Originally Posted by waiting2bemommy
for those of you who have read any past threads of mine, you know that my mom and I have a fairly toxic/difficult reationship although it has improved a little over the last year or so.
I just went back and read some of those threads to try to get a good grasp of the situation before commenting and I came across this: "AND my mom has done things like call the police on me over made-up or grossly exaggerated stories she gave about me and my ds".
GET OUT OF THERE, NOW. There is no religious or spiritual reason to have your kids in a situation where they are alone with this person for one SECOND and you've already said that your mother is going to do whatever she wants even if you're sitting right there telling her not to. Stay with friends, stay with your fiance's friends and don't sleep in the same room as him, whatever, there are ways to live according to whatever you've decided is morally right without continuing to expose yourself and your children to this extremely dangerous situation.
We have tons of threads on here about the famous formula-and-other-forbidden-items-feeding, hair-cutting-behind-parents'-backs', CPS/police-calling grandmas. The common thread is always that these people are TOXIC, usually not mentally well, NEVER emotionally well, and when they are confronted or challenged in any kind of meaningful way, they go nuts and escalate the situation. Your mom might get better one day, but what she just did is solid proof that she's NOT getting better right now, and you need to do whatever it takes to protect your kids from her right now.
Years from now, if not sooner, you are going to look back on this situation and regret the decision you made to go back into that toxic mess. Believe me. The only way to make this better is to decide to put a stop to it RIGHT NOW even if it means going to a motel with your kids until you and your fiance can figure out where you're going next. No amount of saving up money is worth what could happen if you stay in this situation with your children.