***Bitter Sushi Ladies November 2010 Thread*** - Page 23

[miriam_bat_avraham]

I had the multiquotes open from earlier and now there's more to reply to!

Scarletjane, I'm so sorry about AF. :( I know that feeling all too well. :Hug

Beloved, I hope you have some good luck this month... maybe a Yuletide miracle :) Oh! That reminds me! I need to ask Santa to leave a baby under my Christmas tree this year... hopefully he'll ignore the mezuzah and "Happy Chanukah" banner on the front door... and he might be upset that we just put a multi-flue cap on our chimney...

Amanda-- Hmm, not sure about the temp jump and EWCM... but I'll stay tuned to see what tomorrow brings.

Maurine-- Glad all is well! I think you're probably in the clear, too... but I understand that after months and even years of uncertainty with TTC, it's hard to feel a sense of "so this is really it? I just ride this out for a while and then I get a baby? It's that simple???"

[BelovedK]

LOL Miriam, I always say that Santa is the spirit of giving, maybe he will be giving to us on the TTC journey. A Yuletide miracle would be exciting :)  

ETA, my boobs are sore, just realized, maybe that means I Od, if that is so it is good timing.

Edited by BelovedK - 11/29/10 at 6:54pm

[Jane]

CD1 today.  But I got to snuggle with a cute rainbow baby. 

[LessTraveledBy]

Originally Posted by miriam_bat_avraham 

LTB-- I love reading about how you are making peace with this journey and embracing adoption. You seem so positive about it!  I really hope you bump into someone at church whose niece's cousin's daughter is having a baby and looking to put the child up for adoption :Hug

Thank you! You know, it is easy to be excited when something is so new... and when you finally have something new on your mind. However, yeah.. That exact scenario is basically what we would need. I have told a couple of friends and now I am wondering whether to tell dh's family  members. They know a lot of people, so I should tell to spread the word... but it is a bit hard for me (and probably more so for dh) so share this particular matter.

[Sweet.Bee]

lavatea, you mentioned you were sick, right? Maybe the jump is a fever. I had a great jump on CD18, and I was so excited, but it was just a fever because it came down again. It took a few days to come all the way down to pre-O temps, so FF even thought I had ovulated until I typed in yesterday's + OPK. Are you taking OPKs this cycle?

[rcr]

Originally Posted by Maurine 

Thanks for the reassurance!  No, I've never had a miscarriage, and also never been pregnant.  I think with positive OPKs, I bet you've ovulated.  Your themometer totally sounds broken!
 

It better be broken. I always though I at least O'd. I didn't bother temping this morning.

Originally Posted by LessTraveledBy 

Thank you! You know, it is easy to be excited when something is so new... and when you finally have something new on your mind. However, yeah.. That exact scenario is basically what we would need. I have told a couple of friends and now I am wondering whether to tell dh's family  members. They know a lot of people, so I should tell to spread the word... but it is a bit hard for me (and probably more so for dh) so share this particular matter.

We are considering adoption too, and I am not sure if I want the whole world to know. I kinda feel that if they know we are adopting, they will know we are having trouble conceiving, y/k. And only one close friend knows the truth (well, I have told my mom, but she has Alzheimer's, so she forgets it about a minute after I tell her). I understand not wanting to share.

Not much to report here. I didn't temp. I have a dentist appointment coming up, and I am afraid to go because the last two appointments were in the TWW and I asked for no xrays. They try to push it, but I say no. Last time they said, "well, you didn't have any xrays last time either, so if you don't do them now, you really will need the full set next time" I said ok. Now, I am either going to have to cancel the appointment (which I will probably do), or insist on no xrays again, and hear them push it. I wonder if they know why... maybe I am paranoid. It is hard to get an appointment because there aren't many dentist's around here, so I will probably have to wait a few months before I can get in again. ugh (and then it will probably happen to be in the TWW).

Jane, Sorry about CD1.

ETA - Oh, and nobody has volunteered to be threadkeeper. I don't mind doing it for another month, but I'll be gone for a while toward the end of December, so if anybody wants to do it, let me know today.

And, any changes to the front page? Collie, want me to add your m/c (sorry)?

[Kyamo]

Originally Posted by Maurine 

Originally Posted by Kyamo 

Well, they did end up triggering me today, so the IUI is tomorrow.  So I guess there is still a chance for this cycle.   

Whoo hoo!  How many did you end up having?  I've heard of them triggering with 6, and I've also heard people can get pregnant with a lining as low as 3 or 4...  My fingers are crossed for you, hon!

3 or 4 could ovulate.  My lining was 5mm I think.  

It's done now, I have been sent home with progesterone suppositories.  I don't have to go back until my beta on the 17th, glad to be done with all the many many visits.  That seems really late for a beta to me, but whatever.    

Originally Posted by miriam_bat_avraham 

I had the multiquotes open from earlier and now there's more to reply to!

Scarletjane, I'm so sorry about AF. :( I know that feeling all too well. :Hug

Beloved, I hope you have some good luck this month... maybe a Yuletide miracle :) Oh! That reminds me! I need to ask Santa to leave a baby under my Christmas tree this year... hopefully he'll ignore the mezuzah and "Happy Chanukah" banner on the front door... and he might be upset that we just put a multi-flue cap on our chimney...

Amanda-- Hmm, not sure about the temp jump and EWCM... but I'll stay tuned to see what tomorrow brings.

Maurine-- Glad all is well! I think you're probably in the clear, too... but I understand that after months and even years of uncertainty with TTC, it's hard to feel a sense of "so this is really it? I just ride this out for a while and then I get a baby? It's that simple???"

LOL at the multi-flue cap.  Don't worry, my parents house had a fireplace insert, and santa still came.  
 

Originally Posted by rcr 

ETA - Oh, and nobody has volunteered to be threadkeeper. I don't mind doing it for another month, but I'll be gone for a while toward the end of December, so if anybody wants to do it, let me know today.

I would do it, but I will also be gone for some time in the end of December.  I can take a month in 2011 though.  

[Jane]

I'll be threadkeeper.

[lavatea]

Originally Posted by Sweet.Bee 

lavatea, you mentioned you were sick, right? Maybe the jump is a fever. I had a great jump on CD18, and I was so excited, but it was just a fever because it came down again. It took a few days to come all the way down to pre-O temps, so FF even thought I had ovulated until I typed in yesterday's + OPK. Are you taking OPKs this cycle?

I think that's what it was. It went back down this morning. Probably the first time I've been grateful I didn't O early. I don't use OPKs. I'm thinking about starting them if we don't conceive this cycle.

[BelovedK]

Ya know? The DT in my area has stopped carrying OPKs and HPTs :(

[rcr]

Originally Posted by Jane 

I'll be threadkeeper.

Thanks. The colors got messed up from the switch, and now half of the colors are black (which is strange because when I click on edit they still show up as the original colors). I'll try to change it today, but I have a meeting this afternoon that may run late so I don't know if I'll get around to it.

[LessTraveledBy]

Originally Posted by rcr 

We are considering adoption too, and I am not sure if I want the whole world to know. I kinda feel that if they know we are adopting, they will know we are having trouble conceiving, y/k. And only one close friend knows the truth

Well, in our case it is not that. It is clear to everyone that we have not been able to conceive again. (Dd will turn 6 soon and everyone knows we have never used contraception and that we would like lots of kids.) However... This is just a bit raw... I guess I feel like people would pity us and talk about us. ("They haven't been able to "even" adopt"... "They can't afford adoption due to the choices they have made", etc. This meaning that fact that I have always stayed at home with dd, even though she is so "big.") Some of the relatives love to talk and, I suppose, in this case there is that small chance that it could work to our advantage. However, it just hurts to be a topic of discussion due to infertility. I am sure we have been, though.... many times. There is also the issue that they know our finances and it could some across as if we were hoping that they would pay for at least part of the adoption. (They owe us nothing and we would never ask. It is just that they have money and we have very little money, so it really could come across like "You know that this is totally impossible, but if someone gave us money, it could happen.) Actually, I almost fear that my folks would offer us a loan or something because they are so super good to us.

It is a real difficulty to me: We wouldn't need a loan for any purpose. You know, you can always wait some years to buy a house, etc. This, due to having to do with humans, is basically the only thing that cannot wait the same way. Dd is growing so fast... I so wish she could have a sibling now and not when she is 10. I do pray for a miracle... Our daughter has always loved babies and it feels so unfair that she is the only kid in our circle of friends without a sibling. Back to meditating on the fact that life is not even supposed to be fair. (Just got done with this when it comes to infertility... and now it seems I am right there again.)

[jessica_s]

I'm still around here lurking (this thread saved my sanity, can't let it go!) but I wanted to chime in on the adoption topic. Through a lot of complicated and unfortunate circumstances a niece and nephew of mine may be put up for adoption as soon as the spring- family is considered first but there is no one for whom taking them wouldn't be a serious hardship and it may be a unwise idea anyway because the mother is mentally unstable (and has been threatening to family in the past). For the sake of everyone involved it might be better if the kids were some distance from her (or at least not all in the same small town). They are both under 4 and the idea of having tried so hard to have kids then having something like this happen in our family is really devastating. :(

All this to say, those children are out there, I hope that you find each other. 

[miriam_bat_avraham]

One of the children in my class has an almost one-month-old baby brother who came in at pick-up today. HE HAS SO MUCH HAIR. It's like a little golden wig! He has a squishy little man-face, too, not a baby face at all. So sweet and adorable. I love funny-looking babies.

Another child, this one from my class last year, has a baby sister who was born on Saturday. We got a photo in our email. Little lady looks just like her big sister, down to the straight-across eyebrows that make Big Sister look gentle and concerned.

So many sweet little babies all around me. It's rough lately. I just have no energy left for hope. I know that's silly because this is only cycle 3 of Clomid and cycle 2 of IUI. I'm wishing more and more that we were just doing IVF. I'd like a 60% success rate. It's been a long time since I felt like I had a better chance of success than failure.

Sorry to be a big ol' downer, ladies. Maybe tomorrow I'll be back to upbeat like I was before.

[BelovedK]

Miriam, allow yourself your moods (as it sounds like you are) I am sure you will rediscover your 'happy' soon. I am sending good vibes and thoughts.

I was adopted, long ago. I got an awesome family, I'm all for it.  Sending positive thoughts to all of you who are considering that option.

xo

[Jane]

http://www.mothering.com/community/forum/thread/1282750/bitter-sushi-ladies-december-edition
New thread!
Up for December 1st. It had lots of old coding in it. It has No coding in it now. I'll pretty it up later.