Hello ladies, I'm having an unexpected issue here...
I am 14 weeks, and I have a friend at work who's 18 weeks. I ALSO have a boss who's 28 weeks. It's a baby-having time, I guess!
Unfortunately, my friend is currently really pissed at me. Here's the situation, and I'm looking for your perspectives:
She found out when I was 6 weeks. We had both been trying for a while, and I didn't ever ask her about her progress, but she is the type who was constantly asking "did you get your period yet?", etc. Well, long story short, she asked after I'd gotten a +, so I told her, on condition of not telling anyone else at work yet (I wanted to wait until 2nd tri). She then burst out that SHE was also pregnant, and was 4 weeks further along. It was a pretty happy day.
Well, fast forward to her at 13 weeks and me at 9. I asked if she was telling our boss/coworkers soon, and she said no...she is not coming back after and I think is she's worried/guilty about this and is hesitating to tell. I told her I was planning to tell at 13 weeks (2nd tri), but she was all concerned about the fact that our relatively small dept would have 3 people out (boss, her and me) and that was making her nervous, I think, about the possibility of telling last. We chatted a bit and then she said "let's not try to coordinate, let's just tell when we're ready since we have different comfort levels."
Well, I told 1 day after 13 weeks. She, of course (at 17 weeks) still hadn't told. Now she is PISSED OFF at me.
Now, I think this is unfair -- first, we specifically chatted about it and decided not to try to coordinate. But that's not even the most important thing, I think.
I think the real issue is that if she hadn't told me (unsolicited and unasked for, no matter how pleasant it was to know!), I STILL would have told at 13 weeks, before her anyway. Hell, I could have been like some people I know and told at 6 weeks! She is obviously dragging her feet, and I don't think it's my responsibility to wait until she's comfortable telling and "wait my turn."
Do you guys think I'm out of line here for telling when I planned to regardless of the fact she's further along (didn't "wait my turn"), or is she out of line for thinking I would have to wait for her so she wasn't last to tell?
Thanks ladies, I await your insight!
I am 14 weeks, and I have a friend at work who's 18 weeks. I ALSO have a boss who's 28 weeks. It's a baby-having time, I guess!
Unfortunately, my friend is currently really pissed at me. Here's the situation, and I'm looking for your perspectives:
She found out when I was 6 weeks. We had both been trying for a while, and I didn't ever ask her about her progress, but she is the type who was constantly asking "did you get your period yet?", etc. Well, long story short, she asked after I'd gotten a +, so I told her, on condition of not telling anyone else at work yet (I wanted to wait until 2nd tri). She then burst out that SHE was also pregnant, and was 4 weeks further along. It was a pretty happy day.
Well, fast forward to her at 13 weeks and me at 9. I asked if she was telling our boss/coworkers soon, and she said no...she is not coming back after and I think is she's worried/guilty about this and is hesitating to tell. I told her I was planning to tell at 13 weeks (2nd tri), but she was all concerned about the fact that our relatively small dept would have 3 people out (boss, her and me) and that was making her nervous, I think, about the possibility of telling last. We chatted a bit and then she said "let's not try to coordinate, let's just tell when we're ready since we have different comfort levels."
Well, I told 1 day after 13 weeks. She, of course (at 17 weeks) still hadn't told. Now she is PISSED OFF at me.
Now, I think this is unfair -- first, we specifically chatted about it and decided not to try to coordinate. But that's not even the most important thing, I think.
I think the real issue is that if she hadn't told me (unsolicited and unasked for, no matter how pleasant it was to know!), I STILL would have told at 13 weeks, before her anyway. Hell, I could have been like some people I know and told at 6 weeks! She is obviously dragging her feet, and I don't think it's my responsibility to wait until she's comfortable telling and "wait my turn."
Do you guys think I'm out of line here for telling when I planned to regardless of the fact she's further along (didn't "wait my turn"), or is she out of line for thinking I would have to wait for her so she wasn't last to tell?
Thanks ladies, I await your insight!
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