November 2010 Infertility One Thread - Page 8

[rhiandmoi]

Wallabi - Is it a full on AF? Maybe it is midcycle bleeding and not AF.

Lesliesara - Can't wait to see you officially join the graduates list!!

Milletpuff - Be gentle with yourself. If adoption is your next step, I hope you are matched quickly.

As for me - My emotions are all up and down right now. I have had a tiny bit of extremely light spotting the last 2 days (CD 24 and 25). This is not unusual for me, but usually it gets heavier and heavier and then after spotting for 2-3 days AF will show up full force. This spotting is most evident in the morning and then gets lighter and lighter all day. I also don't really feel all that PMSish. Like I am not craving sugar or salt right now. So I keep thinking - well I'm probably pregnant! Then I think - That is so unlikely, it's probably something weird going on with my hormones. Then I think - I could still be pregnant! Then I think - What are the chances of that. Be logical. Then I think - Well it is only CD 25 and I'm not charting, so let's just wait it out and see what happens.

I am kind of glad I am not a POAS-aholic because I am sure I would have dozens of BFNs by now. So I'm just waiting it out. If AF doesn't show by Monday, I'll order some tests online which will put me testing maybe in a week.

[Silverbird]

 So I'm feeling really rubbish today.

Finally got our re appoinmnet on 10 dec which I should be happy about.

But the litrature says it's an 18 month waiting list for IVF!!!!!

Bang goes my fantices of having a babe in arms by this time next year!

It's so unfair.  I want to have a baby by haivng sex.

Atually I'd love to be able to have sex!

I'd even love to have normal fetility problems so I could at least have a tiny chance each month.  So I could use herbs and diet.

And of course I feel guilty for windging.  My husbands lost the use of his legs, penis, bladder and bowls.  I guess having to wait a while for a baby's nothing compared to that.

[MoOnFiReGlOw]

Originally Posted by Silverbird 

 So I'm feeling really rubbish today.

Finally got our re appoinmnet on 10 dec which I should be happy about.

But the litrature says it's an 18 month waiting list for IVF!!!!!

Bang goes my fantices of having a babe in arms by this time next year!

It's so unfair.  I want to have a baby by haivng sex.

Atually I'd love to be able to have sex!

I'd even love to have normal fetility problems so I could at least have a tiny chance each month.  So I could use herbs and diet.

And of course I feel guilty for windging.  My husbands lost the use of his legs, penis, bladder and bowls.  I guess having to wait a while for a baby's nothing compared to that.

Oh hun I'm so sorry it wasn't the news you were hoping for! I'm glad you got the process started. To me, its so much easier to at least have a date and time line of things to come instead of everything up in the air. My husband had a spinal injury as well and I completely understand the frustration that goes along with it

AFM - Well I'm 5 or 7 dpo depending on where you put me. I think I agree with how FF has it right now, but part of me thinks there is a small chance I could have O'd a few days later. It doesn't really matter either way bd wise so I guess I'll wait and see! Anyone else have an opinion? Now I'm just hoping his sperm count is up!

http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/MoOnFiReGlOw

Edit to add: sevenslings.com is having a promotion for a FREE sling! All you have to pay for is the shipping. I know it seems far away, but I am fully confident that all of us being pregnant is a matter of WHEN not IF so I went ahead and got one hoping I'll get to use it soon! The promo code is 'Thanksgiving'.

HAPPY THANKSGIVING ALL!!!

[Silverbird]

Thanks moonfire glow.  Good luck for this month!

Do you mind me asking more about your husbands injury? What effect it's had and when he got it? Understand if you don't I get fed up talking about it sometimes.

[MoOnFiReGlOw]

Originally Posted by Silverbird 

Thanks moonfire glow.  Good luck for this month!

Do you mind me asking more about your husbands injury? What effect it's had and when he got it? Understand if you don't I get fed up talking about it sometimes.

Oh not at all He had L4 - S1 discs torn as well as dessicated and herniations of several discs above. We went to a surgical consult and we were told there was nothing they could do with such an extensive injury. He was in a wheelchair and completely helpless for 1year. He hated and despised having to depend on me for everything b/c he felt that it was unfair that I had to deal with all the boys and he was basically another child. We dealt with a ton of depression and such during that time as well. I ended up trading in our car for an old suburban to fit the wheelchair in and dropped all but 2 classes school wise so I could take him to his dr. appts.

Sexually, as you already know, the nerves and responses for the penis are controlled/embedded in that lower lumbar/upper sacral area. So for the past year and a half he was RARELY ever in the mood, if ever. Getting him going took over an hour to get any response at all, and if I did get a response, taking advantage of it was difficult b/c of how much pain he was in from the back injury. On average we were only able to dtd about once, or twice a month if we were lucky. We found out not long after that the medications he was on KILLED his sperm count and caused the enzyme around the head of the sperm to mutate to where it couldn't penetrate the egg. So even if we were lucky enough to get the timing right and have sperm up there to meet the egg, it wouldn't be able to fertilize it.

Finally we took things into our own hands and did the rehabilitation on our own pace. My husband was able to get 'electricity' feelings in his legs, so I began to do massages up and down the legs 3 times a day as well as other exercises to help strengthen up the muscles that had started to atrophy. I started to assist him with walking around the house so he could use his legs and bought a cane and crutches to get him out of the chair. He was out of the chair in a few months! Then he slowly moved from the cane to unassisted walking, then to 'comfortable' walking. The final hurdle was getting him off the meds. He was still in a huge amount of pain! I felt bad, but we needed him off the medications so we could see how he was really feeling. We tried to wean him off and that didn't work so he just gave all his meds to me and I hid them. A week later he was med free and surprisingly relatively pain free! Now we are trying to see if there was any lasting damage done to his sperm or if we are just out of luck.

The whole process took around 2 years or so and we've been trying for about 1.5 years or so of that. It was definitely not easy! He still has days where he is in some pain, but nothing that an advil can't take care of vs. using the extreme pain meds he was on before.

Feel free to message me if you want hun! I have not problem talking about it at all.

[zanelee]

Wow. Silverbird and MFG-Ya'll are amazing women!

I cannot imagine the hardships that you have both dealt with, and what your husbands had to/are dealing with. Not just in the getting pregnant area.

I am awed by you two! :)

[jenger]

Originally Posted by MoOnFiReGlOw 

Originally Posted by Silverbird 

 So I'm feeling really rubbish today.

Finally got our re appoinmnet on 10 dec which I should be happy about.

But the litrature says it's an 18 month waiting list for IVF!!!!!

Bang goes my fantices of having a babe in arms by this time next year!

It's so unfair.  I want to have a baby by haivng sex.

Atually I'd love to be able to have sex!

I'd even love to have normal fetility problems so I could at least have a tiny chance each month.  So I could use herbs and diet.

And of course I feel guilty for windging.  My husbands lost the use of his legs, penis, bladder and bowls.  I guess having to wait a while for a baby's nothing compared to that.

Oh hun I'm so sorry it wasn't the news you were hoping for! I'm glad you got the process started. To me, its so much easier to at least have a date and time line of things to come instead of everything up in the air. My husband had a spinal injury as well and I completely understand the frustration that goes along with it

AFM - Well I'm 5 or 7 dpo depending on where you put me. I think I agree with how FF has it right now, but part of me thinks there is a small chance I could have O'd a few days later. It doesn't really matter either way bd wise so I guess I'll wait and see! Anyone else have an opinion? Now I'm just hoping his sperm count is up!

http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/MoOnFiReGlOw

Edit to add: sevenslings.com is having a promotion for a FREE sling! All you have to pay for is the shipping. I know it seems far away, but I am fully confident that all of us being pregnant is a matter of WHEN not IF so I went ahead and got one hoping I'll get to use it soon! The promo code is 'Thanksgiving'.

HAPPY THANKSGIVING ALL!!!

You both ARE amazing.

And I just bought a sling.  Thanks for the tip! That's quite a deal.  Maybe I can give it away as a gift.. That way it won't sit in the closet taunting me...

Happy Thanksgiving, everyone!

[MoOnFiReGlOw]

Thanks guys

Name: MoOnFiReGlOw

Date: November 27

Where are you in your cycle: CD 31, 9dpo

Symptoms if they apply: Have had to pee a lot, but I've also upped my liquids this week so I'm assuming its just the cause/effect thing and not really a sign.

When are you thinking of testing? December 1 is my test date. I'll be 13dpo and I've never made it that far...

Thoughts: I'm a bit anxious since I'm back in the final stretch of the 2ww, but my temps are crap, so I'm not too hopeful.

Appointments: None

Any new regimes, ie herbs, medications, mantras etc: Nope!

Do you have any stress triggers: My classes are really stressing me out right now. Finals are coming up and one of my teachers is making completely unrealistic demands, so we will see how that goes...

What is working to help you be stress-free this cycle: Knitting and chanting 'Only 2 more weeks of school'

Partner's feelings if applicable: Not really here nor there. He just got a new job so he's pretty excited about that.

Plans for the weekend: Homework

[Silverbird]

Thanks guys!

And thanks moonfireglow.  I can never remember dh's sipinal numbers but he's paralised from the waist down.  So yer we've got all the assoiated issues of no erection or ejectulation and a ton of meds.  Luckily he froze a donation before xmas so hopeflu we can use that.

That's great that you were able to rebilitae your dh like that! Does he wlak all the time now or does he need a chair for long distances?

I'm lucky that dh is really capable in the chair. Now the house is adapted he can totaly look after himself (and me too sometimes)

Weekend Wrap-Up
Name: Silverbird
Age: 29
TTC #: 1
CD: 3
DPO (if applicable):
Testing: nope
Trying Since: June 2010
Plan for this Cycle: doctors appoinment and begin reserching clinics.
Link to Chart (if applicable):
Thoughts: I really don't want to wait 18 moths!
 

[wallabi]

thanks for the niceness and looking at my chart last week! I have been seeing too much of AF lately!! I am still inclined to think I ovulated last cycle, on cd7, with an lp of 8 days, as my temps dropped right back down at the start of this cycle and have stayed down. Uuuugggh. I don`t want AF to visit every two weeks! But on the upside, I have something concrete to take to the doctor (I see ob/gyn/infertility clinic section of a medium-sized hospital, so not an RE, exactly, but they do infertility treatment and testing and refer me in-house for bloodwork and hsg and the like), as that is the third absurdly short cycle in a row and looking back over my charts, I see several 21 and 22 day cycles over the past 5 months or so.

Name: Wallabi

Date: November 29(monday)

Where are you in your cycle: cd5

Thoughts: still grumbling at my body - too  many periods, headaches and general wiped-outed-ness of late. I am sort of coming to grips with being unwell much of the time, which sucks big time as far as infertility and life in general, but it has been a good thing in so far as I am going to get myself off to the doctor this week and try to get some help, and ask for testing for anemia, thyroid and any vitamin and mineral levels they suggest, and hope that gets me movin` in a better direction.

Appointments: Stopping by the gyn today to ask for thyroid and vit/mineral testing, and a referral to the endocrinology department to discuss autoimmune diseases in general and celiac disease and autoimmune thyroid disease in particular. I hope. I have to pull this off in whatever combination of my Japanese and the dr`s English that we can manage.

Any new regimes, ie herbs, medications, mantras etc: no, but hopefully the dr`s will suggest something

Do you have any stress triggers: life is pretty busy right now, as it always is this time of year with harvest time and outdoor market event type things going on, but happily we made it through a visit by FIL last week with minimal stress, so things should be looking up!

What is working to help you be stress-free this cycle: errr..I am open to suggestions

Plans for the weekend: whoops - weekend is gone. hope you all had a nice one!

[CDsMom1031]

Hi all! I'd like to join. I'm also in the TTC Forum, but I feel like this thread is very fitting for me.

Weekend Wrap-Up
Name: Nicole
Age: 22
TTC #: 1
CD: 18
DPO (if applicable): 2-3
Testing: In 9 days!!!
Trying Since: October 2009
Plan for this Cycle: Prenatal, B-Complex, DH is taking Vitamin C
Link to Chart (if applicable):
Thoughts: I'm so tired of everyone getting pregnant besides me. It's MY turn. COME ONNN BABY.

[lesliesara63]

Originally Posted by TTCChloeOrConner 

Hi all! I'd like to join. I'm also in the TTC Forum, but I feel like this thread is very fitting for me.

Weekend Wrap-Up
Name: Nicole
Age: 22
TTC #: 1
CD: 18
DPO (if applicable): 2-3
Testing: In 9 days!!!
Trying Since: October 2009
Plan for this Cycle: Prenatal, B-Complex, DH is taking Vitamin C
Link to Chart (if applicable):
Thoughts: I'm so tired of everyone getting pregnant besides me. It's MY turn. COME ONNN BABY.

Welcome and good luck! How cool that you already have your names picked out!

AFM 5w1d - lots of worrying about the baby this week. My dh is worried about how many babies and I'm just worried about staying pregnant. I haven't had any more spotting since Thursday morning so that is good. I have had some random pains in the top of my stomach today. Not sure if that is from the bloating or gas or what. Otherwise I'm just feeling appropriately crappy and looking forward to more of the same in the coming weeks. Just doing my best to not lose my mind while I wait for the u/s on Dec 8.

[wallabi]

Welcome, TTCChloeorConner! Hope your stay is short! It looks like you`ve been TTCing just over a year now, are you beginning infertility testing and all that fun stuff now?

LeslieSara - sticky vibes, sticky vibes!! I can`t imagine how much the worrying must suck - here`s to Dec8th coming soon and bringing you mountains of reassurance and joy!!

AFM - went to the gyn yesterday with my too many periods, too much exhaustion sob story and came away with a scrip for 10 days of progesterone drug (forget what is is called - its different from what I have seen most people here take, and my googling of it came up mostly in Japanese), which, I guess, can`t hurt, right? She was sort of off-handed about it, saying something like well, yes, your cycles are messed up, andif you weren`t ttc we`d just suggest the pill, but here, try this! So I feel kind of odd about that, but I do have a history of low progesterone, and if it keeps AF away for longer than 2 weeks at a time I`ll be happy. More promising, or at least I hope, I have an appointment in two weeks to get my thryroid checked out, and I am hoping, hoping that this will lead me to a nice, healthy state wherein making a baby might actually be a possibility!

[CDsMom1031]

No. I'm still in college, so I'm taking advantage of being able to stay on my parent's insurance to save me and DH money. We aren't going to "offically" worry about it until I'm out of school and jump onto his insurance, which will be Jan. '12. I'm hoping I can still make it happen naturally, so we've been taking vitamins and changing our lifestyle, tracking O and all of that... I guess I just don't want to admit that I may need help to get that sticky BFP... :-/ I'll face reality when I'm on DH's insurance, I'm sure. Haha.
 

Originally Posted by wallabi 

Welcome, TTCChloeorConner! Hope your stay is short! It looks like you`ve been TTCing just over a year now, are you beginning infertility testing and all that fun stuff now?

[ValH]

Hi everyone!  I'd like to join.  In the past month I've been diagnosed with LP Defect and a blocked fallopian tube. 

TTCChloeOrConner - Hey!  Funny bumping in to you here!  ;)

Weekend Wrap-Up
Name: Valerie
Age: 30
TTC #: 1
CD: 9
DPO (if applicable): n/a
Testing: Not until I'm actually late, if that ever happens (tired of the BFNs)
Trying Since: officially since January 2010, been off BC since November 2009
Plan for this Cycle: Clomid, and lots of prayer
Link to Chart (if applicable): http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/2e5d89

Thoughts: Just found out about the blocked fallopian tube today, so I'm currently feeling pretty down about the whole TTC process.  This was supposed to be fun! 

[jenger]

Welcome new ladies!  Hope you don't have to stick around here long.

I am so sad.  I will start a new cycle tomorrow - this was my first clomid cycle. 

Weekend Wrap-Up (Even though it's Tuesday... )
Name: jenger
Age: 35
TTC #:2
CD:30
DPO (if applicable):13
Testing: only if AF doesn't arrive
Trying Since: August 2009
Plan for this Cycle: Well, I am going back to the RE for the second time, after a visit in early June, where we decided to wait it out.
Link to Chart (if applicable): http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/jenger
Thoughts:it's just sad.