Survived DS's first overnight with STBX

[simplemama32]

DS had his first overnight with daddy on Saturday night. Assuming STBX is telling the whole truth, DS did great. Went to sleep by 8:15, and slept all the way through the night until 8:00 the next morning, which he has never done in his life. I'm caught between feeling a huge amount of relief, and feeling a little snarky because STBX has been confident for months that DS would be able to handle an overnight, no problem, but I kept delaying because I didn't believe it. It really sucks to have to eat your words!

I feel like I've just gone through one of the big "divorced single-mom initiations" or something. It was awful, I didn't sleep the whole night DS was gone...but we both survived. I can't believe I'm going to have to do this on a regular basis...

[Learning_Mum]

TBH, you will probably start looking forward to those nights off, very soon! The first couple of times the kids went with their Dad I cried when they pulled out of the drive but it was only a few weeks before I was saying "Bye Darling! See you soon! Have fun!" and then breathing a sigh of relief

Oddly, the boys always slept better at their Dad's as well. DS2 would sleep through the night there but would still wake a couple of times a night here. Used to bug me so much that HE got to have a full night's sleep still and I didn't!

[Super~Single~Mama]

My ds sleeps better at dad's too. Drives me nuts, but it is what it is.

I also have started to look forward to my nights off as I call them, but I don't really DO anything but study yet, I'm sure once I have time to have a life it will be better (or I'll just sit around and watch tv, whatever).

[josybear]

overnights are the times that i don't have to deal with bedtime drama or the trauma of trying to get them to daycare on time in the morning. who cares if all i do is study? the solitude is glorious.
(but i do miss my boys )

[meemee]

sorry simplemama. you will see other things ds does easily at dads. doesnt mean it is easy. it means ds doesnt want to deal with the bull**** with dad.

as my dd put it 'mama you understand me, dad doesnt'.

so no you dont have to eat your words.

however for now things might go well initially and then things might not be as hunky dory as stbx said it was.

but i will relate i was much too protective of dd too.

however be careful - you might see his behaviour at home get worse. typical.

and oh yeah girl. you will look forward to those overnights too. doesnt mean you will not miss ds. but you will have much more appreciation for your own time.