November Whatever Thread - Page 8

[onetwoten]

I'm also a bit weirded out by the new format. Where did our signatures go? Can we get them back, or is it not something they're doing anymore? I like seeing everyone's -- it helps me remember how many and ages of kids you all have! lol

Babycakes: *hugs* I was hoping you were still in. We can mope together I suppose. I was considering the doctor thing again, mostly as a bit of an excuse because I'm due for a checkup anyways, but the thing is, I know it's too early for me to be worrying. This is essentially the first month we really had great timing, and one month means nothing. And I think about what she can test/check this early, and it doesn't seem worth it. I'm going to drink way more water and green tea, and the EPO this month and try to help my CF quality, because I feel like that has something to do with it. Since I quit starbucks, my CF has sucked. lol. funny reason to keep a job!

MW: Yay for CH !! Now it gets exciting!

Ok... and I need you guys to talk me down or something. So... AF started Sunday night at like 11-1130. It was heavy all day Monday, like twice the amount of tampons I usually need, and then by the time I went to bed at around 1am, it had slowed, and I just put a pad on for overnight. Which brings us to Tuesday-- I had an extremely light flow all day, I really only needed a pantyliner for it. I put a light tampon in at around 6pm, but when I went to change it when I went to bed at aruond 2 again, so a full 8 hours, even that wasn't "ready" to be changed, my flow was that light. And today so far I've had -nothing-. Anyone had anything like this? It's got me so confused, because I've never been that heavy before, and then also never had such a short af. I keep expecting to get tihs big rush, but nothing. It's stressing me out.

I told DH I was angry I got AF, because in my head, I just wasn't going to- we were pregnant. And so I was telling myself I was going to wait one or two more days until I knew I was pregnant, and then take advantage of my unexpected desire to dtd (which i pretty much neevr have, I have to make a conscious effort to get in the mood), because we wouldn't be restricted by AF. And then she came, and ruinined all my plans. He agrees now he's pissed at her too. lol

[AnnieA]

Originally Posted by Baby_Cakes 

I agree w/Annie, go for it. Test all you want!

I hope I can find peace with not charting.  I may still do opks, I'm undecided.  I want to take an active role but I don't want to be obsessive!

What if you just tracked your CF in FF? Would that stress you out?

[AnnieA]

Originally Posted by jeninejessica 

I'm also a bit weirded out by the new format. Where did our signatures go? Can we get them back, or is it not something they're doing anymore? I like seeing everyone's -- it helps me remember how many and ages of kids you all have! lol

Babycakes: *hugs* I was hoping you were still in. We can mope together I suppose. I was considering the doctor thing again, mostly as a bit of an excuse because I'm due for a checkup anyways, but the thing is, I know it's too early for me to be worrying. This is essentially the first month we really had great timing, and one month means nothing. And I think about what she can test/check this early, and it doesn't seem worth it. I'm going to drink way more water and green tea, and the EPO this month and try to help my CF quality, because I feel like that has something to do with it. Since I quit starbucks, my CF has sucked. lol. funny reason to keep a job!

MW: Yay for CH !! Now it gets exciting!

Ok... and I need you guys to talk me down or something. So... AF started Sunday night at like 11-1130. It was heavy all day Monday, like twice the amount of tampons I usually need, and then by the time I went to bed at around 1am, it had slowed, and I just put a pad on for overnight. Which brings us to Tuesday-- I had an extremely light flow all day, I really only needed a pantyliner for it. I put a light tampon in at around 6pm, but when I went to change it when I went to bed at aruond 2 again, so a full 8 hours, even that wasn't "ready" to be changed, my flow was that light. And today so far I've had -nothing-. Anyone had anything like this? It's got me so confused, because I've never been that heavy before, and then also never had such a short af. I keep expecting to get tihs big rush, but nothing. It's stressing me out.

I told DH I was angry I got AF, because in my head, I just wasn't going to- we were pregnant. And so I was telling myself I was going to wait one or two more days until I knew I was pregnant, and then take advantage of my unexpected desire to dtd (which i pretty much neevr have, I have to make a conscious effort to get in the mood), because we wouldn't be restricted by AF. And then she came, and ruinined all my plans. He agrees now he's pissed at her too. lol

The default now is for the signatures to be hidden. If you click on "My Profile" at the top and then choose profile options or something like that, you scroll down to the bottom and uncheck the box that says "hide signatures".

I've been known to POAS 2-3 days after AF has started because it just didn't seem right...

[onetwoten]

Thanks I'll try that. It helps me keep track of everyone!

I'm trying to convince myself not to POAS, but this just seems so weird. I would be convinced if the first day hadn't been so heavy, but it definately wasn't spotting, it was full on flow. In the back of my mind I think I'm kind of like "but... where is it all?" lol

[Kindermama]

Man, AF got me...a day and half late too! I haven't been this late since March. I'm glad I didn't get my hopes up but sad for my DH who really did.  We conceived so easily every other time...I'm regretting the V big time. I know with reversals, it can take some time, but, I can't help but wonder if it will ever happen. I'm trying not to go down that road, it's only been two months of decently timed BD'ing. I'm sorry BD and JJ that you have to join me another month! It sure helps to have mamas who are pretty much on the same cycle! 

[MarineWife]

I'm going to test early whether I have FRERs or not. I've got something like 20 ICs so I can test twice a day throughout my lp. I want to wait until 7dpo to start but I'll probably start at 6dpo. I can't seem to hold off any longer anymore since I read the ICs can sometimes detect hcg that early. It all depends on when implantation occurs. I did get a box of FRER because they were only *$8 at the commissary and then had a $1 or $2 off coupon on the box. I'll still paic for the frers. I'm paranoid about missing the strip and not getting enough on it and then questioning the test if it's negative. Also, that way I can use 2 different kinds and compare.

OPKs got me very obsessive, too. I still have some left so I guess I'll use those up next cycle if I need to. After they are gone I don't plan to buy any more.

I made an appointment with my doc  to discuss why I'm so tired all the time and some other wellness issues. I've been having some bad stomach problems for a while now and I really want to get to the bottom of what's causing it. It's on what will be cd3 if I'm not pregnant. That way I can get the cd3 hormones checked and find out what my FSH, LH and estrogen are like. It might give me an idea on where I am wrt perimenopause and PCOS. If I am pg, I'll need to see the doc asap so it will work out either way.

Carrie ~ You can take an active role by dtd every 2-3 days and/or dtd a lot whenever you get watery or ewcf. You wouldn't need temps or opks for that.

I'm still not getting email notifications even though I set my preferences to immediate. Anyone figured out how to use the smileys?

[Baby_Cakes]

It just took me 10 min to figure out how to get the multi quotes to appear!!  And then it didn't work!!  GRRR!

 

I was thinking I might track CM.  I know when I normally O and we decided we're just going to have normal, regular, frequent sex and see what happens.  I think it's the bd'ing for 3,4, even 5 days in a row and then basically holding my breath for a week and a half hoping and praying that I'm pg that's stressing me out.  It's just absolutely no fun.

 

The smilies are just a mess!  If you click the one you want it'll show up in your post and the dialogue box goes away.  But they're all scrambled up and the html codes don't work for them so that's annoying!!

[MarineWife]

You have to type above the quotes? You can't type below them anymore?

Anyway, forcing BD every day like that is not fun. Also, more is not always better. That's why I try for EOD but even that can start to feel like a chore. It's a lot easier when I wait until I have ewcf. That way it's only a few days rather than weeks. That's one reason those opks really messed with me. Since I got what I thought were positives so early I felt a lot more pressure to dtd as much as possible and it got really frustrating when I didn't O soon.

Just trying a smiley. I got this to work but I don't see how to scroll through the smileys to find what I really want. They are all jumbled up, too, aren't they? Ugh. The categories made it so easy.
 

Originally Posted by Baby_Cakes 

I think it's the bd'ing for 3,4, even 5 days in a row and then basically holding my breath for a week and a half hoping and praying that I'm pg that's stressing me out.  It's just absolutely no fun.

 

The smilies are just a mess!  If you click the one you want it'll show up in your post and the dialogue box goes away.  But they're all scrambled up and the html codes don't work for them so that's annoying!!

[onetwoten]

Yeah, the subscription isn't working for me either. How annoying.

It's funny, the topic of ED or EOD... my body literally can't handle ED. It ends up painful. Not worth the pain for a chance. I'll stick with EOD, and eventually it'll work for us.

Kinder-- It really really does not seem fair when AF is late, and then shows up anyways. It gives you time to get a little bit excited, and then such a letdown. You're right though- it helps to have others at the same time in their cycles. It's funny, because there's been several months now where we were all sure it was the month, and then nothing, it makes me wonder if all of a sudden we'll all get a BFP the same month too. It'll be an empty thread! lol

AFM: I'm still confused by "AF". Day 1 was heavy, day two was barely spotting, day three was just barely heavier than spotting, and then now day four so far is pretty much nothing. Where's it going if it's not coming out? Am I just going to have like a 10 day AF? Now that doesn't seem fair! lol. And the longest it goes wacky like this, the more I want to test just to ease my mind and start fresh. But I only have one tet left and that seems silly.

Chart Here

[AnnieA]

JJ, maybe you could just try taking your temp in the AM to see what it is? If it's low, then that will sort of be an answer for you.

I couldn't handle DTD ED either. Even DTD as much as we have these past couple of cycles during my fertile period was enough to give me a YI during my LP. Ugh!

[Kindermama]

Originally Posted by jeninejessica 

It'll be an empty thread! lol

AFM: I'm still confused by "AF". Day 1 was heavy, day two was barely spotting, day three was just barely heavier than spotting, and then now day four so far is pretty much nothing. Where's it going if it's not coming out? Am I just going to have like a 10 day AF? Now that doesn't seem fair! lol. And the longest it goes wacky like this, the more I want to test just to ease my mind and start fresh. But I only have one tet left and that seems silly.

Chart Here

True!!! FX'ed we dump this thread soon! 

Have you taken your temp to see if it's still above coverline? 

[onetwoten]

I meant to temp this morning, and when I woke up I was so out of it I forgot. No dice. Tomorrow I suppose. In the end I suppose it doesn't really matter, I'll know later in the month if I odn't get a temp jump. I'm just so confused and angered at my body this month.

I've got a pitcher of iced green tea in the fridge, and 5 more pitchers worth to make. I figure I'm going to keep the fridge stocked with it, and continue drinking until it's gone, and then I'll switch to my hot green tea. I just find iced so much easier to drink. It's good- it should help my CF, AND it helps me clear out my leftover tea stash from starbucks. lol

[MarineWife]

How were you guys able to post below quotes? I tried that and couldn't get a cursor below the box. Maybe it was because I edited the quoted material first?

JJ ~ I don't know what to tell you about AF.

Kinder ~ I think you asked about thermometers awhile back. I use a BD basal thermometer. I've tried a couple of others, one from Walmart and another from some other drug store. I like the BD better because it beeps every few seconds while it's running so I know it's working. The others didn't do that and it would seem to take forever for them to get my temp and I'd get anxious that I didn't turn it on right and it wasn't actually working. Since I was temping in the dark, I couldn't see and I didn't want to get up and turn a light on for fear that the movement would effect my temp. In other words, those non-beeping ones stressed me out. The BD also has a backlight so I can check to see that it's running in the dark and it saves the last temp so I don't have to remember it when I'm still half asleep. The only thing I don't like about it is that it deletes the temp once I recheck it. I thought it was supposed to be saved until it was replaced but I guess that's what it considers being replaced.

I'm 5dpo but don't feel like it. I really don't feel like I Oed at all. It's weird. I usually have cramps and start feeling/looking bloated. I've also been having lots of what I think is sticky CF, which is not normal for me at this point. I usually get some but just enough to see that something is there. Not enough that I can feel it there all the time. It's shiny and slippery but not stretchy. IDK. I've been recording it as sticky. I want to wait until Saturday to start testing but who am I kidding? I'll probably start tomorrow.

Oh, and I did finally get an email notification of a new post here.

[Kindermama]

Originally Posted by MarineWife 

Kinder ~ I think you asked about thermometers awhile back. I use a BD basal thermometer.

I just hit quote and deleted/edited your post and then put my cursor in the white space just under the gray "quote box" in my reply. That's where I'm typing right now!

That said, I did end up ordering BD thermometer with my 10 miu test strip order. I had the same issues you are talking about....not knowing if it was working in the dark and it didn't save my last temp so I had to fully wake to write it down. Often times, I'd end up wide awake and just sign online and put it in on FF! Ugh! I really want to avoid that! I wasn't going to continue temping but with my period being later than usual, I'm thinking I might miss O day!  

[MarineWife]

Hm...it's not working for me. If I don't edit the quote, I can type below it. Once I edit it, though, the cursor won't go below it. I think I'll ask admin.
 

Originally Posted by Kindermama 

I just hit quote and deleted/edited your post and then put my cursor in the white space just under the gray "quote box" in my reply. That's where I'm typing right now!

[MovingMomma]

Annie:  CONGRATULATIONS!!!  

I'm back after nearly a month away from home & we're just over the line now from TTA to TTC.  We should find out if/where we're moving as early as Monday and as late as the end of the month, and after that we'll be more solidly in the hoping for a BFP camp.  

[akind1]

New formats are always exciting, eh?

FF has adjusted my cycle length to the average for the long cycles I have been having since baby - it has O predicted for sometime in early December - like CD 44! I really hope my cycles do not continue to be this long.

JJ - maybe your uterine lining was not as thick this cycle so therefore less to shed? Just a thought. sooner or later the truth will out - one way or the other! I just hate waiting!

Kinder, late AF sucks. on to a new cycle though!

I can not do ED either. Now, we can do 2 days in a row and I will be ok, but any more than that and it is sore. I prefer to do EOD, gives the swimmers a chance to build back up also. We still have not DTD this cycle yet, by bedtime I am too exhuasted! need to work on that. 

Hope everyone has a good weekend!

[MarineWife]

We've been quiet. I came to see if I had been missing posts again. I didn't get a notification of your last post, Katrina.

I'm feeling down today. I just don't feel pg. I don't even feel like I Oed. I'm 6dpo so I guess this is typical for me. I said before that I would probably feel this way from 4-6dpo. I'll start piac tomorrow. I think I'll save the FRERs I got until 8dpo. They say test 6 days before AF is due (or is it before AF is late?). If my lp is 13 days long, that would be 14-6=8, right? Is AF late if she doesn't show the morning you expect or not until the next day? Then it might be that I should wait until 9dpo. Man, I overthink things.

I know the feeling about being too tired to dtd once bedtime comes. I really have to force myself to wake back up after getting the LOs to sleep. I think that if I weren't hoping for a pg, we would probably never dtd. We haven't since I Oed because I stopped making it happen. My dh has just been falling asleep every night even though he's leaving for a month.

[onetwoten]

Does it count as studying still if I'm on a message board?

I was reading through my course notes today in anthropology if illness, and the irony just jumped out at me. I had to share.

 Martin notes that menstruation is commonly described within the medical community in terms of its' function as a means for pregnancy. If reproduction does not occur, then menstruation is viewed as failure or loss. If pregnancy does not occur, disintegration begins and all the material built up to nourish a fetus is shed. This description depicts a production system that has failed. Medical textbooks use terms like degneerate, decline, lack, weakened, deteriorate, and discharge. Martin suggests that these terms are not neutral, they convey failure. She provides examples of descriptions of other systems and processes described in medical texts that do not use this type of imagery.

 It's interesting reading anyways, and makes you think about how it affects how each of us feel. I mean isn't there that great feeling of failure each month, you get your period like a reminder that you 'couldn't' conceive. And I mean yes, when you're trying to get pregnant it's about the baby, and not just society at large, but I know I've heard a lot of women who weren't even trying to get pregnant that still said getting their period each month felt like failure somehow anyways. It's true, that society really does word it often in terms of success or failure- what your body is doing, or can't do or hasn't done. Food for thought anyways.

[akind1]

what food for thought! Even when we aren't specifically trying, it has always seemed sad to me when I get :af. Depending on when I O I may be looking at one more month of avoiding, DH really wants the baby to be born once he is done with school which is the first week of September. If I O when FF says I will O, that won't be a problem, I think. However I had a big temp dip this morning which often means I will O in the next day or two (but not always) . . .so who knows? I told him it is up to him. The way I figure it, even if we did have a baby in August, I would be on maternity leave then anyway, so what's the problem?

MW: PIAC whenever you are ready! will Monday be 8 DPO?

I need to study on CP, now that I have it figured out how to feel it, I need to be able to interpret it. one more piece to the puzzle.