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What can I do? *a little update*

post #1 of 24
Thread Starter 
My DH lost his job this morning. There is nothing like waking up to the news that your family no longer has any income coming in one week after giving birth to your third child. Ugh!

Luckily, after much discussion and jumping through many loopholes, my DH joined the military and begins training early January. We SHOULD start seeing some income at the end of that month, no later then mid-Feb. So, what can we do to keep afloat for the next few months? I've read it can take 4-6 weeks to have unemployment approved, and we're not sure that will happen. The reason behind him being let go was "job performance", and to be eligible you can't be at fault for losing your job. "Job performance" was all that was said. Everyone's job performance is being effected because of the economy. And I think it's pretty shady that my DH lost his job the DAY AFTER he told his boss he was joining the military and that he wouldn't be returning after the first of the year.

Anyway, with a new baby, cutbacks, and murphy's law we haven't been able to save anything and money has been TIGHT. Good news is we paid off most of our consumer debt (inc. the car we never drove!) early in the year. We have $14.00 in our checking account and $10.00 in my wallet. We just paid rent, utilities, life insurance and groceries for the next couple weeks. We have no money to pay our electric bill, internet (a need for school), cell phone (main line), groceries for the end of the month, or to purchase auto insurance. . . we've been driving a company vehicle, so we didn't "need" (and couldn't afford) insurance. We have no extras to get rid of, except for storage. DH's company card paid that on the 1st, but we have to pay it back... they will have to wait.

Since he just lost his job I don't think we'll qualify for any assistance. They want pay stubs for the last 30 days. I do have a wic appt. next week, so I think with that I'll be able to make what we have in our cupboards and freezer stretch to the end of the month. I can sell a crib, changing table, and a few other items to help empty out our storage.

Thanks for reading this... I'm not sure if I'm venting, relieving stress by typing this out, or asking for suggestions... *sigh* Everything will work out... Right?
post #2 of 24
((HUGS))

Pantry challenge? do you have anything in your freezer?
Won't your DH get one more paycheck?
Can you apply for foodstamps?
post #3 of 24
You can apply for assistance. You just may have to get something written from his employer saying he no longer works there. No income=assistance. Go to the office tomorrow, sit in the waiting room and wait however long it is necessary to be seen. It's call "emergency aide" and at least you will have food for a bit. From someone who is currently on aide....Good luck!
post #4 of 24



Do you still have the car you paid off that you never drive to sell?




Could DH possibly see if there are any pizza delivery or server jobs open nearby? It would be cash daily.
post #5 of 24
When you say you need the internet for school, are you taking college classes? If so you should talk to the financial aid office at your school and see what types of financial aid they can provide in this type of emergency situation. Most schools have emergency loans at the very least, there may be other things they can do for you as well.
post #6 of 24
Have him talk to his recruiter and see if they will let him leave for boot early. It will SUCK having him gone for the holidays however it will put food on the table and a roof over your head. I know when I went in and when DH worked at the recruiting office they were often able to push up boot camp dates in those situations.
post #7 of 24
Okay so from someone who went through this on and off for 2 years, go apply for unemployment. Go get a letter from the old employer saying that your husband does NOT work there any longer and what date that was effective. Then ask them for the last 30 days in paystubs (but you shouldn't need them its no longer relevant.) While there apply for foodstamps and medical coverage. SIT THERE!!! If they need you to go have the employer fill out the form they provide then go do that and go back and sit again! Trust me this stuff does NOT get done without your presence! Then they will tell you what your benefits will be and they will likely tell you to be eligable for TANF you MUST be denied unemployment but ask! Bring your license, and SSN cards for ALL members of the family along with everyones birth certs. This will only make everything smoother.

you will be fine! I promise We made it I don't know how many times, pregnant, and new baby! you will get through this. Infact they will give you so much in foodstamps it is nuts!

Good luck momma.
post #8 of 24
Since you'll be moving anyways when you dh graduates boot camp (most likely) I would sell any big furniture or things you don't need or don't want to bring with you. Start downsizing everything, have a garage sale-sell old baby clothes, anything you don't need right now. ANY AND ALL money you make must be put aside for bills. If you might need these items in the future once again, you'll always be able to find them once you have an income again.

Obviously, get rid of any unnecessary bills, cable, netflix, etc. I'm sure you've already looked into this.

Start unplugging electrical items on a regular basis. It does make a small but noticeable difference in the electric bill.

Look around for any possible ways to make extra cash, babysitting, cleaning, sewing/mending, doing anything. Including dh, odd jobs, oil changes, lawn mowing, raking leaves, handiwork, etc. Not that either of you couldn't do any of those jobs
post #9 of 24
Call your electric company and explain the situation. They can refer you to local agencies that can provide assistance.
post #10 of 24
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Originally Posted by OkiMom View Post
Have him talk to his recruiter and see if they will let him leave for boot early. It will SUCK having him gone for the holidays however it will put food on the table and a roof over your head. I know when I went in and when DH worked at the recruiting office they were often able to push up boot camp dates in those situations.
My dh did his basic training over the holidays and they gave them 2 weeks called exodus to come home from just before Christmas to just after the New Year. I don't know if that is standard, but I thought I'd mention it.
post #11 of 24
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Originally Posted by liberal_chick View Post
My dh did his basic training over the holidays and they gave them 2 weeks called exodus to come home from just before Christmas to just after the New Year. I don't know if that is standard, but I thought I'd mention it.
My info is old but exodus is fairly standard, but there probably aren't any basic training course STARTING between now and the new year.

Apply for unemployment anyway - you don't KNOW that you aren't eligible. Let his old employer contest it if they want. Sometimes they don't.
post #12 of 24
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Originally Posted by Ellien C View Post
My info is old but exodus is fairly standard, but there probably aren't any basic training course STARTING between now and the new year.

Apply for unemployment anyway - you don't KNOW that you aren't eligible. Let his old employer contest it if they want. Sometimes they don't.
ITA--in reading what the OP posted I would suspect that her DH is indeed eligible for UI. Also in my experience it has generally not taken anywhere near six weeks to get your first check (two or three is much more normal).

You are in a tight spot, but most people don't have a new job lined up before they get laid off. I would make having an emergency cushion priority for the coming year.
post #13 of 24
Thread Starter 
Thanks for all the replys!

Our pantry is fairly full. We have canned beans, rice, lentils, split-peas, canned tomatoes, canned tuna and salmon, pastas, etc... we have plenty of meat for the month. We have no frozen veggies, some frozen fruit... we do have some fresh veggies to get us through Tuesday, after that we'll have WIC and we can get some veggies. I have flour, but I'll need some baking powder, etc... not too much.

My DH has been trying to find a pizza delivery job for 2 months! No luck. He has a great driving record, but now that he we don't have the company car and no insurance on our own he can't deliver anyway. Auto insurance is a top priority!

I'm gathering all of our documents and filling out paperwork for assistance, as well as applying for energy/heat assistance.
post #14 of 24
While you are down at the services office, ask for a list of other local places that can help you. Places like goodwill, salvation army, christian ministries, food pantries, etc.. often these places can possibly help with electric/ heat bills, rent, etc. sometimes even with gas $, and food and clothing, etc.

Also, ditch your phone and get a safelink phone, or a lifeline home phone.

Also, still not sure if the internet is a necessity for homeschool or college. We are 2 low income, full time college students who get our internet cut off now and again, so you really can make do without it. If it is for college, does the school have a computer lab? Could the student go early/ stay late or do school work at the lab in between classes? Do you have a laptop? If so, find your local wi-fi hotspots to take it to and get free internet. you can go to barnes and nobles, mcdonalds, dunkin donuts etc.. I've even parked outside of hotels before to use their internet.. hey it's not ideal, but can be done if you have a laptop. Also see if supportive friends could let you come sit and do homework in their living room while sipping coffee, if they have wireless..

And no extras to get rid of??? What are you storing? Storage is a total money suck for anyone, but especially someone who needs cash fast. Take what is in storage, you don't need it to live anyway if it is in storage, and sell it. Look around the house and hit the pawn shop, what can you sell on craigslit? The consignment store? The used book shop? The local movie store that buys old DVDS? Keep your eyes open- do you really need that stuff?
As far as car insurance, shop around and ask for just the basic that is required for your state.. I was AMAZED at how much cheaper car insurance could be. (and I've been a pizza girl)

Also, do you have any skills that you could use to pull in a bit of side cash? I know you have a newborn, but are you crafty? Could you babysit? Sell stuff on ebay, etsy?
When it's crunch time, you just really have to get creative. There is tons of assistance out there for you too, you just have to do the paperwork and have patience. Good luck to you!
post #15 of 24
Thread Starter 

We applied for assistance and got approved for Medicaid and emergency food stamps. The worker was very kind and pushed them both through quickly. We did NOT get approved for cash assistance. WHY? Because are immunization records were not "up to date" Seriously shocked with that news! Ticked me off. I felt like I was slapped in the face and being punished for parenting decisions. Now we're still waiting for LEAP and for unemployment and HOPING we actually get it. In the meantime, my DH has been donating plasma for cash, and he's been clearing out storage and looking for stuff to sell. Not a lot to sell, but it could be enough to pay for utilities the next couple months. We just need a PT job or something to pay rent.

 

How the heck do people with NO money make it through the holidays? I want to cry... my children are expecting presents and we have no money to buy anything. And my oldest always looks forward to helping/giving to others this time year. So frustrated.

post #16 of 24

Look into substitute teaching if you can.  It pays like crap, but it's a job.  I get a steady 2-3.5 days a week around my schedule.  If I had no other job, I could easily do 5 days a week in my district.

post #17 of 24
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Originally Posted by madis81 View Post

How the heck do people with NO money make it through the holidays? I want to cry... my children are expecting presents and we have no money to buy anything. And my oldest always looks forward to helping/giving to others this time year. So frustrated.


I just wanted to offer a hug.  We're in a tight spot too for the next couple of months and my girls are making me crazy begging for toys.  They're too young to get the situation and I don't really WANT them to get it, ya know?  My 6 y/o is a worrier and the last thing she needs to be worried about is whether we're going to lose our house.  The only thing keeping me from crying in a corner over the presents issue is that I know our extended family will go overboard as usual ... the girls will get plenty of gifts, just not much from us.  guilty.gif
 

Your family is in my thoughts.

post #18 of 24

Oh, and that's RIDICULOUS that they can deny you cash assistance based on your kids' VAX record.  WTH.

post #19 of 24

a lot of places where I live are still hiring for holiday help, especially the grocery stores.  I hope your dh finds something temporary to get you through until january!

post #20 of 24

If you have NO money for the holidays and you would like some gifts for your kids, talk to their school's counselor, most schools have holiday assistance, or you can talk to local christian ministries that give help, or toys for tots, or salvation army or good will... or make gifts, and even the low income folks can help other around the hoildays.. take the kids to a nursing home to sing carols, or to animal shelter to walk, and help care for the animals, or have them make christmas cards for the troops.. there are tons of ways to help that don't cost much.

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