Originally Posted by velochic
Playing devil's advocate here... what if the venue where the child wanted to have her party had a limited number allowed? Sometimes, it's $X for the first 5 kids, then $X additional whether you have 6 or 10. That is, she would have had to pay for 5 additional kids if even 1 was added.
Or, what about the number of seats in the parent's vehicle? They could safely transport X number of kids. Or she just didn't want to invite your dd? Or she just forgot to invite her?
And if there is someone my dd doesn't want at her party, I would COMPLETELY respect her about that. I don't want people *I* don't like at my birthday parties. Why is it any different for a child?
It's difficult to be excluded, but it's a part of life and a valuable lesson. You can and will be the only one left out at times. It's tough, but something that at some point has to be addressed. Now's a great time in your case.
I don't agree with this. I think in a bigger class it's understandable, but would you really invite two of your co-workers if you only had three? I wouldn't. I would invite all of them or figure out a way to do it diplomatically.
And with small children, there's really no way to be diplomatic.
I also think there's nothing wrong with men having a "guys' night" and women having a "gals' night" or having an all-boy or all-girl birthday party IF!
(1) It's not just one or two people, or let's say a very small minority being excluded;
(2) It is not used as an excuse to discuss business matters without the opposite sex, i.e. conspire;
(3) It's done in good humor and there are opportunities to do things together if co-workers or classmates agree.
I mean... sometimes you wanna talk girl stuff, and sometimes guys just really don't want to hear it, and I can respect that, LOL!
OP, I would be sad, too, and no, I would never do that. I understand that children at that age are very sensitive and there's no use in excluding ONE PERSON. I want to raise my kids with a "we're all in this together" spirit and I don't like excluding.