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Sassy - I hope you feel better soon and they are able to sort it out and fix you up!

 

AFM - my rental doppler arrived today and I was really nervous about trying it.  I had my husband do it (my uterus feels huge, by the way) and he found the baby really quickly!  I didn't count the beats (the one I rented doesn't have a counter), but it sounded fine, just like at the OBs.  I am glad.  I am so nervous in general, this is a load off.  I spend sooooo much time each day wondering if the baby is okay.  My midwife appointment for Friday was canceled (by them), so I need to reschedule that.  I'm kind of glad, I don't like going there - it makes me, you guessed it, nervous.

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so our OB believes its a virus...I'm seriously doubtful. My husband said "a virus wouldn't do what happened to your body last night" I certianly don't know of any. I'm trying to remain optimistic. Pain fluxuates between a 2 and a 4 today, much much better than the 10 last night. Hope everyone else is having a much better night. I'm now looking at baby boy clothes online trying so hard to trust in my doctor.

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Just bumping this thread up - wondering how everyone is doing.

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I've got my fancy ultrasound tomorrow morning, so I could use good thoughts if anyone has some to spare. 

 

How are the rest of you ladies doing?

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I've got my fancy ultrasound tomorrow morning, so I could use good thoughts if anyone has some to spare. 

 

How are the rest of you ladies doing?



Good luck! I will be thinking of you and your LO. I'll be sure to check often tomorrow for an update.

 

I have my anatomy scan on Wednesday. I'm really nervous about it. I don't have any reason to be, but I am.

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I've got my fancy ultrasound tomorrow morning, so I could use good thoughts if anyone has some to spare. 

 

How are the rest of you ladies doing?


Oh, good luck!!!
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I've got my fancy ultrasound tomorrow morning, so I could use good thoughts if anyone has some to spare. 

 

How are the rest of you ladies doing?



Good luck! Let us know how it goes.

 



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Good luck! I will be thinking of you and your LO. I'll be sure to check often tomorrow for an update.

 

I have my anatomy scan on Wednesday. I'm really nervous about it. I don't have any reason to be, but I am.



I always get nervous that something unexpected will happen. Will you find out the gender?

 



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I've got my fancy ultrasound tomorrow morning, so I could use good thoughts if anyone has some to spare. 

 

How are the rest of you ladies doing?




Oh, good luck!!!



How have you been Tear?

 

AFM I'm 16w5d and growing like a weed! I'm working hard at eating well and trying to gain a bunch of weight but its hard. I spend a lot of time on the couch, even more soon when I'm done work in a few weeks. Fortunately I just got a laptop so that should help entertain me when I'm taking it easy. I saw my midwife last week - talked birth and listened to heartbeats. My b/p was 112/78 which is a little low for me. Good though since when I've had it taken before it was 133/? which is high. My next ob appt is the 24th. We will hopefully find out the gender and we have to meet a social worker lol!

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Wow, anatomy scans already? How far along is everyone now? I'm at the end of the month, July 30, so I must be one of the latest at 16w3d.

We've been quiet but maybe that's a good thing. Maybe we're all getting to a point where we don't feel the need for so much support anymore. I still check for baby's heartbeat almost every day. I've had a few times when I could find out after searching for several minutes. The first time I totally freaked out but have relaxed since. I get flashes/faint sounds of it in the background. I think sometime the doppler just can't pick it up because of baby's position. If I wait a while and try again, I find it.

Leslie ~ A social worker? Is that routine because you are having triplets so they figure you'll need extra support?
post #529 of 616

Good luck with all the anatomy scans! I'm just hitting 18 weeks but I won't have mine until 22 weeks. My next OB appt is next Friday and I'm anxiously waiting to hear this baby's heartbeat again. I really should have purchased a doppler. I have been feeling more flutters the last couple of days that seem to last longer than just a fleeting "Hey, what was that?" feeling. I still have periods of extreme doubt that the baby is doing o.k. but those times seem to be farther apart now. I was freaked out last week because I didn't think I was growing at all but it was mostly because I was staying at a house where everyone is tall and all the mirrors were too high for me to see my belly. Once I got home this past weekend, I could tell that there had been growth!

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I always get nervous that something unexpected will happen. Will you find out the gender?

 


AFM I'm 16w5d and growing like a weed! I'm working hard at eating well and trying to gain a bunch of weight but its hard. I spend a lot of time on the couch, even more soon when I'm done work in a few weeks. Fortunately I just got a laptop so that should help entertain me when I'm taking it easy. I saw my midwife last week - talked birth and listened to heartbeats. My b/p was 112/78 which is a little low for me. Good though since when I've had it taken before it was 133/? which is high. My next ob appt is the 24th. We will hopefully find out the gender and we have to meet a social worker lol!

 

Leslie - We have tried to find out gender numerous times, but can't get a definite. The private scan I had at 16 weeks the sonographer was almost certain it's a boy, but wanted me to come back in a week because baby wouldn't keep legs open long enough. I went back at 17 weeks and she was thinking girl, but again, baby wouldn't keep legs open long enough for a definite. I fell on ice Friday evening and they had to do an emergency scan since they couldn't find the heartbeat and the baby kept it's legs shut the entire time. If I can find out for sure tomorrow I might, but then again I might not. I will be going to the scan alone and that makes it a little hard for me. In the end though I'm just hoping for a healthy baby.

 

It's hard for me to gain weight with a singleton, nevermind triplets! How much weight do they want you to gain? I imagine you would have to meet with the social worker for support? I hope everything goes well and can't wait for an update!
 

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So, our ultrasound went great.  She looks beautiful, wiggling like crazy, and the doctor said that everything looks normal.  We still went ahead with the amnio.  I feel weird about it.  I was just really right on the line, and almost said no, and then almost cried when they did it (though it barely hurt at all).  I was so sleep deprived (I could not sleep at all last night) that I didn't really know what I was doing.  So far I haven't had any cramping or anything, which I guess is somewhat unusual.  I just hope there aren't serious complications.  Did I mention it's a girl?  joy.gif  Thanks for all the good thoughts, everyone.  love.gif

 

All my perfect ultrasound goodvibes.gif are going to you tomorrow, Charlize

 

I am 19 weeks today (though they think I'm 18+5 and I measured 19+3).  It's crazy how time flies, isn't it?  Did you all notice the new DDC?  I love it when we move up in the list. 

 

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Congrats on a healthy baby girl no5no5!

 

I noticed the Nov DDC too and got all excited!

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Yay for a good u/s, no5! joy.gif

My anatomy scan is currently scheduled for March 18. I'll be 21w6d. I might try to schedule it sooner depending on when my dh is scheduled to leave. He was originally supposed to deploy at the end of this month but was just told last week that he won't be leaving now until March. We still don't know exactly when in March.
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MW - I'm 17 weeks today, so you and I are pretty close.  I really hope the baby does come in July and not August, for a silly reason (I like Julio as a name for a boy!), and my son was born 3 days before his EDD, so maybe this one will follow the same pattern.

 

I don't have an anatomy scan scheduled yet.  I was supposed to have my second pre-natal (first real midwife) visit at 15 weeks, but I had to cancel it (husband had jury duty), and I rescheduled for last Friday, and *they* canceled on me, so now I have no visit scheduled and it's been six weeks since my preliminary visit.  To be honest, I am less enamored by the midwife group this time around (even though I have yet to meet with an actual midwife).  I'm annoyed that the NP (she works with them and did my first exam) pushed the fetal screening on me after I said "no" several times, ordered an A1c test for me (which I "passed" with no ambiguity, but I tried to decline and was met with way too much resistance), and did a SUPER ROUGH internal exam on me, and at the other end of the spectrum, they are unconcerned by my asymptomatic UTI.  Anyway, I just feel myself distancing myself from the medical side of this whole thing, in spite of (or maybe along with) my paranoia.

 

I also have times (almost daily) when I just can't believe things are okay or are going to be okay.  I felt this way at times with my son (he took over a year to conceive, and I was convinced I had fertility problems and should not get my hopes up...I still feel that way (not about him, but about my body) I guess).  I am on medications (for asthma and for hyperemesis) and both are very widely used in pregnancy and I wouldn't hesitate to set anyone else's mind at ease about them, but I would so much prefer to be medication-free.  But I can't function without either one.  I just want a healthy, "normal" pregnancy, but I don't think I would have one anyway, emotionally and mentally.  I have lost so much trust in my body.  It's kind of funny...I have a few friends who have or will recently have their first babies and they worry about birth, if they'll be able to "do it naturally" and so forth and they look to me for guidance.  I don't think about birth.  I am so preoccupied with getting to that point...it's a blip on my radar, birth.

 

I know I'll be so scared going into the anatomy scan, but it will also hopefully set my mind at ease.  I feel guilt about taking the medications, but I can't really do much about it, so it's more regret than guilt, I guess.  I *do* feel a bit guilty about having conceived this little one immediately following 2 consecutive miscarriages (as in, I conceived and miscarried in September and October and conceived this last time immediately after in November, with no periods in-between), like I didn't give him/her the best possible starting conditions.  But we really did DTD just once and I didn't think I could possibly conceive three months in a row (especially given how long I usually take to conceive).

 

Sorry for rambling.  Long story short, I am running behind on my midwife appointments and not feeling too badly about it.

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MW - I'm 17 weeks today, so you and I are pretty close.  I really hope the baby does come in July and not August, for a silly reason (I like Julio as a name for a boy!), and my son was born 3 days before his EDD, so maybe this one will follow the same pattern.


My EDD is July 30 but I'm hoping this baby comes a couple of days late. August 1 would be ok with me. I've always gone a day or two over my EDD so it wouldn't be strange. One of my boys' birthday is in early June and I'd like as much space between the two birthdays as possible. My dh thinks there must be something wrong with me because most women complain about being pregnant in the heat of the summer. It doesn't really bother me.

TBH, the only reason I'm having an anatomy scan is because I want to know the gender of this baby. If I didn't want to know that so badly, I'd probably pass on it. The only reason for me to need a scan is to make sure my placenta isn't attached to my c-section scar since that would preclude me from having a homebirth. I already know that from the NT scan so there's no reason that I need another one. I'm not worried about anything being wrong with the baby.

I'm rather annoyed with the MFM doc I'm seeing for my scans. He told me to schedule my Level II u/s at 22w because he wants to do a fetal echocardiogram, which he neglected to inform me of. I plan to decline that so I could have the scan any time now. I want to wait until at least 19w so that I can be sure we can get a good gender shot, if we get a gender shot.

I understand how you feel about the medication. It took dh and I 2 1/2 years to conceive our first child together. In that time we had been diagnosed with male factor infertility and PCOS. I didn't conceive ds2 until after I was on metformin and low dose aspirin. I also used progesterone suppositories once I found out I was pg with him. I tried in-between him and ds3 and after ds3 to conceive and stay pg without any meds but it didn't work. I m/ced at least 3 times in-between ds2 and ds3 and at least 3 times after ds3 before getting pg with this current baby. I had to get back on the metformin, aspirin and progesterone to stay pg. Although I wouldn't hesitate to recommend to anyone with PCOS and/or RPL to take metformin, aspirin and progesterone, I hate having to take the stuff myself. I so wish I could have a normal, unmedicated pregnancy like my first. It took me 7 years but I have finally come to accept that I have to take this medication to stay pregnant.
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no5no5- I'm so glad to hear your scan went well. Congrats on your daughter!

 

My scan today didn't go as well as expected. DD4 has a fluid-filled cyst on her brain. It's on the part of her brain that produces spinal fluid. The peri's nurse referred to it as a CPC. Most of the time it resolves later on, but it's considered a marker for Down's and T18. The perinatologist and her nurse felt it might be better if I go ahead with the AFP. I went to my current OB's office and did the AFP. They could have the results back as early as Friday. The nurses kept trying to reassure me, but it's hard to be reassured when something isn't "normal." The perinatologist mentioned that if the odds of T18 or DS is low on the AFP, then we can most likely stop worrying, but the only way to know for sure is an amnio. I've declined an amnio at the moment. I will have another scan at 27 weeks to check for the CPC. I'm hoping it's resolved and there are no new markers. If the CPC hasn't resolved or we see new markers I may opt to have an amnio at that time. I would be far enough along if my water breaks the baby would be viable. I can't bear the thoughts of maybe doing the amnio and losing a perfectly healthy baby.

 

I've also begun depression medication. It was such a relief to talk to someone and to find help. I'm hoping I begin feeling like myself again soon.

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Oh, big hug.gif, Charlize.  I would be scared too.  But I'm sure they looked pretty hard for other markers once they found the CPC, and if they didn't find anything that's a really good sign.  And I'm so glad you've got a plan for dealing your depression.  I hope you feel better very soon, and if you don't, get your meds adjusted until you do.  My sister has depression, and it took a lot of work for her to find the right meds, but once she did it made all the difference.  I'll be thinking good thoughts for you. 

 

And hey, congrats on a fourth little girl!  How wonderful!

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hug.gif Charlize
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So, our ultrasound went great.  She looks beautiful, wiggling like crazy, and the doctor said that everything looks normal.  We still went ahead with the amnio.  I feel weird about it.  I was just really right on the line, and almost said no, and then almost cried when they did it (though it barely hurt at all).  I was so sleep deprived (I could not sleep at all last night) that I didn't really know what I was doing.  So far I haven't had any cramping or anything, which I guess is somewhat unusual.  I just hope there aren't serious complications.  Did I mention it's a girl?  joy.gif  Thanks for all the good thoughts, everyone.  love.gif

 

All my perfect ultrasound goodvibes.gif are going to you tomorrow, Charlize

 

I am 19 weeks today (though they think I'm 18+5 and I measured 19+3).  It's crazy how time flies, isn't it?  Did you all notice the new DDC?  I love it when we move up in the list. 

 


Congratulations on your little girl! I'm so glad everything went well. How long will it take for results from the amnio?
 

 



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no5no5- I'm so glad to hear your scan went well. Congrats on your daughter!

 

My scan today didn't go as well as expected. DD4 has a fluid-filled cyst on her brain. It's on the part of her brain that produces spinal fluid. The peri's nurse referred to it as a CPC. Most of the time it resolves later on, but it's considered a marker for Down's and T18. The perinatologist and her nurse felt it might be better if I go ahead with the AFP. I went to my current OB's office and did the AFP. They could have the results back as early as Friday. The nurses kept trying to reassure me, but it's hard to be reassured when something isn't "normal." The perinatologist mentioned that if the odds of T18 or DS is low on the AFP, then we can most likely stop worrying, but the only way to know for sure is an amnio. I've declined an amnio at the moment. I will have another scan at 27 weeks to check for the CPC. I'm hoping it's resolved and there are no new markers. If the CPC hasn't resolved or we see new markers I may opt to have an amnio at that time. I would be far enough along if my water breaks the baby would be viable. I can't bear the thoughts of maybe doing the amnio and losing a perfectly healthy baby.

 

I've also begun depression medication. It was such a relief to talk to someone and to find help. I'm hoping I begin feeling like myself again soon.



Congratulations on another girl! Like you need more things to worry about right now. I have heard that those cysts commonly go away, it is still something a mom is going to worry about. I really hope the depression med help, things sound really tough right now.

 



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hug.gif Charlize
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How long will it take for results from the amnio?

 


It should be about 2 weeks, but it could be more or less.

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