Withdrawal method - who's gotten prego doing this? - Page 2

[kawa kamuri]

I'm pregnant with a baby conceived with the pull and pray. My DP has awesome self control but nothing is 100%.  

[Sol_y_Paz]

Not here.  This method along with charting to avoid has been adequate b.c

[Jessnet]

We have always used the pull-out method ( 10 years) and no accidents!

We've only had the one planned pregnancy and got pregnant the first round.

Like PPs we also don't have "second rounds" AND he pulls out early enough that he needs a stroke or two of external stimulation.

That being said, my DH has a child from a previous relationship that was conceived using withdraw - although he readily admits he was drunk that night and was pretty sure (even at the time) that he didn't get out early enough.

ETA:    Here's a question.

Do different men have different rates of pre-ejaculate. Do some have a lot and some have next to none? Is it even variable enough that pre-ejaculate quantities depend on excitement? And could that help explain the differing rates of conception with this method? I could google this answer, but I am feeling lazy right now   just throwing it out there.

Edited by Jessnet - 11/14/10 at 12:18am

[wendyland]

I just came to this board to pretty much ask the same question.  I want to have my iud removed, but we aren't sure if we want to do anything permanent yet.  I'm 98% sure that I don't want anymore.  I used withdrawl for probably 15 years and only got pregnant the 4 times we tried.  After seeing so many first hand pregnancies, I'm not sure what to do. 

[kawa kamuri]

Originally Posted by Jessnet 

ETA:    Here's a question.

Do different men have different rates of pre-ejaculate. Do some have a lot and some have next to none? Is it even variable enough that pre-ejaculate quantities depend on excitement? And could that help explain the differing rates of conception with this method? I could google this answer, but I am feeling lazy right now   just throwing it out there.

Yes, yes, yes and I don't think so - sperm play a fairly active role 

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Originally Posted by wendyland 

I just came to this board to pretty much ask the same question.  I want to have my iud removed, but we aren't sure if we want to do anything permanent yet.  I'm 98% sure that I don't want anymore.  I used withdrawl for probably 15 years and only got pregnant the 4 times we tried.  After seeing so many first hand pregnancies, I'm not sure what to do. 

I would personally not rely on this method if I were 98%. 
 

[Julchen31]

Me

[mauraa629]

that's how I got pregnant with our first.  Had worked for about 5 years without a problem before that tho.

[teraze]

This method was effective for me and my now-husband for YEARS.  We eventually got pregnant the traditional, sort of newly-wed "if it happens, excellent, if not, no problem" way.  With that said, I would absolutely NOT use the pull-out method if getting pregnant would be a disaster...that's just me, though!  To each her own, as they say...  :)

[Lenasmama]

I'm pregnant with a baby conceived with the pull and pray too.

[mama_Agnieszka]

Originally Posted by Lenasmama 

I'm pregnant with a baby conceived with the pull and pray too.

My second was conceived this way.  Pre-ejaculate did it!!!  And... I was 4 days before ovulation.

[eli's mama]

Me too.

[XanaduMama]

Haven't read any of the responses, but just wanted to chime in to say that withdrawal is really effective--IF you use it correctly. dh and I have been using it successfully for about 10 years--both kids were planned. Your dh has to be committed to it, obviously, but also needs to be, ahem, in good control of things. Maybe practice for a while using a backup, just so he gets the hang of the timing, especially--he needs to pull out in good time before anything happens.

The really important rule we learned was also that, if ejaculation has happened within the previous *12 hours* (sex, masturbation, whatever), then you should consider it UNSAFE and either avoid or use backup methods. I believe this to be true, and think failure to observe this rule is responsible for most of the failures of this method.

[rainbow_mandala]

Originally Posted by XanaduMama

The really important rule we learned was also that, if ejaculation has happened within the previous *12 hours* (sex, masturbation, whatever), then you should consider it UNSAFE and either avoid or use backup methods. I believe this to be true, and think failure to observe this rule is responsible for most of the failures of this method.

Thanks for the tip!   Withdrawal always worked for me and my ex...and he even would wait until the last second (didn't have to use his hand or any sort of stimulation when he'd pull out in order to ejaculate)...he's just the type of person that has really great self-control.  Speaking of which, I think it also depends on the man's personality...does he have a good amount of self-control in other areas of his life?  It seems to me that would be a good indicator of whether or not he'd be able to handle this type of control
 

[Marissamom]

yep. DD was conceived the one time we DTD during my fertile period, and he pulled out. it was the first time we ever DTD during my fertile period too. 

[Viola]

I've never gotten pregnant with the withdrawal method, even if I was ovulating, and we do it like mommyin2008 describes.

[Koalamom]

No pregnancies here and we used it between dd and ds, until we were ready to have more and we are using it now, but I will say it takes me a long time to get pregnant when we are actually trying so I have no idea if we help with the question at all.