30-something mamas TTC #2 or more - November

[Tulpen88]

It's November, 30-Something Mamas TTC #2 or more!

Our Members
callieollie
EllyMayMomma
Jonahroo
kismetbaby
Kokopelli-mana (Maria)
kristenyostdc (Kristen)
Lakin24
Mama~Love (Mollie)
Marnica
MichaelsSahm (Ann)
musicoholic
myorianna
NishaG
showurhorns (Summer)
spughy
sweet tea
tjjazzy
Tulpen88 (Callie)

P.S. New members are welcome! Just post and say hello! Please try to join the group early in your cycle (pre-O) so that we can get to know you and cheer you on during the 2ww!
P.P.S. If you used to post here and don't see your name on the list, it's because you didn't post in the last month. just let me know if you want to be added back to the list.


Our success stories!

November
Coming soon!
October
heavensearth
September
mija y mijo, slinkyfish
August
CarolinaKel, mclisa (Michelle), jr'smom


Please check out the sticky at the top of the TTC forum for a very helpful list of abbreviations!

[Tulpen88]

Alright, alright... I started a November thread...

[musicoholic]

dammit honey - you beat me to it!! Was just having a final look at the October thread (cos I left it open )
if you want to add my chart, here's the link: http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/31e7b6
(butcha don't hafta... )

CD7 here... twiddling my thumbs (well, not really - trying to organise my Christmas concert in 4 weeks!!!! ) and hoping I don't O late... I should be Oing around the 11th - and DS is confirmed to fly out that afternoon... for 2 weeks!!!!!!!!! Have to get a farewell BD in before I go to work in the morning and hope for the best!!! Oh dear...

[Mama~Love]

Thanks Callie!

Nervous today, 11DPO, no spotting, still cramping. I guess it can still go either way at this point. Temp was still up, so that's good, but this cramping seems like AF is on the way.

[Tulpen88]

Mollie - I'm glad your temps are still up and everything. I'm still holding out hope that you'll get your BFP.

musicoholic - I can't believe I haven't asked this yet, but how are you involved in music? Are you a professional musician? A teacher? Both? My husband teaches middle school band and he also plays in a big band. I hope you O right on time this month!

AFM - Continued spotting today. I just checked my cervix and (sorry, way TMI) there was a ton of blood up there. I'm so tired of it.

I'm glad we're doing the HSG next cycle, but I really wonder if there's any point to me taking Clomid/Estraidol/Prometrium again next cycle. If I still started spotting at 7 dpo, what's the point of it? I guess I'll see how long my LP turns out this time. Once this cycle ends, I'll email my RE and let her know what's been going on so I can get her opinion on whether I should do the meds again.

[Mama~Love]

's Callie, I feel so bad for you. I was hoping you'd have better results on a medicated cycle. Hopefully the RE will have good advice for you.

I go back & forth, thinking I could be & then thinking I better put a pad on. I hate this, I hate not knowing for sure.

Test was a BFN today too .

[tjjazzy]

i don't know what is up with AF this month! normally i get 5 fun-filled days of heavy, heavy, medium, light, light. this week i got some spotting sunday (like barely anything noticeable), full on heavy monday and tuesday, light wednesday and now nothing. it turns me on my head b/c i had a very wonky AF before i found out was pregnant with ds2 and according to U/S dates i was pregnant when i thought i wasn't (b/c AF had shown up)! and of course, i had him smack in between what i THOUGHT was my conception due date and my adjusted u/s due date.
i hope that makes sense...

[Mama~Love]

tjjazzy - that happened to me in March. I had a cycle, my temps dropped, and had what I thought was AF (heavy bleeding for several days, then got lighter). I even took meds for the next cycle, since all my tests were negative. I took an OPK on what I thought was CD 8 of a new cycle, and it was very, very positive. So I took an HPT for fun, and it was positive! Sadly, it ended in my miscarriage though.

So, I'd take a test if I were you!

[tjjazzy]

i'm sorry that happened mamalove thank you for the encouragement. i'm talking to DH about whether he should hit the $ store for some tests (if they have any at that particular one) b/c i don't want to "waste" my expensive test. i'm such a goof!

[Mama~Love]

Thank you, it devastated me, I'm still hurting emotionally from it. It's made me even more determined to have another. I'm very cautious and jaded now. I don't get my hopes up anymore.

I hope you can get a test, that you get a BFP!

[showurhorns]

New Here

Hi Gals-
I am hoping to join your thread. I am 34 TTC #4. I have 2 teens from a previous marriage. I was VERY young and had no problems conceiving or carrying my babes. I remarried in 04'. We got RE help as we quietly TTC before about 2 years w/ no luck. We had male factor that was fixed YEAH!!! We had 6 m/c ( only 1 chromosomal) all were unexplained. I quit seeing RE as all he would offer is IVF w/PGD. Which I thought was ridiculous as we were conceiving just no holding a pregnancy. I began a lot of research on Eastern medicine and other theories on infertility. I finally conceived 18 month later and gave birth to DD#2. I seem to be having p4 problems while pg. I went to acupuncturist and had a very positive OB that got me through 9 long months. I m/c again this past May. It was a blighted ovum (first one ever so I do not know if that was a good sign or bad). So here we are TTC again. I hope that wasn't TMI. Just wanted to give a little BG.

I O on CD17 this month. Before last m/c my AF were 29d religious. Now I am any where from 21 to 35 days. UUUGGG!!! I usually O on CD 14 (before May). Funny thing the last 2 PG's were late O CD as I was ill and it caused me to O late. I have been dealing w/ allergies/cold this month so I do not know if this causing the late O or not. I did start AF CD 32 this past month.

Hoping maybe you ladies can share some insight. It has been a while since I was actively TTC and have forgotten a lot of info.

[tjjazzy]

thanks mamalove
welcome showurhorns!

[Mama~Love]

showuhorns - to the thread! I'm so sorry to hear about your losses. I had a miscarriage in May too, I was 10 weeks. My first ever, hopefully my last. I have 6 children, 3 boys (from my 1st marriage), and 3 girls, and then our angel baby.

I had no problems conceiving any of them, and got diagnosed with PCOS/insulin resistance last November. I started young with mine too, I'm also 34 - had my first at 16, and he's now 17 years old, and an incredible young man.

Do you have a chart? And there's no suchthing as TMI on the TTC threads . We need all the details we can get!

[showurhorns]

Originally Posted by Tulpen88

If I still started spotting at 7 dpo, what's the point of it? I guess I'll see how long my LP turns out this time. Once this cycle ends, I'll email my RE and let her know what's been going on so I can get her opinion on whether I should do the meds again.

How many days "should" AF dpo? I could never get my OB to commit on an answer. With DD#2 I O on CD19 and it took me 4 ( 2 HPT and 1 qualitative and 1 Dr urine before BFP a BETA at Dr#3) ( I knew right away I was). 2 different Dr's told me I was not. I have been suspicious for awhile somehow this connected to my RC m/c.

[showurhorns]

MommaLove were you on the DEC babies thread while pg. You seem so familiar.
Thank you for your "empathy" I say empathy as only if you have a loss can you understand the pain. I too am sorry for your loss.

I thought I was over the 6 previous but lately it has been weighing heavy on my mind. The loss in May seemed way to easy for me. My husband was more upset than me. We were not trying at the time. But now that we had the loss it seems like it is time if we are going to have another. I was VERY ill with the last m/c I think I must have been toxic. I started p4 so therefore I did not m/c naturally. I started getting cluster migraines and would vomit for days straight I am talking every 10 min for like 7 days. I was about to be hospitalized. I even went to the ER at 8 weeks because I was having ab pains. Finally at 10 weeks I had a u/s and discovered it was a blighted ovum. My Dr was shocked as my numbers were awesome. He did not even expect a problem.
I think being so ill almost made me relieved that it was over. I had more guilt of not mourning the loss then mourning the loss.
My friend just had ectopic and she is amazed that I am still sane after all the losses. But the truth is I think it has lead to lasting depression. I have gain 50 lbs in the last 5 years. I had lost a lot of that after DD#2 but recently gained about 15. All since May!!! So I think it effects a lot more than I even realize.

[Mama~Love]

Yes, I was in the DDC for a bit, too short of a stay unfortunately. I never got a reason for my M/C, just "bad luck". I had 2 U/S's in my 6th week, saw the heartbeat at 153 BPM, and then my baby died the week after that, but I didn't find out til my 10th week.

Wow, that sounds really scary what you went through. I'm so glad you're OK . I can see how it would be confusing whether to morn the loss or not, and/or have relief that it was over. This whole process is so emotionally taxing, isn't it?

[sweet tea]

Hey there I'm back in the throws of the 2WW. After Femara CD 1-4, I had two eggs (cd11) Oct 29th (measuring 2.2 and 1.8) and got an injection of 5,000 IU's of HCG Hopefully ovulated as planned over Halloween weekend!

So I just ordered a bunch of strip tests off ebay and will start testing late next week.

welcome showurhorns Hope your stay is short and sweet!

I noticed we only had one BFP in October...hopefully a bunch more this month!

[NishaG]

Hello... On Day 8 of 10 on Provera. Nothing else to report. Just steadily taking my Actos and prenatals....

I also had my first young, with no problems getting pg, after he as born, I gained alot of weight and AF stopped coming...

[musicoholic]

Originally Posted by Tulpen88

musicoholic - I can't believe I haven't asked this yet, but how are you involved in music? Are you a professional musician? A teacher? Both? My husband teaches middle school band and he also plays in a big band. I hope you O right on time this month!

Kinda both... I used to do a lot of performing (piano in restaurants, orchestral and band stuff, singing in niteclubs... that kind of thing) - now I'm happy to be in the classroom It's a bit different over here, we don't often (depending on the school) have band as a specific subject (which I think is a shame, and why I'm introducing it at my current position! ); so I teach everything (theory, history, analysis, harmony, band, choirs, private lessons etc etc etc). Love my job!!

Actually, I'll share a couple of "quotes of the week" from my students in the last couple of days... Just 'cause they crack me up. I love my kids...

#1
"Miss, could you explain that again please? I don't speak music."

#2
Student: Miss, did you always want to be a music teacher?
Me: No, I was going to be a concert pianist, but my wrists are shot.
Student: What's a concert penis?

I'm still having visions of a large pole-type thing on two beanbags dancing across a stage...........................

[spughy]

Hi! I guess I should join you guys - I'm 38 and we're TTC #2. DD is nearly 5 and we haven't used any bc since she was 3, but we weren't really *trying* before. The main problem we have is that DH is on a moderate dose of effexor, an antidepressant, that has side-effects that include inability to ejaculate and decrease in libido. Sooooo it's not as simple as "have sex when you ovulate" for us. Also, I think my fertility is starting to diminish - my cycles have gone weird in the last six months - shorter cycles, shorter periods, but I seem to ovulate earlier in my cycle so I don't think I have any luteal phase defect or anything. Anyway, at this point I think it will take a lot of "work" and a minor miracle, but here's hoping, right? Any prayers or good thoughts & vibes are more than welcome.

I don't have a thermometer for taking temps - what's a good one to get?