I need some advice. My Dh and I are trying to be very conscious (sp?) about out parenting. My cousin came over last night to visit and borrow some of my maternity clothes. She is due with her first in August. Usually when a relative gives me advice on how I should raise DS differently (ie: get him a crib, wean him, etc), I just acknowledge their opinion and move on. Well, last night was the first time my cousin had been around DS since he has become quite active (he is 18mo). She was over for about 2 hours and I was about ready to throttle her. "quit running!" "don't climb on that!" "don't pick that up" "stop that!"
Why wouldn't she realize that if I wasn't stopping him, that I didn't care if he did it? Running is part of playing, why would I discourage that? Yes, I know he falls alot, but that is part of growing up. Climbing is how he learns. Why can't he pick up his plastic basketball hoop? He can't hurt it, or himself. Augh! It was driving me nuts. I feel like she was disciplining my DS, you know? Then she went on and on about what an expert on children she is. And its all because she loves kids sooo much! Ugh!
I guess, what I want to know is, how do you deal with people telling your DC what to do or not do?
Why wouldn't she realize that if I wasn't stopping him, that I didn't care if he did it? Running is part of playing, why would I discourage that? Yes, I know he falls alot, but that is part of growing up. Climbing is how he learns. Why can't he pick up his plastic basketball hoop? He can't hurt it, or himself. Augh! It was driving me nuts. I feel like she was disciplining my DS, you know? Then she went on and on about what an expert on children she is. And its all because she loves kids sooo much! Ugh!
I guess, what I want to know is, how do you deal with people telling your DC what to do or not do?
"He's burning up a lot of energy, he'll surely sleep well tonight!" etc.
