30-something mamas TTC #2 or more - November - Page 3

[Lakin24]

Originally Posted by Tulpen88

Heather - Wow, that c-section sounds scary! Do you mind me asking how your daughters' names are pronounced?

It was scary... a true emergency, and it took me a long time to get over it, but in the end, I was very lucky. It could have been a lot worse... I could have lost my daughter (she was born at 33.5 weeks after my placenta abrupted), and I am so fortunate that I did not lose my life or my daughter.

My older dd is Lakin... pronounced Lay-ken. Lakin is my middle name as well, and was my paternal grandmother's maiden name. Addah is pronounced Ay-dah... just loved the name and it honestly didn't occur to me that it would have been easier to spell her name "Ada" until much later.

[Lakin24]

Mollie - I'm sorry about the BFN.

myorianna - I hear you on being very stressed about TTC. I have to keep myself off the forums and internet in general or I'll obsess myself to tears over it.

AFM - AF is still absent, 8 days late. I've taken 3 tests over the last 3 days... all negative. I'm nauseous and tired and moody and confused. My period is like clockwork, always comes on day 28, without fail. I've never been late and not pregnant before, so I'd love to assume that I am.

With my older dd, I got pregnant in mid-October and didn't get a positive HPT until late November, but I wasn't obsessively watching dates then either. With my younger dd, I really don't remember when I tested positive, but I was nursing at the time and hadn't started my period again yet.

So basically, I'm confused and frustrated. I haven't been charting my temps, though I am wishing I had been now. I guess there's not much else to do but wait a bit longer and test again. We've had unexpected car trouble, so a trip to the dr for a blood test is not in the cards for at least a couple of weeks.

[Mama~Love]

Lakin24 - sorry your so confused . I hope you get a BFP !

myorianna - I hear ya on the stress of TTC too. I get too emotional about it, and it frustrates DH too. He's like "it'll happen when it happens". Maybe I need to be more positive. Hope your RE appt. goes well, and good luck with the acupuncture.

Callie - ugh, I'm sorry you had a rotten cycle. How can it be worse on meds, it should be better! at least you have a Dr. who listens to you. I'm calling mine tomorrow, and demanding a referral, since he never got back to me last time.

AFM- temp nose dived today, and I'm starting to spot . I really thought this was going to be my month. I feel so stupid for even getting hopeful. I'm out of meds again, and am going to ask if I can try something besides Clomid, maybe Femara. It's been a flippin' YEAR of trying with Clomid, I to try something else.

Sorry for bringing everyone down with me .

[EllyMayMomma]

Mollie - I am so sorry. Changing meds sounds like a good idea. My dh is very easy going about when it will happen as well. Yesterday he commented that we would probably have several more kids if our youngest (7) did not like sleeping with us so much! (He usually starts out in his own bed in the room he shares with his brother but comes in to us in the night.)

I gotta get the kids ready for church and will comment to everyone else this afternoon but those of you who have a moment, check out my chart. No way should my temp be up for the second day in a row at 9 dpo, never mind my temp has never been this high. Dare I hope?

http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/2f6953

[Tulpen88]

EllyMay - Wow, sounds very promising for you.

Lakin24 - I'd be confused too! It sucks to be late and get a bfn too. Any chance you just ovulated late?

AFM - I marked today as CD1 on my chart, but now I'm not so sure... even though my temp went way down this AM... and I had some bleeding earlier, but now it's back to light spotting. What am I supposed to do with this?! I did take a test and got a BFN, no surprise. I've emailed my RE and told her I started my period (before I realized it wasn't really AF) so I expect I'll hear from her tomorrow. I'm so confused. :P

[callieollie]

Lakin - that is so hard when you don't know what is going on! Are you sure of your ovulation date?

Callie - has the bleeding gotten heavier? I'm so sorry the meds don't seem to be helping. Hopefully your doctor will have answers soon.

AFM - I tested yesterday and it was negative but i'm trying to remind myself that it was really early (9dpo). I'm testing tomorrow at 11dpo - that's when I got my BFPs with both my kids so this is sort of the day I expect a bfp and if not, I sort of lose hope. I have been so hopeful after starting the progesterone and if I don't get a bfp, I'm going to be so upset and confused and worried that something else is wrong... I just really, really want to get pregnant! It's been worse too after finding out my SIL is pregnant. I feel like it's never going to happen with me. It would be so cool too if I were pregnant this month because then our due date would only be 3 weeks apart and she's usually a week late and I've been 2 weeks early with both my kids so they'd be super close! and

[Lakin24]

Originally Posted by Tulpen88

Lakin24 - I'd be confused too! It sucks to be late and get a bfn too. Any chance you just ovulated late?

I suppose I could have ovulated late. That's what I get for not charting temps. I have 2 more FRER and my plan is to *try* and space them both out over the next 7-10 days (assuming AF doesn't show up)... if I can resist the temptation to take them sooner.

Callie - I hope your dr has some answers for you. I feel you on the confusion for sure.

callieollie - Crossing my fingers that you get a BFP tomorrow!

[Tulpen88]

callieollie - for you!

Mollie - Lots of big hugs for you. Definitely call your doctor and demand a referral to an RE. I'd start calling twice a day until he gets back to you. Also, I meant to tell you that there are lots of RE's that will do teleconferences and such so that you can have appointments without having to do a long drive. Of course for ultrasounds and any other tests you'd have to go into an office, but maybe you could find someone who'd be willing to email and have teleconferences so you wouldn't have to worry about the distance as much.

AFM - I think AF is really here now. That's fine with me. I'm ready to get some more testing done and see if we can find some answers. I can't believe I'm on cycle 12 of TTC now.

[Mama~Love]

Thanks Callie, I'm going to do that. Today is definitely CD1 for me. I'm in a lot of pain from cramps. Of course it has to come on a Monday. I hate working while I have AF.

[callieollie]

BFN for me today, at 11dpo. I'm just not feeling it this month. I really thought the progesterone would be a magic pill and just get me pregnant right away. I'm so sad.

[Mama~Love]

Lots of 's callieollie. I think we all know that sadness all too well.

[Tulpen88]

So sorry callieollie.

[Tulpen88]

I just talked to my RE. I'm not doing clomid this month since it didn't help me. I'm waiting for a nurse from the clinic to call me back to schedule my HSG. I don't know how quickly they can get me in, but I'm hoping I can do it on Friday or next Monday.

My RE said that with the results of the HSG, we'll have to sit down and have a thorough talk about what our options are and how far we're willing to go. It kind of gives me a knot in my stomach to type that out, because it pretty much means that this is likely going to be very difficult.... and, what if the only way to get pregnant is IVF? We're not going there, so that would mean just giving up. I'm not trying to be pessimstic at all. I'm just thinking realistically about this. Anyway, after the HSG, the next step would probably be a laparoscopy surgery to see if there's endometriosis or anything. My RE seemed to think that it was a real possiblity. Then the next steps would either be trying on our own with injectables or IUI, but I guess that would depend on the endo diagnosis. IDK... I guess that's why we'll be having a long talk after the HSG.

[showurhorns]

Double Post sorry

[showurhorns]

Wow I off for the weekend and lots of conversation. So sorry for all the BFN's. :group hug

Mollie- I am all for new meds!!! We TTC for 5 years and i tried Clomid, Clomid + IUI, Gonal-F+IUI. I could not wait for the next step of meds! Humorously I never had a BFP while using meds. All were when we were on our dreaded breaks. Funny to look back now and hoe the "breaks" made me crazy but yet that is the only time I conceived.

Callie- HSG could be just the ticket. I had a co- worker you went through 4 failed IVF's/ Finally had an HSG ( why not before???) she got her BFP that month!! Even if there is no blockage it cleans out all the "sludge". Your are suppose to be "more" fertile for 4 months. I also had serve Endo and conceive 2 times before surgery. I know it can cause infertility I guess it depends which organs it is affecting. Good news if there is much scar tissue they say you are the most fertile right after surgery. Not trying to be a know it all just trying to be optimistic for you.

Please let me vent a little.... I have been dissecting my feelings on TTC this time around. It just isn't the same. That gut wrenching heartache isn't there. I hope that doesn't sound callous as I know many of you are feeling that right now. When I got BFP in April I was excited. I had not had any desire before then to have another even though I knew we would probably TTC again in the next 12 months. To be quite honest I wasn't sure if I wanted another. DD#2 was a long 5 years of heartache of TTC followed by traumatic birth. And a difficult 16 months after wards ( she had medical issues and did not sleep for 16 months). I do not know if this has affected me or what. Or does that overwhelming emptiness come with month after month of let downs. I wonder if I am guarding myself as I know what may lay ahead and I am not willing to go there again. We were hoping after DD#2 that she was the miracle baby that would miraculously cure whatever was causing the m/cs. But after May's m/c. I am not sure she has. I hope I haven't offended anyone as know my feelings are to digest when some of you are having those overwhelming feelings. It is hard to people discuss this with as my friends are TTC or just doesn't understand anything I have gone through.

[Mama~Love]

I called my Dr., he's out of the office til tomorrow. I left a message though, and will call again in the morning. I hope he prescribes something else!

Callie - my heart dropped to my feet when I read your post . I'll think positive thoughts for you that your HSG comes back with good news. Please let us know when your appt. is . Wish I could do more for you .

[showurhorns]

Just curious. You might have already posted. How long has everyone TTC and did you have problems TTC in prior pregnancies ?

I will start. #1 was a big oopps and I was VERY young too young. #2 we TTC for 18 months but EX-Dh had male factor. TTC 5 years under RE care (and 6 m/c's) before #3. First month #4.

[NishaG]

So sorry callieollie.

Callie: Have you tried Femara? I have PCOs and never O'd on Clomid, but, Femara works wonders for me andit doesn't thin the uterine lining or have the other side effects of Clomid.

[Mama~Love]

All of mine were "oops" babies, I never actively TTC with them, didn't even know much about my cycles. I got too lucky, I guess. Had my first at 16, then 18, 23, 25, 27, & 30. I'm 34 now, and have been TTC for a year now, after waiting nearly 3 years for my 1st PPAF after my youngest was born that never did show up. I had a M/C in May at 10 weeks. So, we're TTC #8 now.

[Lakin24]

Originally Posted by showurhorns

Just curious. You might have already posted. How long has everyone TTC and did you have problems TTC in prior pregnancies ?

We TTC #1 for 13 months... I was 19. Never TTC with #2, got pregnant with her before AF had come back after #1, plus I was nursing. We've been TTC #3 for a year now and have had one early miscarriage. Hoping the wait will soon be over.