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I cant stand it anymore! I'm find it impossible to stay zen!!!!

post #1 of 19
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LOL! Ok I know you all hear me loud and clear. I'm due on Saturday. My daughter was born 2 days before her due date. I have no signs of labor... I feel like I'm going to be pregnant forever. My dear friends have both had their baby boys now and I just really want to meet mine. Ive been stressing this entire pregnancy about coming to the end and dealing with a baby and a toddler. I need to savor these last days with my daughter but I can't help obsessing over when my son will come out! Ahhhhh! Lol! I know realistically babies come when they are ready and I will not be pregnant forever. Even in the worst case senerio I'll have this baby before thanksgiving. I just want to see him. What is he going to look like? How will Lucy react to him? How will he be? Will he look like his sister? How will my partner react to him?

Ahhhhh 3 days till Saturday! Omg! But it could be another couple weeks for all I know! Baby jude come out come out! Please come out!!!!
post #2 of 19
I am right there with you mama! Could've written your post.. I'm even due on Saturday too. Here's to hoping the time passes quickly, and that we fill it with happy memories with our little ones and don't get too anxious waiting on our new babies.
post #3 of 19
I hear ya. DD came at exactly 38 weeks, ds at 39....and a couple days. Tomorrow is 38 weeks for this one. COME OUT!!!!!!!!! I've actually accomplished virtually everything on my before baby list. I'm still working on her stocking, but I am WAY further than I ever expected to be. And I still have some people to cross of the Christmas list, but virtual shopping is pretty easy with a newborn.

The only person in worse shape is my dh. He wants this baby SO BAD! The man has no patience.
post #4 of 19
I've never been one for being zen about the whole thing. In theory, I love it, but reality? No dice!

I check my cervix every few days, and frankly it's kind of nice to know that these crazy contractions and ouchy cervical feelings are doing something. I know it doesn't mean I'll have the baby today, or tomorrow, but at least I know that I'm getting somewhere, right? (and I should note, I don't hit 37w until Friday, but both boys were born in week 38 so....)

Anyway. At the end of the weekend, my cervix was 4-5 cm or so, but now I can't find it...so at least I know there's progress. I say, embrace your non-zen!
post #5 of 19
I'm due on Saturday too! And DD came out at 39 and 6...sooooo. Man, I really don't want to reach my due date. I'm so over this. I've been having tons of prodromal stuff but it still doesn't tell me when this little one is going to come out. JUST COME OUT!
post #6 of 19
(((HUG)))

i go back and forth between being So impatient then kind of panicky because im not sure im totally ready.. there is always something else to finish up, tidy up, sort out.

Im finding planning things ahead helpful. we have stuff going on tomorrow, so it wouldn't be such a great day..and then next Monday i have a class i really want to attend, so baby could wait till Tuesday.. and my mom is here till Sunday and I kind of dont want her here when baby is born, so he will probably hold out till after that, right? all of these things keep my mind off how hard it is to wait these last few days/weeks.. of course its all just a smoke screen. i would be happy to have baby right NOW

knitting is also helpful to me. i have been loving sitting in front of the wood stove in my rocking chair while my LO's play knitting soft things for baby and myself. its very meditative and calming, but productive at the same time.

soon we will all be wondering where the time has gone and we will have year old babies!..im trying to cherish these moments, as hard as they can be..especially the time i have with my youngest DD because once baby is here it will never be exactly the same, you know?
post #7 of 19
Nice to know I have company. I am due on Friday and three of mine have come early 37-39 weeks and 2 over the due date by 2 and 4 days. Funny thing the girls were 'late' and covered w/ vernix the boys were early and vernix free!!! hehe No idea on gender this time so that isn't helping although if I go over I will be very surprised if it is a boy! I am totally not zen either right now. We moved 450 miles(to be close to family again) at 32 weeks and I started pre laboring at 35 weeks so I have been ready for ever it feels like! I am getting sick of the well meaning phone calls of friends and family. I love you, just do not call to ask about the baby!!!!! Good luck mommas to all of us feeling crazy and ready to meet these beautiful peanuts!
post #8 of 19
Knitting is helping to maintain my sanity a bit too...I find it relaxing and I also keep thinking 'oh, can't have it today, I don't have this sweater done yet'
post #9 of 19
I'm a proud zen dropout. It takes everything I have not to check my cervix every time I go pee and to make a mental list of what to do every time I have a BH ctx. I likely will not go for at least another week, but it's starting to get real, I saw babies in the nursery at the hospital today and that made my heart melt, and I'm officially through with everything baby needs to wait on!
post #10 of 19
i'm due on saturday too! and feel the same way. ia m so ready to meet our baby already! i wonder which saturday mama will have their baby first!?
post #11 of 19
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Originally Posted by kittywitty View Post
I'm a proud zen dropout. It takes everything I have not to check my cervix every time I go pee and to make a mental list of what to do every time I have a BH ctx.
Thank God I'm not alone.
post #12 of 19
I hear you, mama!!! You are not alone. I am also due on Saturday, and DD1 was born at 39w exactly, so I have never been pregnant this long before! I am certainly not zen any longer :P

I am not having any regular ctx, though tonight the ones I do have are making my cervix hurt! Last week I had a whole bunch of ctx for 3 days straight, but nothing *shrug*. I keep telling myself -- definitely by Thanksgiving. Gahhhhhh!!!!
post #13 of 19
I am so torn!! I am going back and forth between "Baby's not coming anytime soon... these ctxs and pressure and all that will peter out and baby will come next week," to "But this COULD be the beginnings of early labor because the ctxs are painful and more consistent and I always have a long lead-up that just never stops until baby comes, so this COULD be it very soon!"

Then my mom said tonight (not knowing I've been having *something* happening for 24+ hours already) that baby can't come until after Friday or Saturday because of big school events she's in charge of. And, I'd really rather baby wait until family that just came into town leaves... And so next Wednesday is about the first open day I have. That's also right about when I started labor with DS3... It's just so hard not knowing what is going on and what to prepare for!

And, yes, it's getting much harder to resist checking for progress.
post #14 of 19
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I went and got a foot massage today. It was wonderful! While there I imagined coming home, picking up Lucy from my nanas house, putting her down for a nap and going down for a nap myself... Then waking up and my water breaks... Spend some time cleaning the house before active labor starts... And then well having a blissful wonderfully fairly quick labor and all my wishes being granted!

Instead I pick up my cranky child, fight with her to go down for a nap (took an hour before she actually went to sleep), went to get a glass of water before going for a nap myself and find that my kitchen counter is covered in ants (which in my humble opinion are one of the worst bugs on the bloody flipping planet!)... So anyways I deal with the ants, and then take a way too short nap... And wake ip feeling very disappointed that labor hasn't magically started and I don't have a baby in my arms!

The thing is I know that once the baby actually comes out my life is going to be totally crazy for a while and therefore I really really really need to savor this time BUT I just cant anymore! Lol! I just want to see him!!!! plus I'm totally sick of being pregnant and I want to get back into shape. Which sadly is probably going to take at least 6 months or more and a lot of dedication which is why I'd like this baby to get out now! Lol! Ahhhh I'm a mess!
post #15 of 19
This baby has 3 1/2 hours to make an appearance if she wants to beat her sister gestational-wise. Ain't.gonna.happen.

Oh course, kitty's labor gives me a little hope.
post #16 of 19
I really don't know how people stay zen. I just don't have it in my DNA. I'm now, like Kitty was, having a hard time not checking my cervix every time I pee---though since I can't reach it anymore, not really sure what I'd be looking for.

I'm so desperate that I just asked DH if he'd wash his hands really good and check for me. He refused. BOOOOOO!!!!!!!!
post #17 of 19
I was also So sure this baby would come early or at the same gestation as his brother (39+2?) but now im thinking maybe its a girl and going to take after her sisters and be 42 weeks *sigh* it sure is hard to be zen some days..
post #18 of 19
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Originally Posted by MamaFern View Post
i go back and forth between being So impatient then kind of panicky because im not sure im totally ready.. there is always something else to finish up, tidy up, sort out.
Exactly how I feel too.

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Originally Posted by MamaFern View Post
Im finding planning things ahead helpful. we have stuff going on tomorrow, so it wouldn't be such a great day..and then next Monday i have a class i really want to attend, so baby could wait till Tuesday.. and my mom is here till Sunday and I kind of dont want her here when baby is born, so he will probably hold out till after that, right? all of these things keep my mind off how hard it is to wait these last few days/weeks.. of course its all just a smoke screen. i would be happy to have baby right NOW
And yes to all of this too.
post #19 of 19
I am trying to be chill about this baby but everyone seems to be encouraging the crazy! My MW says "oh, I'm sure I'll see you before your next appt." The chiro says "just shoot me an email next week after the birth and I'll find time to work you in." Every time I touch my belly my DD (who is 5) asks "is BabySister ready to come out?"

Maybe I just need to book next week solid with activities, that will guarantee that I'll go into labor!
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