I have 5 boys of my own...when the first three boys were born, I was very much bullied into letting "them" ( meaning Dr.'s , my DH and my MIL) have it done. I had no back bone and basically had no resources to lay down an argument. When the fourth boy was coming, I really tried to educate myself and I read a lot and decided not to let anyone bully me into another decision I knew in my heart was wrong. I told DH that I would take my baby and leave and stay away until the baby was too old to circ. (at the time they only did at up to a certain time after birth). I was using a midwife by then, I was going to a birth center, and my MIL lived no where around me.....DH "gave in" and after he got the same information I did, he totally changed his view about it. It doesn't come up now and he totally is on board with leaving the boys intact.
But I will tell you, that if he had not changed his mind, if he still felt the same way, if he was still as adamant as he was before...there would be HUGE issues in our marriage. That would be a fight that I would not back down on. It's amazing how strong you become when you really try to educate yourself. It is very definitely a hill that I would die fighting on.