I was at my MW appointment today- seeing the same CNM I've seen all along.
The same CNM that wrote in my file "baby's sex is a surprise."
While she was checking the heartbeat, it was in the upper 150s. We had joked around before that the ol' wives' tale must be wrong, because DD's was never above 130 (the old girls are high, boys are low thing). Anyway, today she says- 160- man, he's really excited today. I assume she's just using the pronoun- until she goes on to say that I must have "backwards babies." It still didn't sink in.
We go over my birth plan. She doesn't read every line out loud, but SURELY she read the line "Please allow Brett (husband) to announce baby's sex."
At the end, she says, "Oh, by the way, have you decided what you're naming him? I always like to write that down." Insert my shocked looked here. Then she goes, "Oh, I get it- the name is a surprise."
NO, NO, NO- the name isn't the surprise. And you just ruined it for me. And I was too hurt to say anything.
I feel like I was robbed. I am soooo disappointed- not that it's a boy, but I didn't hear it from DH. That was my absolute favorite part of DD's birth.
I did tell DH what had happened, and offered to keep it a secret. But he decided to ask me anyway, and he's really excited- he totally wanted a boy. But I can't help but feel it would have been even cooler had we been surprised at the birth- he's been convinced all along that this little one was a girl, too.
We're not telling anyone IRL, so I guess I just needed to vent.
The same CNM that wrote in my file "baby's sex is a surprise."
While she was checking the heartbeat, it was in the upper 150s. We had joked around before that the ol' wives' tale must be wrong, because DD's was never above 130 (the old girls are high, boys are low thing). Anyway, today she says- 160- man, he's really excited today. I assume she's just using the pronoun- until she goes on to say that I must have "backwards babies." It still didn't sink in.
We go over my birth plan. She doesn't read every line out loud, but SURELY she read the line "Please allow Brett (husband) to announce baby's sex."
At the end, she says, "Oh, by the way, have you decided what you're naming him? I always like to write that down." Insert my shocked looked here. Then she goes, "Oh, I get it- the name is a surprise."
NO, NO, NO- the name isn't the surprise. And you just ruined it for me. And I was too hurt to say anything.
I feel like I was robbed. I am soooo disappointed- not that it's a boy, but I didn't hear it from DH. That was my absolute favorite part of DD's birth.
I did tell DH what had happened, and offered to keep it a secret. But he decided to ask me anyway, and he's really excited- he totally wanted a boy. But I can't help but feel it would have been even cooler had we been surprised at the birth- he's been convinced all along that this little one was a girl, too.
We're not telling anyone IRL, so I guess I just needed to vent.
I'm sorry mama. That's really frustrating and such a let down. I'd be upset too. 
Congratulations on the boy, though; and I tihnk it's smart you're not telling anyone else IRL. You'll have to tell us what becomes your favorite part for this birth!
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