I didn't say "because he'll cry", as though it was just a preventative, I meant if he is
Yes, the seat belts are banned, but it is still legal to hold the babies on your lap. I find that ridiculous... unrestrained
babies are at risk.
I think Virgin will disagree with that summation of their safety standards. The child is at risk if unrestrained... at least they give an option. The US just decided to ban and now infants are on laps unrestrained. That doesn't sound exactly like stricter safety standards to me.
I understand the dynamics of it, how they can fall into a C at fast deceleration ... however, it is a 1 in 50 or 60 million chance of something happening in a plane and there was only ever one incident from 20 years ago (Sioux City) ever used, over and over again, to make the point that infants are at all this horrendous risk on their parent's lap.
The emotional well being of my child is worth that "risk", I take a greater risk standing under a tree in the rain. 14 hours is a long time for a child to be separated from his mother's body, esp one that has been exclusively AP'd, and this is MDC, I assume this mother will want to connect with her child quite a bit during the flight.
Are you suggesting to keep the baby strapped to the car seat for 14 hours, regardless of needs... or ... perhaps take a boat or car? Chances are greater the baby will die on the road 10 times before they are even hurt in a plane.
I can fulfill my baby's needs, breastfeed without doing advanced yoga positions, hold, cuddle, comfort, and he even slept on me... yet during one emotional flight when I insisted he sit on his seat with his seat belt on, I ended up in the toilet with a screaming baby for almost 2 hours - not very safe at all - because two passengers abused me, one saying I was inconsiderate for subjecting them to unrelenting screaming, and another started threatening my husband. I mean, it was very intense, my son was screaming and kicking and freaking out, we are very attached and it was like trauma to him to be forced in this way. The flight attendant's advice was for me to drug my child, "responsible parents give their children Benadryl" apparently, because "19 hours of constant travel is so hard on them."
I appreciate your point of view, but Darcy is a real life mama, and the reality is not as tidy as you are making it out to be. At some point, over 10 hours, she will
need to hold her son, and I am suggesting she use a restraint, at those times
, because turbulence is 90% more likely to be an issue, if something is to be an issue.Airline Safety dot com
is an interesting read.
This site has a great option: baby b'air
Personally, if I could have foreseen what happened to us, I'd have him in a sling, front, facing me, while he was trying to fall asleep and during times of stress. That same site has a comment
on this option, too.