My vent is with my stepson. He is 9. I love him very much, we are super close already(dh and i have only been married since feb). He is a great kid, sweet and very fun to be around. My vent is this...and I know this is wrong. DSS is not dh's biological child. He got with this pregnant chic when he was 21, felt sorry for her, and took on her child as his own, since the dad was MIA. Sweet sweet of dh. Dss mom is pregnant also, with a singleton. When she was not pregnant, she would only let us get dss once a week, during a school day, if that. There is no custody papers in place, we just get him when we get him. Well lately, we are getting him during the whole school week. Again, great, but I am hugely preggo with twins!!!!!! And dh doesnt get home til 8pm which leaves me taking care of and entertaining a 9 year old child who isnt mine because mom doesnt feel good and cant be arsed to do homework/wake at 6am for school run, etc. I feel used.I know its wrong to feel this way, but I just am a little at it. To top it off, dss is super spoiled, because him and his mom live with grandma, and grandma waits on dss hand and foot. He cannot do anything himself, even simple things like pour his own milk. I do not feel it is my place as a stepparent to try to teach him to do this things on his own so when he is here I am up and down getting him this or that, and a lot of times I really need to be napping. I love him being here, because I know at least I am helping him with his math(he needs lots of help here, and nobody else does it with him) and also I snuggle with him lots watching cartoons, and play games with him. He even wanted me to take him treat o treating instead of his mom. Of course I couldnt but still, this just shows what time I spend with him.
I just feel aggravated that his mom wont be a mom!!!! I guess thats my vent more than anything. I feel bad for him. I dont want to be his mom!! I want his mom to do the things I do with/for him! For his sake, not mine. He is so sweet he just wants his mom to be with him. I dont know what I want by posting this here. I am just venting.