Should the babysitter feed my kids her food?

[IntuitiveJamie]

My children go to a babysitter 7 hours a week so I can get some work done.
I pay her $10 hr, which for our area is very good. I have always sent them with their own snacks. I'm okay with this but I was just curious if this was what other people do or would do. Should she be feeding my kids snacks (they are not there for any actual mealtimes) food from her cupboards?

[sammymama]

I would say it depends on whether or not you consider her a babysitter as in "nanny" or babysitter as in "daycare provider". If she is someone that you employ to hang out with your children (and only your children) I would say she is more the nanny capacity and your snacks from home are appropriate. If, however, it is a business that she runs, other kids attend, and it's more of a preschool or daycare setting, then I'd say it's fine if part of her setup is snacks.

Just my thoughts.

[nextcommercial]

Daycare provider=usually provides snacks and meals.

Nanny= you provide.

Babysitter= either... I'd provide snacks if they were coming to my home, but if I am going to their home, they provide snacks.

I am a daycare provider, so I have snacks here. But, very often the parents will get us something to share. They might bake, or be shopping at Costco and bring us something. It's just a nice thing they want to do. Otherwise, I provide all food.

[Arduinna]

Assuming it's safe IE she isn't feeding them stuff they are allergic to or that you flat out forbid or don't eat for religious reasons for example I think it's fine. But if you don't want her to, you should let her know.

[baileyann3]

Well, if the kids want to eat....

Does she offer them your provided snack first?

If I were to use a babysitter, I would also pack a snack. But, if the snack has been eaten and the kids are still hungry, I would be thankful of the sitter for feeding them out of her own cupboard.

[lilyka]

I think it would just depend on what you agreed upon.

[JD5351]

My babysitter is my best friend and she feeds my son whatever they're eating. He's usually there for lunch, and sometimes they have dinner early and he'll eat with them. I do pack stuff in his bag though in case they're having something he doesn't like. (Which is very little...He is a good eater.) If they're out and about and they do fast food, she'll get him his own. I pay her enough that it's not creating a hardship. I actually pay her well into the upper midrange for in home daycare in my area. If she asked for a few dollars to contribute, I'd be happy to.

[gbailey]

Originally Posted by lilyka

I think it would just depend on what you agreed upon.

I agree with this.

[MissMaegie'sMama]

If I paid a provider an above average wage to care for my children in her home, I would expect her to provide a healthy snack. Some parents are more comfortable providing their own snacks, and there's nothing wrong with controlling what your kids eat while they're at the provider's place. However, if it's a case of the provider not wanting to provide a snack at that price point, then I think a parent has the right to ask her if she'll reconsider.

[leighi123]

If/when ds goes to any kind of childcare/school I will provide ALL food/drink for him. For allergies and b/c of dietary restrictions other than allergies.

[meemee]

if she is on a tight budget. you know she depends on your money to make things meets then i would continue to provide the snacks.

if she follows my food instructions and once in while gives my dd what i call junk i would be fine. if she handed out a couple of pieces of candy after halloween i would be quite ok with that. i would be ok with junk after 5 years old.

[chickabiddy]

I think that if the care provider provides food, you don't get to say what kind of food it is (aside from allergy and similar issues): for that reason, I would probably choose to send snacks with my child.

[4evermom]

Originally Posted by lilyka

I think it would just depend on what you agreed upon.

Yup. I have a friend whose kids were babysat in a home everyday while she worked. It was a small town and the fee was low. The babysitter started off providing snacks but then asked her to either send something or pay an extra few dollars towards snacks because her kids were much bigger eaters than the woman's own children and she wasn't expecting such an increase in the food budget.

[HollyBearsMom]

Agree it should be based on what was discussed in advance.

As a babysitter/CCP she should be determining her hourly rate based on the expense involved and what the market supports. If she based the rate on your bringing snacks to suddenly stop impacts her income.

As a parent what I pay factors into my budget so I would want to know in advance if there were any other costs involved. If I assumed the rate included snacks to suddenly have to pay for snacks could impact the amount I could afford.

But then again I think of child care as a business because I have a seen a lot of unprofessional situations out there. I make sure to discuss all this upfront-snacks, late charges, cancellations, expectations (i.e. TV, outings, etc) and then have a written agreement.

[crunchy_mommy]

Originally Posted by chickabiddy

I think that if the care provider provides food, you don't get to say what kind of food it is (aside from allergy and similar issues): for that reason, I would probably choose to send snacks with my child.

There are a lot of things I wouldn't want my kid eating on a regular basis so I would choose to send our own snacks or at least make sure there is a clear understanding (i.e. 'snack should be fresh fruit') of exactly what snack she would provide.

[VisionaryMom]

DS has gone to someone else's house for childcare twice (for a single time with each person). Both times they provided the food. In general I prefer someone in my home, which means I provide the food. In fact, I usually cook and/or layou what the kids have to eat and leave a note. I don't like leaving it up to chance. Very few people near us eat the way we do, so it just makes me feel more comfortable. With other people's homes, especially if they have other children there, I can see how they'd prefer to provide all of the food so that everyone's eating the same thing.

[Lauren82]

I prefer to send along my own snacks and food. I do that to be sure they eat the things I want them to eat.

[lilyka]

oh, and as a daycare provider I went back and forth. On the one hand I did not like what a lot of kids brought So I provided all food and allowed no outside food. Then my friends kids literally ate me out of house and home and would rummage through my cabinets insult our food etc. So then everyone had to bring their own snacks and I provided no food. I always had parents provide milk. I simply did not have the room to store specific milk for each child.

[IntuitiveJamie]

Thanks for the feedback. I was mostly just curious. I set it up this way because 1.I know money is very tight for them 2.I like to make sure I know what my kids are eating.
But I have had moments when my cupboards are bare and no time to get to the store that I'm not sure what to do. I have only sent them without something once I think and she didn't say anything about it. I made sure the kids were fed a proper meal and not hungry going over and I told her that. One day it's only 3 hours, so it's not a big deal. She feeds them some of her stuff sometimes anyways, like fruit or Popsicles. She knows what my food specifications are. I just started to wonder though because if I was the sitter, I would use our food. But I can see now from this thread that it's different in all situations. Makes sense!

[sunnmama]

When my friends and I watch each other's children, we tend to make a donation to the pantry rather than sending a snack for the child.

I watch some friends' child for a week at a time in the summer, and they bring a bunch of food for the kids (all the kids--their kid and my kids) the first day of the week, and nothing the rest of the week. So all the kids get some of their food, and some of my food, and it makes everything easier for all the parents. It is MUCH easier for me when all the kids are offered the same snack (no snack jealousy issues).