Thank you for your great advice in response to my previous posts about my nearly 15-month-old daughter's terrible sleeping. I have decided that I am going to give nightweaning a try (properly this time).
I was going to follow LadyCatherine's advice and feed her for a short while when she wakes and put her back in her bed still awake, and when she's used to that slowly reduce the time I feed her more and more until I cut it out completely. Last night I did that and it worked really well - she went back to sleep with minimal fussing. But last night was also one of those nights where she had already woken up 5 times by 3:30. So when she woke again I said "That's it. I'm not feeding you anymore. You can just go back to sleep." She cried a bit at first, then woke up properly, stayed awake for an hour and a half, then got sleepy again, cried for a little bit more and eventually went back to sleep. After 45 minutes she woke again at which point I brought her into bed with me and fed her until we got up.
After last night, I have now decided to take drastic measures. I just can't do it anymore. I feel like I have not slept in 3 years (including the time my son didn't sleep before my daughter was born.). And I now feel ready to deal with the short-term increased sleep deprivation to hopefully get somewhere a bit more manageable soon.
So here's what I'm going to do. I am going to buy her a sippy cup for water, so she can have a drink of water during the night. I will put her to bed as normal tonight. We have a feed on our bed, then we read books in her bed and then she goes to sleep. (We've been doing that for a couple of months now, but she still cries for a bit before she goes to sleep, even with me right next to her rubbing her back.) Then, when she wakes up I will tell her I'm not going to feed her again and put her back down. I will keep doing this until 5am, at which time I can take her into our bed and feed her for the rest of the night. She sleeps very lightly in the early hours of the morning and I don't think I have any chance of her sleeping very much after 5am in her bed while we're nightweaning. I expect there will be a few nights with very little sleep for her or me, but I'm ready to do this. Of course, if I find that she is really not coping and just cries and cries I will stop and try again in a few months time. But I'm hoping I will have the same experience as some of you and find that she takes to it much more quickly than expected. Fingers crossed!
I'm posting this to help me get through the horrible nights. If I feel like giving up in the middle of the night, I can think "No, I have to keep going, so I can report back to the ladies in the forum."
I am so sick of the way being tired and exhausted is dominating my life. I seem to be unable to think and talk about anything other than how tired I am all the time Here's hoping for some better times ahead.
I will let you know how tonight goes.
Love to all,