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My parents are deeply offended that I still nurse my 2 yo.

post #1 of 6
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My son and I live with my dad and step-mom currently. I am looking for our own place but am finding it difficult. In the meantime, my parents are very strongly against my nursing him at 27 mo. They thought I should have stopped over a year ago. The comments have become unbearable lately. I am constantly mocked and ridiculed for nursing him as if I am committing a terrible sin. He has been told a few times by them that he is too old and they think they are perfectly within their right to do so. I absolutely draw the line there and always let them know that it's not appropriate for them to speak to him that way. I was raised in a very shaming household so it is very hard for them to imagine it could do him any harm(for them to shame him) and they believe they SHOULD say something.

Fortunately the other half of my family is very supportive of long term bfing and most of my friends and cousins have all nursed well into 2 years or longer. It is perplexing to me that they find it so insulting and offensive when it seems so loving and natural to me.

I think I could just use some support or good words to get me through this as it's really taking a toll on me. The irony in it is that the more they go on about it the less likely I will be to stop as there is no way I will stop to make them happy. It will be when my son and I are ready.
post #2 of 6
that sounds like a rough situation. I'm glad you've been able to stand your ground and do what you feel is best for your little one, despite the pressure you're under. Keep it up mama.
post #3 of 6
Just wanted to say s too. I'm sorry your parents are being so unsupportive. My parents are not AWFUL about EBF yet, but my mom definitely makes comments, and she has even started trying to shame my son in a joking sort of way ("Oh, you don't need THAT, that's for BABIES. You're a titty-baby..."). Yeah, he is a BABY actually, and he does need that. Anyway, just stay strong. I am glad that you've got some good support around you aside from your parents, although I'm sure it makes it super-hard to live with them! You're doing the best thing for your son, even if your parents don't realize it. Have you tried educating them about the benefits? That's my strategy... my mom genuinely doesn't understand that there are benefits to EBF. I think she just mainly sees bfing advantages in terms of the cost savings and that's why she at least partially bf me and my siblings.
post #4 of 6

I am listening to this online and I LOVE it.....14 other mothers who nurse their children past one year and many for much longer. Very encouraging. Would you like a link?

Scroll down to the bottom of the page to where to click to listen right online.

 

http://www.knitwisemedia.org/kwm.v1/Welcome.html

post #5 of 6
Thread Starter 

Thanks so much for your responses. It's nice to just get support for this choice and to know that I'm not alone. I just bookmarked the link to the radio show so will be listening to it asap! As far as educating my parents on the benefits it's actually not a conversation worth having as their minds are already made up and don't give much regard to my ideas, supported by facts or not. However, my son and I have found a place to live so soon I will not have to worry about it as much. Thanks again!

post #6 of 6

We stopped nursing at 21 months and it wasn't my choice.  She lost interest after I got pregnant and weaned herself.  She's 24 months now and there are SO many times that I wish I could nurse her, like when she wakes up super cranky from a nap,  falls and hurts herself or just about any night before bed because I miss that bonding time so much!  I don't know when we would have stopped, but I definitely wasn't ready.

 

It's hard to tune out the people who are closest to you, but I think you just need to be firm about setting boundaries with them.  He's your child and it's your choice to make, there doesn't need to be any discussion beyond that. 

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