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post #261 of 429

MW - everything looks fantastic for you! I think once you get past these first hurdles, the pregnancy will fly!

 

Carrie and KInder, yay for O, or at least O soon! get BD'ing!

 

I forgot to temp this morning . . . but that's ok. I  will get back on the horse tomorrow. CF is leaning towards watery, but my baseline seems to be creamy. according to FF I have another 2 weeks until I O.

 

Baby boy is ONE today! can't believe it! I am so lucky to have him, and he has been such a joy. On one hand, it is like I have such a great kid, why mess with perfect? but on the other hand, how can you not want more of that? I told DH I wish I could give him a big brother or sister, he so loves to follow around the big kids! but unless we adopt, that is just not possible!

 

hope everyone has a great weekend with lots of action! we need to work on that . . .

post #262 of 429
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Haha, Carrie. I adjusted one temp that was taken an hour and a half earlier so that it would look triphasic.

 

Katrina ~ I had to get up early this morning for Tae Kwon Do testing so I forgot to temp. Aargh! No biggie, though. I probably should stop temping anyway. I can't decide whether to stop now or continue until I get to 19dpo just because that's when the temps make it official.

 

So...an 18yo girl that I know stopped by yesterday to tell me she is 6 months pg. She had some questions about pg stuff. Her boyfriend is a complete loser. I've been debating whether or not to talk to her about him. She works and goes to community college while he has sketchy jobs and always gets fired. She said she'll have to continue working because she pays the rent and can't rely on her BF. If she's already going to have to take care of herself and a baby, she doesn't need a bum of a guy to take care of, too.

 

I sent her home with a bunch of pregnancy, childbirth, breastfeeding and parenting books. I wonder if it will make a difference with someone so young. That sort of thing made a difference for me but I had the support of my family. Her family is horrible. I don't think she even knows who her father is. She's had something like 5 or 7 stepfathers, most of whom were abusive. Her mother is an alcoholic and probably a drug addict. Her grandmother is a religious nut who tells them all they are horrible sinners and are going to hell every day. They are all just nuts. I told my son that if she ditches the BF and needs somewhere to stay, she can live with us and just go to school. She wouldn't have to worry about working as long as she gets welfare/child support and food stamps. She gets extra money from her school grants. Anyway, I'm rambling now.

post #263 of 429
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Katrina ~ I just realizes I didn't say happy birthday to your little boy! 1 year old, very exciting!

 

I've been sitting here for probably a half hour staring at the November Pregnant after Loss thread. I want to join and think I should but I just can't. I'm scared. I keep checking my hpts and trying to compare the lines to tests from my other pgs. At first I thought I had hit a milestone because my test today was definitely darker than yesterdays and I thought that didn't happen in August. I was wrong, though. I didn't note my tests not getting darker until 19dpo. I don't know how to relax, like that one nurse said. I can't do it. I keep trying to keep my thoughts positive and not dwell on the bad stuff that could happen. That stuff keeps popping back into my head, though. All I want to do is go to sleep, not because I'm tired but because at least I'll get a reprieve from the anxiety.

post #264 of 429

Oh, MW.  Huge hugs!!  I can't even begin to imagine how stressful this must be for you.  Just try to stay positive.  You are pregnant and this little soul really wants to join your family.  Have faith that it can and will.  I don't know if that helps you or makes it harder -- but I just feel like you've got this.  Its going to happen this time.  I feel it.  sticky.gif

 

AFM - Positive opk today!!  Woo hoo!! I can't seem to figure out how to post a picture.  I tried, lol, but a link will have to do.  Haha.  Anyway, we'll take full advantage tonight.  We skipped last night b/c I was so tired and DD is sick.  Oh - she possibly (probably) has a UTI.  How strange!  The dr said if the test comes back positive poor DD will have to have a catheter with dye and u/s.  Ugh, I'm thinking that we'll treat this one and then if it happens again we'll pursue that route.  I just can't imagine putting DD thru something so invasive for one uti.  It's not like she's ever had one before.  

 

Katrina - Happy belated first birthday to Gabriel!!  How quickly the year went by, right!? 


Edited by Baby_Cakes - 11/21/10 at 12:01pm
post #265 of 429
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  I just can't imagine putting DD thru something so invasive for one uti.  It's not like she's ever had one before.  

 

 



Try homeopathic Cantharis. Works every time for UTIs where there is a "burning" before and after urination. Give her a few doses of 30C and I bet you won't have to deal with AB or a catheter!

 

AFM- I still haven't ovulated yet. I had some dark + opks last night and one that is still fairly dark this morning....I'll probably O today! Funny thing today....at church we sat in a different area and when I looked down in the pew in front of us, the baby name I've been dreaming about for years was there on a golden plaque honoring someone! How weird! I smiled at DH and said it's a "sign"! 

He rolled his eyes of course! 

post #266 of 429

Thanks kinder. I've never truly gotten into homeopathics.  It's something that does interest me though.  

 

DD's result was negative but I still have a kiddo who says it hurts when she pees.  I just gave her a sitz bath and added some ACV.  She says she's better but eh, we'll see what happens.  I'll take her back to the dr tmw if she's still hurting.  Luckily she's fine otherwise.  Just strange.

post #267 of 429
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Carrie ~ Thanks. It's nice just to be able to talk about my anxiety. It's hard because there's nothing I can do with it all. I just have to wait and hope and be positive.

 

What would the catheter and dye be for? I've never had an UTI so I have no idea what is normally done for that.

 

Yay for the + opks!

 

katrina ~ That is cool. I'd call it a sign, too.

post #268 of 429

They want to make sure the infection/urine isn't traveling up into her kidneys.  I've never heard of it being done for adults, but apparently in young girls there can be a defect the valve between the kidneys and the tube that allows urine to flow backwards.  If that's the case surgery is required.  But, again - for ONE uti I just don't see that being the issue.    She's still in a lot of pain so I'm going to take her back in tmw.  Not sure what they'll recommend.  Kinda stressing over it, to be honest.  I feel terrible for DD -- she's refusing to drink and scared to pee.  :-(

 

Katrina - I'd also totally call that a sign!! If there ever was one, that's it!!

post #269 of 429
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OIC, Carrie. But they said she doesn't have an UTI, anyway, right? What do you supposed it could be? Poor little girl. :(

post #270 of 429
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Katrina ~ I just realizes I didn't say happy birthday to your little boy! 1 year old, very exciting!

 

I've been sitting here for probably a half hour staring at the November Pregnant after Loss thread. I want to join and think I should but I just can't. I'm scared. I keep checking my hpts and trying to compare the lines to tests from my other pgs. At first I thought I had hit a milestone because my test today was definitely darker than yesterdays and I thought that didn't happen in August. I was wrong, though. I didn't note my tests not getting darker until 19dpo. I don't know how to relax, like that one nurse said. I can't do it. I keep trying to keep my thoughts positive and not dwell on the bad stuff that could happen. That stuff keeps popping back into my head, though. All I want to do is go to sleep, not because I'm tired but because at least I'll get a reprieve from the anxiety.

 

I know what you mean MW. I'm trying to get involved in the July DDC group but mostly I'm just staying in the PAL thread. I had to go to the ER on Thursday night because I had bright red bleeding. They were able to see the baby but no heartbeat yet. I go back on Tuesday for another scan to see if the baby is developing. I'm terrified right now. I'm still having brown discharge but I haven't had any bright red blood since Thursday night. I'm terrified every time I go to the bathroom.
 

post #271 of 429
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Oh no, Annie! ((hugs)) FWIW, I just read that 60% of all pgs have bleeding but only 10% of those result in m/c. It's weird to think that bleeding is more common than not in healthy pgs but it is. 5w4d is too early to see a heartbeat. The fact that they saw the baby is a good thing.

 

When I m/ced in August I was just about where you are. All we saw on my u/s was a tiny, shriviled (I can't figure out how to spell that word. :lol) up sac that measured way behind.

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Well when they did the scan, I was 5w1d but my hcg was 8,191 so I thought we should be able to see the heartbeat. Also, the tech but the date more around 4 weeks rather than 5 weeks so that stressed me out as well. But he did say that the gestational sac was well-formed so I guess that's a good thing. Thanks for the hugs and the words of encouragement. I saw my OB on Friday and he seemed unconcerned about the bleeding. I'm anxious to see if there has been any development when we do the scan on Tuesday.

post #273 of 429
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Those measurements can be off. They are very subjective. That's only a few days, too. I hope you get good news on Tuesday.

post #274 of 429

that was Kinder with the name sign - :) I haven't had any yet, signs, that is!

 

Gabe's big birthday bash went well, everyone showed up, we had great weather, and it was a lot of fun. The kids seemed to have the most fun just running and jumping in the leaves.

 

Annie, hugs and sticky vibes to you! ITA w/ MW - scans aren't perfect, they are only a tool, read by human eyes. seeing the heartbeat would be reassuring though, maybe your next one will show that.

 

MW - hang in there, I have good feelings about this bean!

 

Carrie, it seems odd to be that aggressive about a single UTI. if they were chronic, then maybe. to you already have her drinking the cranberry juice, etc?

 

Nothing new here, still waiting to O. my temps are pretty much a flat line, the days I am slightly earlier, they are a little lower, but well within what is normal for me.

 

- Katrina

post #275 of 429
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Oops, Katrina and Kinder. Sorry about that. I must have gotten my Ks mixed up.

 

My hpts are still getting darker. I feel good about that compared to when I was pg in July/August. They had definitely stopped getting darker by now. I'm driving myself crazy starting at all my hpt pics. I wish I had better ones. They old ones are so blurry I can't really compare them. Thank goodness I have my notes for which days they stopped darkening.

 

Annie ~ I can't find those darn websites I found before when I was searching hCG levels and heartbeat. I do remember there was a big range and a lot of overlap of what's normal at different times and when you will usually see fetal development, heartbeat and such.

post #276 of 429

Thanks for looking MW. I'm feeling more hopeful this morning. The brown spotting that I had throughout the weekend seems to have stopped this morning. Also I haven't had any cramping since Saturday. So now I just have to make it until tomorrow afternoon and then we'll get another peek at the baby.

 

ETA: Getting a UTI in a toddler girl can be a big problem. Both of my DSD's were hospitalized as toddlers from a UTI. They both seemed to get it around 18 months old and the doctors suggested doing the dye test as well. They didn't get another one after that so I don't think they ended up doing the dye test on either girl.

post #277 of 429
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Annie ~ I'm glad you are feeling more hopeful. I can't remember if I told you this but I went to the ER when I was 5w4d pg with ds2 for bright red, clotty bleeding. On the u/s we saw the amniotic sac and a fetal pole but no yolk sac. The ER doc told me I would miscarry and needed a D&C but also told me to wait until Monday (this was a Thursday) and go for a follow-up at the OB clinic. I spent the next 4 days in bed crying. When I went for that follow-up, I was 6w1d (that's right, isn't it?). We saw the heartbeat. I don't remember what my hCG was but it was really high.

post #278 of 429

*hugs* Annie. I can't imagine how hard and stressful that must be right now. Keeping hoping though, it sounds like the signs are all good, and besides, what are you without hope?

 

I think I've mentioned it before, but I write in an online journal, and I got a note on an entry a few weeks back, actually from a ready who is also here on MDC, that really hit me, she said

 

"It's hard and it's only going to get harder and more empty feeling every 2 weeks. Those 7 months it took to get Xander were the worst emotional roller coaster I've ever been on. Embrace how much it hurts and keep yourself productively busy. *BIG HUG* It will happen one day, I promise!"

 

And it's funny, but it helped a lot, because in a lot of ways it was the first time someone had actually said it was okay to be emotional about all of it. So much of the time we're 'told' that getting pregnant is just supposed to be this quiet thing where you don't really talk about it or feel it until it's public. But that's not realistic. And so I'm trying to embrace the idea of just FEELING it. Whatever it is, if it's fanaticly happy and hopeful, or if it's tuck myself in bed all weekend and mope-- I'm just allowing myself to embrace the feelings and emotions, and reminding myself that it's ok and I'm allowed to. It's funny, but it's made this month so much easier. I think that's part of why I've been absent. I keep reading every post, but it was working nicely for me to be back from it a bit, with my own emotions.

 

I'm pretty sure I o'ed yesterday, and we held back from dtd just for the sole purpose of getting pregnant. I don't want to look back on a pregnancy and think "yeah i didn't even want to have sex, but we forced ourselves to anyways." it's just something I'm trying to avoid, so I'm glad I stuck with that, as we've been getting a little bit more antsy with it than I wanted. We didn't have a great timing month at all, somehow it feels like the month just started, and I don't know where time went, so I'm somehow ok with it. If it doesn't happen this month, maybe next. So now the waiting time starts, however I have plenty to keep myself. Also, I think having a barel readable chart should help me for a few less days of freakout. Next week would be perfectly timed for me to start my maniacal planning and squeeing. lol.

 

Anyways, I just wanted to update everything, I'm not sure if I'll keep updating or if I'll wait some more time. I guess we'll see how I feel!

 

And for good measure:

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post #279 of 429

So my temp is not reflecting ovulation. I'm almost certain I had ovulation pain late last night (9 pm'ish)....is it too early to show up on my chart (temp-wise)? This is only my 2nd month charting with temps and all that. I don't know what's normal! I know in the past I felt O on the day of the temp dip (day of O). 

 

My Ovulation Chart

(too lazy to figure out how to make it a pic in my post!)

 

Also, this might sound terrible but I just found out last night that semen never enters the uterus. I always thought if your cervix is "open", then the semen gets in. Turns out it's only the sperm that are "allowed" through the cervix. Seriously! I must have been asleep in 4th grade sex ed class! duh.gif I've had a few kids and I still don't even know how it all happens! 

post #280 of 429
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 And so I'm trying to embrace the idea of just FEELING it. 



Agreed! Always best to let emotions run through and out instead of avoiding them...they'll find a way out somehow! It does look like you probably o'ed! Watch this be your month---the one month you put less emotional effort into the whole shebang! 

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