Nursing Mamas TTC November - Page 3

[ms_quoted]

Thanks for all the encouragement ladies

Yes, it was scary and I am not exactly sure how things are going to look for me from now on since I only have the one fallopian tube.

Sending labor vibes your way (and of course saving some for myself )

[sraplayas]

earth_mama--thanks for sharing your experience.

wow. there's alot going on with everyone these past few days! hugs and prayers for you all.

afm--BFN today and no more tests in the box. still feeling like AF is coming so I'll start looking for ways to "help nature along"...

[Vegan Princess]

AF found me. Bah! I am hopeful about this next month though. And if I conceive this month, my due date will be 8/14...and if I go 2 weeks early, like last time, the baby will be born on my b-day! I can't think of a better present than a new baby!! This will be my first full cycle of not nursing. And I plan to do soy again.

Cindy

[CrunchyKatie]

Hugs to you, Kami! I cannot even begin to imagine! I hope you gain some clarity soon as to what is going on...

As for me I have been taking 400mg vitex and my B-50 complex as well as temping,CM, CP, and ferning. Still no eggies, though. I have learned a lot since finding my cervix at least. CD 39, hum dee dum.

[lifeguard]

I haven't updated in a long time. I'm on cd 14 of a 150mg clomid cycle. Oy, I hope this one works - I'm sooooo irritable all the time & find I feel like I'm out of control of my temper so easily. I haven't had a positive opk yet but my temp was up a little this morning, we'll see what tomorrow brings.

Does anyone else ever wish that dtd & conceiving were not related? I feel like this is destroying our sex life. And the having to do it when I'm feeling so emotionally destroyed really is no fun at all.

[Baby_Cakes]

lifeguard.

It gets a little hairy around O time here, too. I find that dtd after O helps us repair the whole "sex = baby only" aspect of our intimate relationship. We can have a little more fun, be a little more relaxed. It's only for us and we know it. Of course, we try to keep it light during the fertile time too, but by the 3rd or 4th time, we're both kind of done.

7dpo here and the time is draggingggggg...

[SoCaliMommy]

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Cindy~ on af showing up

sraplayas~ on the bfn

CrunchyKatie~ that you O soon.

lifeguard~

Baby_Cakes~

[jillybeans]

Hi everyone. I suppose you should take me off the list. *sigh* Dd is pretty much weaned, despite my constant pushing (going on week 2 of consistent refusal) Going to keep trying with her, but technically I'm not still a "nursing mama" So it's off to TOT for me. I'll miss you guys!

[naturallyspeaking]

HI guys, just checking in.
I still haven't started charting so I don't know what my cycle is yet (since I just had my first PPAF for shorter than normal length) but I've been having some mucus and I feel my body is opening up for business LOL again.
I still have doubts and not enough confidence about being preggo with young nursing baby. I'm getting old and I don't want to wait. I see, read many moms with kids less than 18 months, 2 years apart and I need comforting words... I already have 2 young ladies that I know that became preggo within this past weeks with their last child being 12 months.
Does your nursling always nurse when they go to sleep (either nap or at night)? My son will nurse all day as long as I'm laying down on the bed or sitting on a chair (in front of the computer).
...

[littlestinkers]

Tomorrow is my last day of provera so it looks like I might get ppaf Sunday or Monday. Last time I took provera I didn't get ppaf just tiny spot and then about 20 days later I got pg... I wonder what well happen this time..

[SoCaliMommy]

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jillybeans~ on weaning.

littlestinkers~ that you get a + instead of ppaf

[zjande]

Originally Posted by naturallyspeaking

HI guys, just checking in.
I still haven't started charting so I don't know what my cycle is yet (since I just had my first PPAF for shorter than normal length) but I've been having some mucus and I feel my body is opening up for business LOL again.
I still have doubts and not enough confidence about being preggo with young nursing baby. I'm getting old and I don't want to wait. I see, read many moms with kids less than 18 months, 2 years apart and I need comforting words... I already have 2 young ladies that I know that became preggo within this past weeks with their last child being 12 months.
Does your nursling always nurse when they go to sleep (either nap or at night)? My son will nurse all day as long as I'm laying down on the bed or sitting on a chair (in front of the computer).
...

Remind me how old your nursling is? And you have just one child?

I didn't have children close in age until I had my 4th. He came 24 mos after the last baby. Then my next baby came 21 mos after that. In my experience, everything gets easier & easier & easier with time & experience. For the 1st couple weeks after I had my 4th baby, it did feel super stressful! I cried a couple times because I felt guilty for not being able to drop everything & help my toddler. And because I *really* wanted to get a shower. lol But, that was only a couple weeks. And then, after I had the next baby 21 mos after that? There was little stress. Honestly, only a little bit here & there for a few days. And there was no crying. I knew what to expect, I knew how quickly we'd find our new routine. And here I am with a 12 mos old impatiently TTC again!

So much of it is in our minds & attitudes. In my humble opinion. If we tell ourselves over & over "this is going to be so darn impossible, ug what am I doing with all these kids/responsibilities" etc., then that is what our attitude will be. And it will feel impossible! But if we focus on all the lovely positives, and never forget to savor this veryveryvery short, magical time that we have to spend with our brand new baby, and when we start to feel the stress adrenalin building up we inhale & kiss our baby on the delicious head.... things can feel much different.

I love turning to large family blogs for inspiration. I'll share a couple here, with a warning- they are extremely Christian in content so if that offends anyone, refrain from clicking. Raising Arrows, Raising Olives, Closely Spaced, My Blessed Home. You could also surf around the Mega Family Blogs site. If there is anywhere to read joyous, wonderful things about having kids close in age, those places would definitely help. And they are FULL of practical advice on how the heck to DO it.

As for your other question, my baby does always nurse to sleep. My past nurslings did that all the way through my pregnancy as well.

Anyway, I apologize for going off on a tangent here, ladies!

[lifeguard]

Thanks zjande - I always find reading blogs about larger families interesting.

My temp dropped this morning so I'm hoping that means it is the dip before o. Still no positive opk - in fact most of them are giving only a control line - the test line is so faint.

[sarahmck]

Does anyone else spot for a day half way between CD1 and O day? I never used to spot ever for any reason. Then in March I spotted for the first time at an odd time. CD10, I think. I got pregnant that cycle. I O around day 18-20. I miscarried that baby.

I've had three cycles since then and I have spotted in each one around day 8-10 very lightly for one day. Does this happen to anyone else? Today is spotting day for this cycle.

[Daisy420]

CONGRATS Tourist. Wooohoooo!!!!!

Sorry I haven't been here lately, just a bit busy...can't wait to hear about more November BFPs!!!

[Daisy420]

Man Kami~So sorry about the u/s....I'm praying that maybe they missed something!!! If anyone here deserves to be pg, it sure as heck is you!!!!! KUP and try to stay positive girl!

So sorry to you Deb for your loss I had an early m/c in 03 at about 5 wks...it was really hard on me. You would think it would be easier if its sooner, but not always the case. Take care of yourself......

[earth-mama]

Okay, here's a temping question. A little background, my DD has been waking up in the middle of the night and I bring her into our bed, then she proceeds to nurse frequently until we get up. Also she has taken to kicking the blankets off of herself (and me :). I believe that I recently O'd, by CM and am waiting on my temp shift. However, knowing that she has been nursing so much it is quite possible that O has been delayed.

I thought that my temp should have gone up yesterday, but it remained close to the same as the day before (also a night where DD kept kicking the covers off). This morning I temped at 7:10 and it was 97.4 (a small rise from yesterday). Then DH took DD and I slept for another hour took my temp and it was 98.2! Which temp would you use?

I want to use the higher one as I want to confirm O and feel that it is the more accurate one. I put it into my chart, but made a note of the other temp. I figure that I can see what today's CM is like and what my temp is tomorrow and change todays temp if I need to.

Let me know what you think. I don't remember right now how to link my chart, but it is linked on the first page

[sarahmck]

We can't see the times on your chart, earth-mama. What time do you normally temp? How far off was the time of the high temp today?

I've also wondered about the whole cover thing. But I always note when I'm cold when I wake up and it never really seems to affect the temp pattern. Time doesn't affect me hugely either unless I sleep in as you've described. If I wake earlier than usual it's usually not too much different from my normal waking time temp. But If my kids get up and I stay in bed it seems like it's generally more significantly higher when I temp again. However that happens so amazingly rarely (wah, poor me) that I can't really say for sure.

I guess my advice is what charting advice almost always is: wait and see what tomorrow brings. Annoying, I know.

[CrunchyKatie]

earth-mama, I would use the first temp if it were me. I have just been discarding anything questionable and my overall pattern is making a lot more sense that way. I would keep both temps and times in your notes in case it makes more sense later on and you have something to obsess over in the 2ww.

[zjande]

Confession time. I know that if anyone can relate to me it's gonna be you TTC nursing mamas.

This is crazy personal & probably way TMI, but here goes. I have no libido when I am not ovulating. In other words, all the time that I am pregnant & then breastfeeding before my AF returns. I still *have fun* with my wonderful husband because he deserves it & I love him like mad, but I am far from ~lusTy~. Y'know?

But now. I'm about to ovulate for the 2nd time since our last baby was born 12 mos ago, & OMG am I lusty with a capital L. And it's really super fun. I feel like a slinky s*x kitten who wants to flash my gorgeous husband & do other naughty things that I am sure he would just love. And here's my confession- it makes me sad. Because I never feel this way except for those few ovulations I have between babies! I love having my babies. I love having lots of them, love having a large family, and hope to have even more babies before my fertility wanes. But MAN do I miss these lovely, fun, sexy feelings. I'd really like to feel this way more often. Instead I usually feel just kinda blah, like, I take care of myself & everything, but I'm not doing anything special & exciting for my wonderful husband. I mean, he's a guy, he likes some naughtiness from his woman now & then, right? Sexy clothes, naughty looks, my initiating *fun*.... but I almost never do those things normally because my libido is just not there.

My dh has been away all day & lemme tell ya, I've been fantasizing about him alllll day long. I really wish it wasn't such a rare thing for me to feel this way. This is how I felt throughout nearly all of my 20s. Super sexy.

So. Blah. What a ridiculous reason to think about postponing TTC, huh? I just really miss these feelings!

Am I alone here? Any of the rest of you have zero libido except when ovulating?