I'm happy for you, too, Strong Mama!
Re: mtiger's comments (for some reason, I can't type BELOW your quote, but it's down there...)
As a former single mom of mild-moderately Autistic twins (formerly single, not formerly a mom!), sometimes it's just EASIER to do everything yourself, than to deal with all the added time and sometimes-frustrating incompetence of kids doing things for themselves, when they have special challenges (like mine) or they just have no internal motivation (like Strong Mama's step-son). Many times, I have to consciously remind myself that doing everything myself is more about MY convenience and not always good parenting. If I never let go and let THEN do things (even if it's worse than I would do), they'll never be independent of me. And they have to become as independent as they're capable of being, to keep feeling good about themselves. But life is busy and sometimes I FORGET to remind myself. So, I'm sure the same thing goes on, with other parents. It's not always intentional.
On the other hand, sometimes parents (especially mothers) do things for their kids (way past the age when the kids should be doing those things themselves), because they want to ensure they remain *needed*, which is a really troublesome dynamic, indeed!
That is excellent! I am always somewhat taken aback when I run across kids, who are incapable of even the smallest bit of independent action. A friend has a 19yo nephew who can't make tuna salad because his Mom doesn't let him. Uuuuhhh... oooookay.
Personally, I want my kids to know how to do the basics of caring for themselves. They can both do laundry, clean, cook. Know the basics of some home repairs (i.e. how to stop a running toilet, etc) and car repair (how to change the oil, change a tire, etc). Basic, important stuff people need to know.