and I both feel happy with our decision about the big V.
post #14 of 19
5 days out and I'm feeling it now. I do feel that our family is complete, and it is a different set of feelings than I had after my son was born (I felt we weren't done). I just look at Sam and think how fast time is passing by, and how sad it will be to close this door in our life. I am determined to enjoy it even with the stressful parts.
I did, otoh, really mean it when I said during labor that I was never doing this again.
post #15 of 19
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i'm sad. not because of no more babies, but the idea of closing the door on such a beautiful chapter in my life.
YES! this 100%.
post #16 of 19

*bump*

 

how are we all feeling now? anyone changed their/dh's mind?  i felt so very done. and we can NOT afford to support another babe an still maintain the standard of living we have set for our kids (we go without n work our butts off to send our son to private school, and will do with madison too but at £10,000+ a yr each we really cant add to it lol)

 

BUT

 

lol theres always a but...

 

my girl is SO perfect and my boy is my pride n joy it's really hard to not secretly want babies... lots of babies...hundreds...all in my bed...all over me! cuddles galore!

 

i think i could ignore the financial hurdles.... but not the prospect of a third cs. i just cant do that. the scarring n recovery. ack no thanks

post #17 of 19

done, but sad about it. :(

post #18 of 19

10 weeks later and we're still done, and honestly, i'm not sad about it.  i've had 7 pregnancies, 3 of which resulted in my 3 wonderful rainbow babies.  and now i am done.  i experienced birth 3 times, the last one being and awesome homebirth and now i am ready to move on to the next stage of our life.  ready and excited!  i'm sure there will be times that i'll miss having a tiny babe around but i'm also sure it will be a fleeting feeling.  our family is complete  luxlove.gif

post #19 of 19

aww blue! im happy for you, you sound so contented!

 

i think for me i want what i can't have - sure i COULD have more kids but i know i shouldnt and physically it would take it's toll so i don't want to... which makes me want to.... haha yeah ok i make NO sense

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