He recently was caught sneaking out at night, and his grades have been down.
He usually spends a lot of time with his friends, and spends the night on a regular basis (his dad lets him go every. single. week)
I have come up with a strategy of dealing with him in a respectful but firm way, and I have decided to pick my battles, and am still letting him hang out with his friends, but on a very limited basis, and not as often until his grades pull up, and without going into all of the details, I am comfortable with my decision, but it is hard to implement, and I sometimes wimp out, I do my very best.
My problem is with my DH, he has raised 3 teens, who are now in their 20's and he went through the ringer with them, and they have ongoing problems (2 of them, according to DH.) He has been taking his opinions on how I should be handling DS out on me. He has been critical (and not speaking to me very nicely) and he gets angry even, and acts mean to me, he is very judgmental and thinkis I should raise him in the way he *wishes* he raised his DC (because of his "mistakes" his kids now have problems) he doesn't seem to care how hard it is.
It is so upsetting to me, because I think he should just mind his own business, and I was pushed to the point the other night where I said that to him in anger. It is like he is angry at me because I am not doing what he thinks I should do. I sometimes feel bullied
I have no idea how to view/handle this