Well, I guess I'll go against the norm here. I'm a social birther
For me, interacting w/ people during my labor helps me move things along and manage the pain better, don't ask me how, it's just something we've discovered. I've had 1 hospital birth and 3 homebirths (currently planning our 4th).
DS1 was born in the hospital. DH and I were left to ourselves pretty much while I labored. It was torturous for me, I desperately wanted to be around other people. We went walking the maternity ward halls, but no such luck. By the time my mom got there it was too late for me to socialize, I was on pit for "failure to progress" and I wasn't managing the contractions well at all.
DD1 was our first homebirth. I went into labor early in the morning and slept until I couldn't sleep anymore. We were living w/ my parents, so they got up and made a fabulous breakfast. I rocked on the birth ball while eating and was all smiles and laughter while in labor. My dad thought I must've stalled, but I assured him I was contracting regularly
I LOVED being able to talk to my family through my labor, it was a nice distraction from the contractions. Once I hit the point that I needed the birthpool, I didn't care who was around.
For DS2's birth, we were living in an apartment. I had A LOT of people there for that birth. I LOVED IT!! Let's see, there was me, DH, my MW and her birth assistant, my 2 children, my mom, my sister, my little brother (he was 2.5 at the time), my dad (he stayed in the other room w/ the children), and my mom's best friend and her daughter who were visiting from out of state. So, 11 people in addition to me. Again, the fellowship was wonderful for me. I would talk between contractions while rocking on my birth ball, when a contraction would hit and I had to breathe through it, I would cover my face, manage the contraction, then uncover my face and pick up the conversation. There was so much love shared in the room during my labor, such support from those women, it's hard to explain the connections I felt.
DD2's birth happened late. I started contracting at 8:00pm and she was born at 10:30pm. Again, I had my usual birth team of DH, my MW, her assistant, my mom, and my sister. My sister also brought a friend who had asked to be at the birth. She had never seen or experienced a birth and I thought my homebirth would be a wonderful intro to childbirth since we strive for a gentle, respectful event. Like DS2, I talked through my contractions until I had to breathe through them, then I covered my face. After the contraction, I would pick up the conversation.
I know my birth experiences are NOT the norm. My MW thinks I'm hysterical (in a good way of course) because I want to be surrounded by people.
ETA~ Sorry, I didn't realize this was in a DDC
I just clicked on it from the New Posts