~*•~*•~November Dating Thread~•*~•*~ giving thanks for our blessings & enjoying the moment! - Page 3

[Momtwice]

Originally Posted by Momtwice 
I recently caught myself going on about it in a group social setting near a man I thought was a cutie....foot in mouth....LOL. Happily he said oh, yeah, been there. So he's been divorced and he "got" it. I think my mission now is to simply discuss OTHER positive things if I run into him again....I was venting with a friend who is also divorced.

So I did get a chance to hang out with the same crowd/him again and just as I had intended I was totally positive and happy and never mentioned....what was it we were talking about again? LOL. Mission acommplished! That felt good.

[Zeta]

I really miss the companionship/ fun/ sex/ laughter/ affection/ entertainment of my recent short term dating experiences.  But day by day I remind myself that I'm okay without it, that my life is centered here with my children and my own passions, and I try to redirect my energies here.  I think this is a process of clarifying and grounding myself.  So much of my time while having those relationships was alone anyway, I figure I can be just as happy without it by remaining clear about where my life is centered and where my true joy is coming from.  I figure a meaningful relationship will come but since I'm willing to hold out for true compatibility it may call for a lot of patience - it won't be as easy to find as fun/short term.  I'm really willing to wait.  The ways in which the wait are difficult are part of my own growth as a person.

With the advent season I am setting the intention to let this be a time of spiritual re-centering and focus on my only true priority: love.  Love in the broad sense- my children, my friends, my family, my students, my community.  Spreading love and being open to receiving it.  Really shining my light, and not getting distracted by dating.

This is where I'm at today.  Probably next time I'll be here to post about some cute guy I can't stop thinking about - lol!- and that's okay. I am living one day at a time and trying to just honor my process.

[Devaya]

Originally Posted by Zeta 

I really miss the companionship/ fun/ sex/ laughter/ affection/ entertainment of my recent short term dating experiences.  But day by day I remind myself that I'm okay without it, that my life is centered here with my children and my own passions, and I try to redirect my energies here.  I think this is a process of clarifying and grounding myself.  So much of my time while having those relationships was alone anyway, I figure I can be just as happy without it by remaining clear about where my life is centered and where my true joy is coming from.  I figure a meaningful relationship will come but since I'm willing to hold out for true compatibility it may call for a lot of patience - it won't be as easy to find as fun/short term.  I'm really willing to wait.  The ways in which the wait are difficult are part of my own growth as a person.

With the advent season I am setting the intention to let this be a time of spiritual re-centering and focus on my only true priority: love.  Love in the broad sense- my children, my friends, my family, my students, my community.  Spreading love and being open to receiving it.  Really shining my light, and not getting distracted by dating.

This is where I'm at today.  Probably next time I'll be here to post about some cute guy I can't stop thinking about - lol!- and that's okay. I am living one day at a time and trying to just honor my process.

Im in a similar space. Spent the weekend w my best friend whos really struggling about being single and just felt grateful that while i have felt that way in the recent past and dont doubt it will wax and wane in a cyclical fashion, right now i know deep down that my happiness comes from within. I love your emphasis on love in the broadest sense, zeta. I feel like im blossoming in my studies and my career and finding out what i have to offer the world for the first time..
And finding that wanting partner is far less an anguished longing than a sense of peaceful acceptance tthat he is on his way!

[Zeta]

Originally Posted by Devaya 


And finding that wanting partner is far less an anguished longing than a sense of peaceful acceptance tthat he is on his way!

High five! lol